A girl is asking the question
I am in college and I eat dinner with this guy once a week, sometimes it has been more. It seems like were talking about life more and more. He has been open about his past and what he has done. He said he use to be an alcholic, drugey, slept around, and general had a lot problems. And he is from a small town, and that is what people know about him there. He tells me he is changing. He still struggles. He respects my view on things and does not say anything bad about them. He is telling me he is changing. But is still known for that. Him and I have dinner at café or any other place at school. I haven’t heard bad things about him at school. But than again I am a transfer. Does he consider me a good friend?? Guys what are reasons you will tell this stuff to a girl??
2007-11-30 07:01:38 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He respects you and needs a friend.
2007-11-30 07:09:11 · answer #1 · answered by The J Man 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Here's some reality:
Because he's a narcissistic immature goof, that thinks you have nothing better to do, than listen to him talk about himself (and he may be right). I know this will be unpopular here, because many people here are too young to understand Human Nature, and believe the Best in people (that he wants to be your friend, needs you, awwwwww...)... but, don't be duped.. and here's why...
Does he ask YOU questions, and sit/listen and follow up?
(He's not your friend. To him, you're a mirror that has a woman's body. So, if he can get you drunk sometime.. his nonsense would work, on you.) Men like this, already KNOW that other men won't sit there - and waste their time with a guy that talks incessantly about themselves. That's why guys like this, seek tender/caring, open eared girls that can be duped into thinking this means that the Girl is now Important, in his life.. instead, of him just using them for short term psychological m*sturbation sessions. Don't believe me? (check back in 5-6 years, when you've been through 5-6 men like this.. and you realize they don't even know you're birthday, much less your likes/dislikes etc. etc.).
Walk away, from now.
2007-11-30 07:05:37 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Men are human too. They need friends, someone to talk to.
And yes, men and women can be platonic friends.
Maybe since you're a transfer, he has a feeling with you like he can start over. That you ddin't know him from his home town and you will accept him as he is now.
2007-11-30 07:18:49 · answer #3 · answered by pansyblue 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's an old saying in the employment/hiring biz to the effect that people always sabotage themselves by talking too much (in other words, don't hire a blabbermouth). Thus, the alleged "confession" indicates that he should be avoided at all costs (as might your overly-lengthy - - not to mention poorly worded and misspelled - - question!).
2007-11-30 07:13:52 · answer #4 · answered by skaizun 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since you don't know him very well nor his past, maybe he is confiding in you as a friend. He has obviously has had a hard life and wants to change, so maybe he wants support from you. However, this friendship could also turn into a bit.
2007-11-30 07:05:27 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would say he feels very close and comfortable with you. He may like you a lot. =) Wait it out and see, try to notice the signs and attractions you may have with him. It could be some sort of very deep affection. I'm sorry you may want a male to answer but I had read the question and I don't intend to leave without answering?. ( =
2007-11-30 07:06:42 · answer #6 · answered by Nightwolf 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sometimes you just feel the need to be open with new people in case the rumors catch up with you again. He is probably worried that you will hear about his past life and does not want to jeopardize your new friendship.
2007-11-30 07:05:06 · answer #7 · answered by Soldier 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You ask everybody but the right person. None of us know him, and people's intentions are not all in a pattern. Why don't you just go to the source and ask him? simple ah!
warning: he might think you are interested, so if you are not then let it be known!!
2007-11-30 07:10:02 · answer #8 · answered by Carmencita 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i think he likes you, and is just being honest so you dont think you are going out with this nice guy, then you hear about his past
i had pretty much the same background but im from a big city. i think hes trying to change and maybe likes to tell you this stuff for support
2007-11-30 07:05:39 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
you're very good for him. he probably held that in and let it build up for a long time and he trusts you enough to tell you the things he's telling you. someone in an earlier answer said that guys trust girls more than other guys, and that's very true. without you, us guys would all be lost. thanks for being there for us.
2007-11-30 07:12:03 · answer #10 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
two posibilities:
A. He considers you a good friend so confides in you.
B. He is interested in you and whats to prepare you for things you might hear later on if he starts dating you.
2007-11-30 07:05:31 · answer #11 · answered by Uncle Tim 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋