Do you have a limit on "Forgiveness"?

Question

Is there one thing you believe in YOUR heart YOU could NEVER forgive?
Why?

I can, have and will always forgive...I have to, my life isn't perfect neither am I so if I wanted forgiveness, I must do the same, but I do/have asked myself "What If"?

WarGames:
I am the only person in my family that has "forgiven" the person who murdered my brother 9 years ago...I had to, the anger and resistments was more harm to me then to him...This is God's command.
and eventhoug you are an Athiest, the harm to yourself by holding in anger and rage affects YOU more then them.

Answer 1

I would love to answer your question with a hearty "No, there is no limit to what I can forgive." I can't though, because I don't honestly know if I can. I think I can and have up to this point in my life and with God's Grace I will be able to continue to. I have told my children for years that one must forgive at least in accordance with what they have been forgiven. ...and I have been forgiven much, very much. My larger problem is to forgive myself.

Answer 2

No I don't. There were things in my life I thought without a doubt I could never ever forgive, one was a man cheating on me, but even that I have forgiven. Harboring the pain and holding a grudge causes no one pain but myself. I have forgiven some of the most horrible personal insults and have always come out a better person for it. The relationships are never the same, the closeness that was once there that made the relationships strong are gone and so some of the relationships have faded but I know in my heart that I am a stronger person for having forgiven those who have done me wrong. This with both old friends and men in my life THANKFULLY not my family, they are great to me!

Answer 3

I could never forgive someone who harmed (as in, seriously harmed or killed) one of my loved ones. A friend of mine was murdered 4 years ago by her husband...I don't spend all day seething about it and being angry, I don't let it eat at me or poison me...but I haven't forgiven him either. I doubt I ever will.

I think forgiveness is necessary when it starts eating at the person who is holding the grudge. When it starts poisoning them and ruining their happiness, then they need to figure out how to let it go so that they can move on...but I don't think that's the same thing as saying to the person who committed the offense, "You know what? It's water under the bridge...let's go have a beer." Depending on the offense, I will do what I need to do to make myself be at peace with what happened...but there are things that are unforgiveable.

EDIT: I think there's a difference between harboring anger to the point that it actually eats at YOU, and simply not granting someone forgiveness. My anger towards my friend's husband does not consume me. It just is. It is entirely possible to deny forgiveness without damaging one's own psyche.

Answer 4

The Bible says to forgive & you will be forgiven~ if you will not forgive then you will not be forgiven~
There are times as humans, we cannot forgive & we must rely on the Lord to help~ Moreover, until someone is actually in a situation, we cannot say we will or will not do that~ and if we look at someone else & say in our heart, I would never act like he or she, then we are judging & will be judged~
As to answer your question point blank: I had rather pray I am never in a situation where I cannot forgive someone, then to develop one in my mind~
*I firmly believe in the death penalty for murderers~

Answer 5

No I don't. However, sometime I need to remind myself that forgiveness is not an option, it is a command and best guideline to follow. I always think about how Jesus forgave when I struggle with forgiving someone else. It helps me stay humble and realize I'm not perfect and everyone is deserving of respect and grace.

Answer 6

Im a forgiving person (in most cases) but I dont forget. But for the ones that constantly do me wrong, I dont forgive them. There are some things that ppl do that you cant forgive or forget.

Answer 7

My wife told me once that one of things which convinced her that I was a real Christian is how I was able to forgive people who had offended me.

Ten years later marriage counselors complained about her not only that she lied, but that she was unable and unwilling to forgive me even when I apologized to her.

All I can say is "Thank you Jesus that You have no limits on forgiveness!"

Pastor Art

Answer 8

No limit on forgiveness.

~ Eric Putkonen

Answer 9

My motto: forgive easily, but trust carefully

But this is after the fact. I have no problem defending during an attack, even if it includes launching a curse against the method of attack.

Answer 10

No, but I do believe in Justice. For example if someone hurt my family. I would have to forgive them thats what is right. But I also think they deserve to die by firing squad.