2007-11-30 08:30:07 · 18 answers · asked by joswicho 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
First of all make sure you have a lot of time available. I mean hours. I'f you're tired, wait until tomorrow, and start then. You need to go very slow. She will likely be shy, and obviously inexperienced. Start by cuddling. Create an atmosphere on safety, and intimacy. Slowly discover each others bodys. A touch here, a caress there. Learn what feels good to each other. show her how you want to be touched, and help her discover her sexuality, and to show you how she wants to be touched. Do have some KY, or astroglide, or some kind of lubricant available. Make sure your birth control is available. If it's condoms, make sure you have a lubricated variety. When you both are ready, make sure she is too, enter her SLOWLY. Give her a chance to get used to your manhood. Remember you will be breaking a piece of skin in her, so there could be some blood, and she likely will feel some pain.
Don't expect that you wil last very long this first time out. She even could have enough pain that she could ask you to stop. Don't worry about this. It's normal. Be a husband and stop if she asks.Realize that nobodys first time is very good. it will take several times for her to really enjoy it. Her vagina has to get used to sex, and heal from the tear. sex for the first time is a start, but it shouldn't be the end, or the same old thing. NEVER stop learning each other, and never be afraid to try new things, intercourse is natural. Developing a loving sustaining sex life that both of you enjoy isn't. It take both of you committing to each other to please each other for life.
Enjoy.
2007-11-30 11:52:38 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Have some champagne first...Relax. You must be very very gentle and understanding. First of all, you should start with kissing, holding and caressing. Don't make an attempt for intercourse right away. I would use KY Jelly so it won't hurt her that much. If she backs off and is scared, you back off and again hold her, kiss her and caress her reassuring her that it is O.K, that you both have all the time in the world. If you see that she is too nervous that night, then wait another day. Try in the morning. You must be patient and understanding. The main thing to consider is that you must be understanding and very gentle, and when she sees that, she will be more responsive. It takes time........You have the rest of your married lives to enjoy sex and romance.
2007-11-30 11:59:27 · answer #2 · answered by cardgirl2 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Be very gentle very romantic,hug & kiss all her body ,caressing her get her to the point where she is going to want you,caress her breast and don't get her drunk,give her a drink or two,don't flip her or do things in a hurry take it slow and don't ask her to do it again (unless she wants it) you want her to remember a sweet pain not a pain that she don't want feel again, and after you guys are done hug her and tell her how wonderful it is to be with her,you want her to remember this night for ever like the best night of her life that even when she is mad at you she'll remember that night and forget that she was ever mad at you,it's on your hands..
2007-11-30 09:17:22 · answer #3 · answered by crystal 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Just don't forget the lubrication--KY jelly. And take your time. You'll be exhausted when you finally get to the hotel. If you don't go all the way the first time, because you're beat, wake up in the middle of the night and try again. Just use lots of KY.
TX Mom
2007-11-30 10:55:29 · answer #4 · answered by TX Mom 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
You guys should just talk about it. You will have to go slow and figure things out together. Be prepared for it not to be the best experience because you will both be nervous but it will definitely ease that nervousness if you both talk about your expectations beforehand. Good luck.
2007-11-30 08:37:28 · answer #5 · answered by Deanrijo 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Start by talking to her about the fact that you don't know where to start. Don't be in a hurry - hey, maybe you won't do anything at all that first night. Get used to each other, get comfortable - you've got all the time in the world.
2007-11-30 08:34:37 · answer #6 · answered by Rich 5 · 6⤊ 1⤋
Go slow. There has to be a lot of foreplay.
Some things to keep in mind though (so neither you or her are disappointed) is this:
1) It might hurt
2) Most women *don't* orgasm the first time
3) It will be over pretty shortly
Take it easy and everything will be fine :)
Good luck!
2007-11-30 09:13:54 · answer #7 · answered by kiki 6 · 2⤊ 2⤋
ROMANCE!!! Start with a hot towel massage. Usually pampering gets women into the mood.
2007-11-30 09:07:22 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Just take your time with her & be gentle you have the rest of your life so you will not have tp rush anything. Treat her so sweet!! Carry her into your honeymoon suite & just make it soo romantic that she will remember that night for the rest of her life
2007-11-30 08:56:02 · answer #9 · answered by NICOLE 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
iF you are a virgin too you may need help if you are not just take your time and it will all work out
2007-11-30 08:59:32 · answer #10 · answered by MrsMagee 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋