ok my girlfriend has pictures of her prom which was maybe 4-6 years ago dont know really. but anyway the pictures are of of her and her ex... i mean i dont care about the pictures where its just her and her friends. just is it ok. i want to know because she made me get rid of pictures of my ex but the problem is its her prom which means alot to her. what do you think. she doesnt really look at them often at all. she doesnt display them anywhere so its not a big problem for me. what do you think?
2007-11-30 04:55:20 · 21 answers · asked by Luke N 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
although it's not a big deal, i'm wondering why she made you through out YOUR ex's pics but not hers'. that's a bit selfish if you ask me. those pics of yours were happy memories that you might wanna remember, though you no longer have feelings for your ex-. so this pretty much evens the playing field, 'cuz her excuse could be that their very special and important, but YOUR come back could be that those pics (even though their not relevent) are special to you also. I personally think SHE'S the one insecure and jealous about your ex- but she plays it off (and knows that you'll have a problem and feel odd about it) by saving hers. talk to her, and let her know that it's not fair to make you throw yours away but not hers. i'm on ur side bud, this is kinda a big deal 8) good luck
2007-11-30 06:05:33 · answer #1 · answered by mnd_hunt 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave it along for God's sake. It's her prom. It was 4-6 years ago and she is with YOU now. If she wanted to be with him still, she probably would be. Nothing to worry about. Your being WAY too jealous and overbearing if you even MENTION the pictures.
Don't be jealous and childish about a past relationship (or if guys notice her now). If guys notice her now, it just confirms what a great catch YOU have and not THEM.
The issue about her making you get rid of pictures is different. First of all they were not of a "special" event. For girls, proms are big deals and fond memories. Also, based upon the fact that your girlfriend was at a prom 4-6 years ago, you are probably young and haven't realized this yet. THERE IS A DOUBLE-STANDARD! What is fair for her is not necessarily fair for you--in her eyes at least. If you want to have peace with the fairer sex, you must accept this as a reality :-)
2007-11-30 13:00:42 · answer #2 · answered by Love Guru 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask her to make a project of a scrapbook put them in there and send it to her mom for special keeping. This way she has her memories and it is in a treasured safe place. But really, if you are secure in youre relationship what does a picture do? I don't get everyone asking others to get rid of pictures of there exes especially if they're not displayed or hung on the walls. Let them be in a book and put it in the closet because you cannot keep people from thinking and reminiscing and you can't keep anyone that doesn't want to be kept.
2007-11-30 12:59:42 · answer #3 · answered by justaboutpeace 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her to throw them out it was ages ago prom isnt a big deal to begin with and she made you throw pictures of your ex out. Trust me i found my boyfriends exgirlfriend box and it hurt my feelings that he was holding on to something for so long so i ripped everything in it in front of him and it didnt bother him and it wouldnt bother me if he did it to me only i dont have jack from my ex's. Tell her how did it make you feelwhen i had my ex's pictures lying around obviously not good because you made me throw them out so either you give me the same respect or the next time something bothers you im not changing it!
2007-11-30 13:00:06 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Let her have her pics, she's not keeping them as a reminder of her ex. She keeps them because a girl's prom is something special to her. Whether she's 20 or 80 they're a reminder of the good times she's had in her life. Let them be, in the end all we have left are our memories!
2007-11-30 12:58:48 · answer #5 · answered by I've Got My Answer 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think its okay......just dont be too forceful....I didnt it on my own cuz i thought it was inapproprriate to have pics of my ex sitting around even if it was my prom, cuz it was about 5 yrs ago now so who cares. plus me and my fiance live together so i thought it was super wrong. my fiance didn't mind doing the same after he noticed i didnt have mind around. thats how i did it I led by example
2007-11-30 13:01:45 · answer #6 · answered by shes a dream come tru! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well make her leave them at her moms house or explane to her to get rid of the ones with her ex in them or tell her lets go get some pix of you and her in the same dress to replace the ones she has try to be nice and dont up set her make some thing good out of it I made my husban get rid of his but I also got rid of mine to because whats fair is fair ok just keep it nice
2007-11-30 13:02:44 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if she dosnt look at them much then dont worry.
Shes with you now but proms mean alot to girls and they wont part with their photos :) Its ok just leave it as it is :)
2007-11-30 13:05:40 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't let picture of the past make you insecure and jealous. Not even an issue at all.
2007-11-30 13:02:28 · answer #9 · answered by Warriors 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get over it--she's with you now.remember that--the prom is a once in a lifetime experience that she'll never forget whether pictures are out or not.
2007-11-30 13:02:45 · answer #10 · answered by LMD 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋