We only dated for about a month . . but he was all in love/sprung on me. We are still friends, eventho i am getting engaged to someone else and having a baby now. We talk occasionally but never really hang out. . I also work with him. He sent me an email, @ work, letting me know i was on his xmas list. . and he asked me if i was getting him anything. I said i didint know he was going to get me something. . .and I was like " well i guess i need to get you somthing now". But what would be an inexpensive appropriate gift?? A gift card? or is that thoughtless? He's kinda a casual guy that likes to go out to clubs. . doesnt play any sports. .and hes very classy/well dressed. . but also a little nerdy. I have NO CLUE what to get him. . PLEASE HELP. I will take any ideas . . please keep in mind i am pregnant and trying to conserve money.
2007-11-30 07:46:22 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
well he is sending me a gift wether i like it or not. I dont want to be rude and not get him nuthin
2007-11-30 08:09:53 · update #1
You said it all in the first two lines. No, do not buy him anything, there's a reason he's now an "ex". Don't be the spark that starts a fire of trouble.
2007-11-30 07:51:54 · answer #1 · answered by DB 4 · 7⤊ 0⤋
This guy's being insensitive and can't let go. He's hoping to keep in your affections by giving you an unwanted gift. How does your partner feel about it? If I were you I'd send him an email from BOTH OF YOU saying. 'You don't really need to give US a Christmas present. We're looking forward to having our baby so we're saving for that and only giving presents to family and close friends. I'm sure you understand.'
You could also add that you're not supposed to get emails at work, other than for business, as they're vetted and the facility is not for private use.
Then LEAVE IT AT THAT. If you're not careful he will damage your relationship, and with a baby on the way that's the last thing you need.
Best wishes for the baby and the future. Make sure this guy's not part of it.
2007-11-30 08:28:18 · answer #2 · answered by quatt47 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It seems such as you're involved in attempting to proceed to be acquaintances with this guy. Kudos to you on that - maximum folk would desire to get rid of all lines of the former courting or they're afraid they have not sufficiently "moved on". i used to be that way, yet I have been given over it, and that i've got been happier for it. I say pass forward and spring for the genuine card. it fairly is basically some greenbacks on the worst, and on the instant the place regarding the only issues that come interior the mailbox anymore are costs and junkmail, it fairly is oftentimes an exceedingly friendly marvel to get a card or handwritten letter. in simple terms be certain which you do save the cardboard VERY lighthearted and/or humorous, lest he get the incorrect concept. EDIT: Oh, and yeah, if he's in yet another courting already, decrease back all of it the way down to the textual content fabric. somebody else introduced that up and it is a superb element to recollect.
2016-09-30 08:25:08 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is your ex, who cares if its an insensitive gift? Get him a gift card for a restaurant and tell him to take a girl out to dinner. That way he could go out on a date and forget about you. Next thing you know, he has a baby on the way too. LOL.
2007-11-30 10:08:26 · answer #4 · answered by her 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Email him back and explain that you really do not want to exchange gifts. Tell him you're only doing gifts with your immediate family. I don't think its appropriate to get him something, anyway! When I got pregnant, I became more frugal and thought of everything in terms of, "Would I be able to buy something for my child with this money?" It was a lot easier to save my money when i thought of it like that.
2007-11-30 07:56:15 · answer #5 · answered by Katie G 6 · 7⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately leave him off your holiday list. You have started a new phase of your life. Buying him a gift shows that you are still interested. Cheers and good luck.
2007-11-30 08:02:27 · answer #6 · answered by rutgersgroup 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I would email him back and tell him that although you appreciate the thoughtfulness, that you think it's inappropriate to exchange gifts.
He is an ex for a reason. Exes don't buy exes Christmas gifts.
2007-11-30 08:16:24 · answer #7 · answered by gopher646 6 · 5⤊ 0⤋
He was fishing for a gift? He's a loser. No gift for a "ex". Now get on with your life.
2007-11-30 10:55:41 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
a small jokey present always rocks. look for stocking filler stuff to save mola. he may be an ex but no reason 4 u 2 not to be amigos=) good luck with u'r baby + new relasionship
2007-11-30 08:08:49 · answer #9 · answered by xxxxxtenthousandtearsxxxxx 3 · 0⤊ 3⤋
gift card
2007-11-30 07:53:53 · answer #10 · answered by rdra62 3 · 0⤊ 4⤋