Like, I've been with my bf since 11th grade yr..(we're both 24 now), but I'm a realistic person..We've been 2gether since we were 17 and i KNOW for a fact he has not been faithful for ALL 7 years..there is no way..He's not sloppy with his sh*t though..like girls calling, coming home late, not picking up the phone, etc. But in the back of my head, i feel like there is no way he could have been faithful all this time..we were fairly young when we got together, I can be wrong, but I just KNOW IM NOT..what do u think?
2007-11-30 07:41:15 · 40 answers · asked by Fabe 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
*bdubs*- I appreciate your honesty..
*exotic81*- You didn't have to answer the question. I'm asking obviously because I want to other ppls views on the topic. I'm not talking about my bf only, I'm talking about men in general.
No, he's not giving me a reason to think this, but sometimes i just wonder (u know). like some have said i can just be paranoid about it. We live together, but we're not around each other 24/7 and there is TIME for him to, if he IS. My mind just wanders sometimes....Have I cheated on him....not really..there was a point when we weren't together (maybe like 31/2 months) and I had relations with another guy I've known for years..but he did things during that period of time also. but for some reason he has NEVER forgiven me for that..
2007-11-30 08:01:38 · update #1
All is a strong word. I'm sure there are some exceptions. All men WANT to cheat at some point in their lives, not all go through with it. Some realize that the fantasy of it is much better than acting it out in real life. But according to statistics, the cheating begins on the seventh year. On Both sides. Statistics are there because someone fessed up right? Men are proud of their conquests so they speak out. Women on the the other hand, well, if she doesn't want someone to know she is cheating, He will NEVER know. A woman cheating is considered 'more serious' than a man, because the female attributes 'romantic' feelings towards her partner. A man needs no such feeling. It's pure animal urge most of the time. A man will not leave his steady partner at the rate a woman will ( for another person that is). So it is unfair to point the finger solely at men. You having faith in your man is paramount since true love is based on trust. Live for the moment, and cross that painful bridge when and if you come to it.
2007-11-30 19:21:35 · answer #1 · answered by Starjumper the R&S Cow 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
NO not ALL men cheat. It goes for every sex when you put cheating in prospective. Everyone has needs and different interests at some point but not all of them end with cheating. My BF & I have been with eachotehr for 4 years now and I dont assume he has cheated on me. We have broken up a few times for a month or so and I am sure he was messing around then but for the time he was my BF i feel he has been faithful.
You have to give you BF the benefit of the doubt and also there are always WHAT IFS in EVERY relationship, weather its a bad or good sitiation but you will NEVER know if he has down something in the past because people in general dont like to admit things like that. Its too hurtful and the past is the past. Just as long as he is good to you and he doesnt show any signs of cheating, you should have a problem
2007-11-30 07:48:41 · answer #2 · answered by sexyexotik 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Not all men cheat--though I'll grant you a lot do. Everyone has the opportunity to cheat. I've been married almost ten years, and I haven't yet (I hope I never do). It's really unfair to the person you're with, it's better to break off the relationship and start clean than to go behind someone's back. It's a matter of how much you love the person, and how much you don't want to hurt them.
I hope your boyfriend isn't cheating, but honestly worrying about it with no corroborating proof accomplishes nothing but giving you anxiety and bad feelings. It's not fun living waiting for the other shoe to drop. You may just want to go with the evidence you see and not worry about it.
2007-11-30 08:48:11 · answer #3 · answered by Todd 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No I don't think all men cheat. There are plenty of women out there who cheat as well, so that would be like a guy asking if a women could ever be faithful. If you know that he has cheating on you then why would you stay with him? I wouldn't stay with my guy if I knew he did that to me. We've been together since freshman year of high school and are now married. Been together 5 years. So there are guys that aren't all sleazy.
2007-11-30 07:47:52 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymity 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I have been with my g/f since I was 17. It's been 4 years, never cheated on her once and I never will. I love her more then anything. I despise peopel who cheat as well and so does she.
I feel if you really love someone you never even think about being with somebody of the opposite sex. I don't even look at other girls really cause its like, just doesn't do anything for me anymore, I'm still crazy about her.
So no I don't think all men eventually cheat, maybe he really hasn't, but that doesn't mean he doesn't want to spice things up with you but doesn't know how to tell you. You should talk to him and be open with each other about this. I'm sure you guys'll be fine ^_^
2007-11-30 07:46:08 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
Hey miss lady if you think it, it has happened. I do not want to say that everyone will at some point of time even though i do feel its true b/c its not fair to say being is though there are a few that are faithful to the bone there are twice that messing around but got that game down tight.
2007-11-30 11:20:03 · answer #6 · answered by Yanni 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think all men cheat. I feel that about 95% of men cheat and the other 5% are content with their lady. Maybe your boyfriend is apart of that 5%. Give him the benefit of doubt. From what you wrote he has never given you a reason not to trust him. Just think positive and enjoy ur realtionship.
2007-11-30 07:55:37 · answer #7 · answered by Magicalbert 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I hope not all men cheat. I have faith that there are a few good men out there. I don't believe that my boyfriend of 2+ years has ever been unfaithful.
But you really should address these trust issues with your man. Otherwise, you're going to spend a lot more time asking yourself this question...
2007-11-30 07:43:59 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋
Depends on the guy and the relationship. If you two are in 'love' and are serious, then I wouldn't worry bout him cheating, you'll just drive him away.
I spent 4 years with my last girlfriend, and she was convinced that I had to of been unfaithful at some point, for the same reasons you are. I never cheated on her, nor have I ever cheated on any of mygirlfriends. She basically drove me away with her paranoia
2007-11-30 07:48:07 · answer #9 · answered by Grayline 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think it's most definantly possible for a guy to stay faithful and not cheat. I mean sure, lots of guys do cheat at one time or another, but they give a bad name to the male kind. There are alot of guys out there who will always be faithful, you just have to find them. But yeah that's from a guy perspective.
2007-11-30 07:45:02 · answer #10 · answered by Caboose 1 · 4⤊ 0⤋