i'm a little confused about what to do, this guy keeps following me around at school and hugging me, in my science lesson today, (he sits next to me) he felt my leg. i have no intension of going out with him and i don't know how i should go about this. he asked me out and i said no but he just won't stop asking!. some help please.
2007-11-30 06:28:57 · 51 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i think the best approach is to tell him that you're sorry but you don't feel that way about him, and ask him to refrain from making any inappropriate physical contact as it makes you uncomfortable.
if the problem continues and gets worse, than you should tell someone older who you trust.
2007-11-30 06:34:52 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't be worried, nearly all girls experience this or something simular. It's not a big deal it will probably pass over time, but if it doesn't try to accept that is who you are - it's not a bad thing! I know a girl who came out that she was a lesbian when she was 12, she's now 17 and she's straight and has been in a relationship with a boy for almost a year! Honestly don't worry about it I'm sure it will pass. Try to focus on more important things! Jenny x
2016-04-06 05:43:50 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is called Sexual Assault.
Since he can't seem to get the message, arrange with the teacher to sit you at another desk (assuming the desks are assigned), and if necessary, tell him / her WHY.
If he still can't get it through his head that his attentions are unwanted, publically inform him - in front of as wide an audience as possible - that his attentions constitute stalking - which is a felony in some areas - and sexual assault - which is a felony in almost all areas.
If that doesn't work...PRESS CHARGES and ask for an Order Of Protection! If you haven't squawked about it in the past, the more serious charges will be next to impossible to prove. However...if he gropes your thigh / grabs your bum / squeezes a breast / etc again, DO NOT IGNORE IT!
MAKE A SCENE! Tell the teacher and complain to the principal! If the School refuses to act on a complaint of Stalking/Sexual Harrasment/Sexual Assault, inform them that you may have to sue!
Following you around at school...he may be doing the same out of school. That's Stalking.
Hugging you and groping you. Since you are not friends...and have repeated attempted to make this clear to him, that is at the minimum "Unwanted Sexual Touching"...at the "high" end, it is Sexual Assault.
Pestering you to date him. That is Sexual Harrasment.
Good Luck!
2007-11-30 06:54:44 · answer #3 · answered by jcurrieii 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Without any concern for you, he is harassing you, with the hopes you will change your mind. I don't like to use the word
"jerk" but that is the only word I can think of that best describes his behavior. You should go to the principal, report what he is doing. Let the principal take it form there. Every time the boy does something that you don't like, report it. Keep reporting it until something is done to end it. Always remember that your principal has a supervisor. The top is the Department of Education. This is a form of sexual harassment. In the adult working environment, this type of behavior will not be tolerated. It is also best to NOT let him know what is going on. He will be called to the principals office not knowing what to expect. If you take my advice, this will come to an abrupt halt.
2007-11-30 06:56:07 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to make him understand that no means no and touching is absolutely unacceptable.
You can start by being nice. Sorry, I'm not interested, and you're really starting to make me feel uncomfortable.
If he persists, tell him flat out, you're freaking me out, stop.
If it continues you need to get someone else involved. Counselors, teachers, principal SOMEONE. This has the making of a dangerous situation all over it.
2007-11-30 06:37:21 · answer #5 · answered by sillybuttmunky 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to contact a teacher, guidance counselor, or the principal immediately. It sounds like this young man has a serious crush and a problem keeping his hands off of you. What you are describing is almost criminal behavior. You should also tell your parents or legal guardians, whatever the situation may be. Do not let this go on any longer. Best of luck to you young lady. Please don't hesitate.
2007-11-30 06:34:47 · answer #6 · answered by ? 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
At first keep ignoring it and try to avoid him as much as possible talk to your teacher about being able to switch seats. If this doesnt work and it gets to tha point where he pops up "unexpectantly" evrywhere you are than you should contact a teacher or parent....because this could be serious but it is probably a boy who jus likes to flirt and wants sex from you
2007-11-30 06:39:30 · answer #7 · answered by kzboo09 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
um I would tell a teacher, parent, principal, trusted adult. and tell him to LEAVE YOU ALONE! also tell your science teacher what happened and ask to be moved to a different seat that way he won't sit by you anymore. He has no right to touch you anywhere on your body if you do not like it. You need to let an authority figure in your school know asap. Tell this boy to leave you alone. Good luck hun!
2007-11-30 06:35:25 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
1st report it to school authorites because you don't know if this guy has a record of doing this or not and you have to have a paper trail in order to make any charges that may come up stick. From there get he police to take a statement. they may be able to talk to him and scare him in to leaving you alone . That's the best way. There are other ways but someone else could get in trouble for his stupidity. take no chances so he takes you seriously
2007-11-30 06:34:53 · answer #9 · answered by blunova21 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Be blunt and be firm. Tell him you do not want to go out with him and you do not want him to touch you and you want him to leave you alone. Let him know if he persists you will talk to a teacher about it. You will have to say no many times in your life, may as well start practicing now and get good at it.
2007-11-30 06:33:58 · answer #10 · answered by Pam H 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Be a little bit more firm with your answer. Don't engage in friendly conversation. Boys don't know limits unless you spell it out for him. If it doesn't work keep your distance from him. Then if that doesn't work go to higher authorities...Good luck
2007-11-30 06:34:27 · answer #11 · answered by liz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋