Simply put, does spanking work?

Answer 1

yep

Answer 2

I suppose - if you have to resort to brawn over brains. But I've seen PLENTY of intelligent, respectful kids raised that NEVER were spanked. They actually learned ACTUAL consequences!

Although children aren't "mini-adults", we don't give them enough credit. They are capable of reason - even the young ones. Seems to me that people cheat their children by smacking them instead of actually teaching them. I believe that if you spank, the emphasis is on the spanking and not the lesson learned. The child is more concerned about the physical and emotional pain rather than actually listening to the message.

People think that fear equals respect. It doesn't. Not at all.

Case in point: My brother said to me, "Watch this". He went over to his toddler son and said "If you don't want a spanking, you'll do this". The son looked horrified but did it. I said "Want to see REAL respect and not fear?" I called my toddler over and asked "Could you please do this for me? I'd appreciate it". My toddler said "Yes Mom" and did it happily. Then even went on to ask if there was anything else he could do for me.

So, who rules with respect and who rules with fear?

Answer 3

In our home it's effective and rarely needs to be done.

You have seen the other millions of questions about spanking, right?

Answer 4

Simply put...YES...when used correctly.
Some questions...
Is it YOUR child?
Are you thinking of someone else spanking YOUR child? I wouldn't allow it.
What do you consider spanking? Beatings with belts or closed fists or slapping are not okay.
How old is your child?
Over 15 months? yes
Open hand? yes
On the fanny? yes
If you are too angry, put the child in their bedroom and get a breather before you do anything.

I have 5, and there are times that talking is better. In other times, the spanking is the only thing...especially if it is a dangerous situation and they just aren't listening.

When I was a child, we were given good examples and when we seriously misbehaved, well, the hand on the butt was the consequences. My siblings and cousins remember EVERY spanking my dad ever gave...because it was rare and deserved! He didn't just hand them out at a whim!
Other times, he sat us down and had good talks with us. There were times his talks, and how we had dissappointed him, were worse than the spankings.

Ever hear the song "Daddy's Hands"

Good luck!

Answer 5

For me and everyone I know who was spanked, yes.

Answer 6

Yes it does. I was spanked when I was growing up, and I spank my daughters when they need it.

Answer 7

Yes of course as long as it doesn't turn into abuse. My mom spanked us and even after I've grown up with my own children she will pop me one if I do something or say something wrong. It is not illegal to spank your child unless you leave bruises, or marks. Besides if your hitting your children that hard you need help because something else is bothering you, and its not what your children are doing.

Answer 8

Yes it works if you want your children to do what you want out of fear. I want my children not to fear me. Rather I would like them to think before they do something that they know is wrong for fear of my disappontment with them, not fear of the belt (as I was brought up). I believe that a "whack" as I call it, is only viable when your child seriously disrespects you. My daughter is 5 years old, and although she sometimes tests my patience, she has not deserved to be spanked, yet. Hitting is the easy way to deal with a disruptive child. And as we all know, the easy way is usually the wrong way.

By the way Clara, do you mean to consistently hit them?

Answer 9

No, spanking only teaches children to hit! I was spanked, so I spanked my kids. It works the fist time or two and then the effect is lost. I know now that spanking is usually a way for a parent to vent their anger. It teaches the child nothing...but how to inflict pain. Spanking also teaches poor anger management skills. Kids learn to handle their anger the way we do. A better punishment is denial of something dear to them, depending on age. Time out's, TV, games, outdoor activity...Hitting may be easir because it's faster but in the long run the effects will tumble down through generations. Thank God I figured this out before my kids had kids! Good luck.

Answer 10

When properly applied with the correct amount of force, in the appropriate number of swats...Oooh yeah. It is amazing what one good pop on the keaster will do to improve the behavior. A cupped hand hurts very little but has a great psychological effect, usually measured by the wideness of the eyes. I would think that no more than 3 should get the message (This higher number of shots should not be administered in public as there are namby pambies who may call the cops on you.)

Answer 11

When all else fails and that is the last resort, yes spanking works. A calm voice and reasoning works well also. I spanked my son 1 time in his life. He is now 17. He lost his cool with me and decided it was time to show his independence by fighting with mom when he was 3. He started hitting and kicking.