grandbaby had his dedication(his mommy is baptist) we as grandparents werent told about it nor were we invited, i found out about it by facebook , a quote she was saying about it..is funnyn because at the time we were talking. now we arent since i asked her why we werent invited. she got upset at me for being insulted for not being invited
2007-11-30 05:34:07 · 8 answers · asked by flowerlegz 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
some people do not make a big todo about the dedication, etc. don't let it bother you and just say you would be happy to go to any function if invited, you may have missed a word of mouth invitation-
If there were godparents , that is all who needs to attend for the sake of the dedication or baptism.
have a great day, Don't read anything into- not being formally invited.
2007-11-30 06:04:56 · answer #1 · answered by t m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is the same woman who MSN'd you to tell you how much she hated you, and you're suprised she didn't ask you to the dedication? Hmm . . . Your son isn't married to this woman, right? Has he taken any financial or parental responsibility for the baby? Have you made it clear that you want to be a part of the baby's life? If not, she may be angry at your son -- and, as a result, angry at you, too.
It would certainly have been gracious of her to invite you, but if you weren't supportive of her during her pregnancy, or if you are of a different religion/denomination and she has overhead you make disparaging remarks about Baptists (not really sure why that was pertinent in the question, but since it came up, I'm assuming it's been discussed at some point), then I can see why she might not want to include you. I'd have been more impressed with her if she had simply been upfront with you and told you why you hadn't been included instead of getting upset for being asked -- but hey, if she was that smart, she wouldn't be an unwed mom in the first place. Anyone that would say what they did to you on MSN messenger doesn't have a whole lot going for her in the manners department, anyway. Consider the source.
Was your son there? And if he was there, why didn't HE make sure you were invited? Is he angry with you for making him go through re-hab? This was something that should have been handled through your son, if possible, but if your son isn't in the picture, baby-wise, then you may have a very hard time being a part of the baby's life.
2007-11-30 14:29:06 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is your grandaughter or grandson the parent? If your grandson is the parent then it was entirely innapropriate for you to confront the mother rather than your grandson and she has all the right to be upset. The parents are traditionally responsible for inviting their own family. If it was your grandaughter then it's understandable for you to be upset but you can't let this one little thing interfere with your family relationship. Wait until you are calm and explain that you were upset but it's not a big deal you would just like to be a part of your grandchilds life.
2007-11-30 13:46:19 · answer #3 · answered by al l 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally I'd talk to the parents and let them know how much I'd like to be involved in watching my granddaughter take part in all these special events. A little good humour and adult conversation hopefully would help them realize that I had been hurt but wanted to take part in further events. Luckily I was have been very involved in all aspects of my granddaughters life's and I know for a fact that this will continue. They are in a play in school in early January and have asked their Papa to come and watch them, which I will do with pride and honour. Best of luck.
2007-11-30 13:40:08 · answer #4 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you should have been invited to such an event. She's probably embarrassed now that she left you out, but doesn't want to say so. So are you getting to see your grandchild or is this keeping you apart? If so, you need to do something to make amends if you want to be a part of your grandchild's life.
2007-11-30 14:10:58 · answer #5 · answered by sundsqk321@sbcglobal.net 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you aren't invited somewhere, why get upset? I'd wonder, but i wouldn't let it ruin my day, even if it were my grandchild's dediction or baptism.
Like i just told another parent -- it's a good thing we aren't here to win a popularity contest.
Fill your life with things YOU like and be content with that.
take care too.
2007-11-30 13:52:36 · answer #6 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No one but your grand baby's parents know the answer to this question. Were the other grand parents invited? Was it just small and a financial issue?
2007-11-30 14:11:56 · answer #7 · answered by wondermom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Strange..........
2007-11-30 13:37:16 · answer #8 · answered by misselie1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋