okay i want to mary my bf of almost 3 months we have dated befor and its a toltal of 9 months i love him to death and he is going into the army in january and might get sent to iraq any adive
2007-11-30 05:37:15 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
i aint askin for bad things i love him i knew him for 2 years before we started this
2007-11-30 12:04:25 · update #1
If he's never proposed then No you should not.
You've only been dating three months (yeah nine, but not in a row!). You are very young, and if you've never talked marriage you really should wait.
However if you've talked marriage then get married, that way you can be taken care of by the army if needed.
2007-11-30 14:59:35 · answer #1 · answered by Terri 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-25 05:26:52 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No.
A. If you need to ask, you're not ready.
B. You've only been dating 3 months this time around, and only 9 months cumulatively. You seem to have a situation where you break up and get back together. It's not a good idea to add up the time from all the intermittent dating, and consider that as good as one interval where you never broke up. This is likely not resolved in such a short period of time. Even if you were dating 9 months w/o having ever broken up, that's still too short a time to consider marriage, especially for a young person.
C. You seem like you're in a hurry based on external circumstances: his military career.
D. You seem quite young.
2007-11-30 06:11:27 · answer #3 · answered by Ms. X 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I'd say that if you have both discussed this and plan on getting married in the future, I would do it before he leaves for Iraq. YOu never know what could happen and if you are officially married then you are protected and will get some benefits as being an army spouse. However, if you aren't sure and neither is he then wait till you are.
2007-11-30 06:38:03 · answer #4 · answered by KMONEY831 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's way too soon to marry your b/f. You two haven't known each other long enough to take that big step yet. Take a day at a time & enjoy life as it comes. Marriage should not be entered into lightly. So many people marry way too young & once the children come, they feel trapped & wished they'd waited before marrying but by then, it's too late.
2007-11-30 05:48:09 · answer #5 · answered by Shortstuff13 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You two haven't got that long a history together but if it feels right then I'd say go for it. But be prepared as married life is a lot different then dating. Perhaps the two of you should live together for a while before deciding on making a life long commitment. Best of luck to you both.
2007-11-30 05:42:29 · answer #6 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Don't rush it. keep dating, if he gets sent to Iraq, then make up your mind. Right now just enjoy the time you have with him. You don't want to end up being married, and never having those days with him because he's gone.
2007-11-30 06:23:33 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Take your time since this could affect your pair bonding, however, read all of the answers and BOTH of you should make the ultimate decision on what it is the best.
Best wishes!
2007-11-30 05:45:58 · answer #8 · answered by MIE 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, if you have to ask, then the answer is NO. Wait until you don't need to ask. Just because he being deployed is not a reason to jump into a life affecting decision.
2007-11-30 05:42:02 · answer #9 · answered by Voice_Of_Reason 5 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Let's see....
You've only been dating a total of 9 months.
and
You managed to misspell every 3rd word or so.
You are definitely not ready to get married.
2007-11-30 06:19:43 · answer #10 · answered by duritzgirl4 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋