I'm getting supicous that my wife beats are three year old daughter.?

Question

When I come home from work my daughter always has bruised and cuts and my wife tells me she got hurt playing outside. What should I do?

Answer 1

its possible that she does get cut and bruised up outside, however if you are suspicious maybe get a "nanny cam" and hide it in the house so you can see whats going on.
my girls are 3 and get black eyes and bump/bruises and cuts all the time! They just arent that coordinated!

Answer 2

Ask your daughter what happened (when mom's not around). Kids do get cuts and bruises while playing. My uncoordinated 1-year-old seemed to have a magnet above his eye ... he always bumped the same spot on his head whenever he tripped (which was often when he was just getting used to walking). A 3-year-old who never ever gets a small cut or bruise is probably overprotected! But if you really mean "always", then you need to figure out what's going on. Either your daughter is being abused, you haven't made your yard and house safe enough for a preschooler, or she's not getting enough supervision. Besides asking your daughter what happened, ask your wife for details of what happened. Ask (gently) where your wife was standing when it happened. If there's a dangerous area in your yard, fix it. If there's not enough supervision, talk to your wife about it and consider hiring a babysitter or putting your daughter in preschool if you think your wife is not going to start watching her more carefully. Small kids need constant supervision or they're more likely to be hurt.

If after all that, you still think it's possible your wife is physically abusing your daughter, I'd follow the advice about the nanny cam. If that's really what's happening, it's time to divorce and get sole custody of your daughter.

Answer 3

For young children it's not unusual or necessarily wrong for same sex parent and children to shower together. You see this a lot in camp grounds where a parent would have to be a fool to let a child shower alone in a public bath house. As someone else said, when a child gets old enough to start asking questions then it's time to stop, say around 4 to 5 years old.

Answer 4

My daughter gets bruises all the time. She is 2 1/2 years old and children that age are very clumsy. Unless the bruises and cuts appear in very strange places where it doesn't seem possible that it could've happened in a fall, then I wouldn't go accusing your wife. Anyway, you definitely have some personal issues with your wife if you seriously think she could do such a thing.

Answer 5

It's normal for a child of that age to have bumps and bruises....if your daughter isn't terrified of your wife and if she's not telling you that mommy hit her...I'm sure she's fine.

You can always take her to the pediatrician for an exam...and they can tell if the bumps and cuts are in abnormal spots for a child...

I would have been sent to jail if you were my husband...my son literally has a ton of bruises all down his legs all the time. He LOVES to climb on things and crawl around playing dinosaur....I asked the Dr if he might have a blood disorder because of all the bruises and he just laughed at me.

Good luck

Answer 6

Wow. That's crazy

I would definitely say that you need to investigate this a bit. Yes, kids do often get scrapes and bruises while playing outside. My son is a walking accident. To consistently have bruises and cuts in awkward places.... If she has scraped knees or something, that's one thing, but a bruised cheek or back...... You get the point.

Your daughter should be old enough to simple ask her what happened. She should be able to say, "I fell down outside" or "Momma hit me".

I wouldn't hesitate to get my child out of the house if she answered with the latter.

You know your wife and your daughter better than any of us. If you seriously think that your wife is capable of this kind of behavior, I would get your daughter out of the house immediately.

Answer 7

Well kids are kids but at the same time you cannot hope that it isn't happening. You need to know. I would talk with your daughter or jokely ask your wife if she is hurting her. Below is a link to a place that you can purchase different nanny cams. That might be best. Best of luck.

Answer 8

It could depend on where the bruises are located. Little children who are very active and still developing their motor skills can aquire quite a few bumps and bruises along the way. If she is developing bruises in places other than her shins, knees, elbows etc you may need to investigate further. Does your wife have an aggressive character? Do you have other reasons to think she could hurt this child?

Answer 9

talk to your daughter in private and see what she says when you asking her if mommy is ever mean too her or hits her...
is she weird when she is arround your wife, distant, cold, very clingy to you....look for the signs, then confront your wife.
Signs of physical child abuse include visible marks of maltreatment, such as cuts, bruises, welts, or well-defined burns, and reluctance to go home. If you ask a child about how he or she got hurt and the child talks vaguely or evasively about falling off a fence or spilling a hot dish, think hard before you accept the child’s story at face value.

Answer 10

The fact that you suspect your wife tells me that there is something wrong in your relationship with her. Your radar in these situation is often right, and if it is your daughter is in grave physical and emotional trouble. Enroll your daughter in daycare, pick her up and drop her off yourself, talk to your daughter, have her physically and mentally examined. If things are bad with your wife leave her and soon. If she is indead hurting your little girl you need to leave asap. Your daughter will be affected the rest of her life by this abuse, there is no time for nanny cams, get this problem dealt with now.

Answer 11

Take your daughter to cps and tell them your concerns. They will look at the bruises and determine if it is abuse or not. Go with your heart. Does your wife have a bad temper with your daughter? Ask your daughter if mommy hits her. If I thought my husband was beating my kid I would leave with her and file a police report and call cps on her.