Why my parents dont want me to lock door of my room from inside?

Question

Its weired they give no logic.Why dont they allow my privacy.Its over 3 years like this.Never did anything wrong.

I want to lock door from inside as the TV is too loud and i cant conentrate but they dont understand

Answer 1

It's a psychological compromise that is not clear to teens when they are actually going through the "compromise" itself.

You locking the door roughly translates as
1."You don't have control"
2. "Im doing something i shouldn't"
3. "I'm growing up and you don't have much time to still be my parents in same sense that "parent" has meant for you until now"

Just to let you know, i went through this too. So what i did was this

I closed my door.
I told everyone that they had to knock.
When they didn't i would lock the door for a day.
and when they got mad that you didn't listen their demand for locking the door you say "Well i would have, but you didnt listen to my simple request of knocking so i cant really trust that you will do it...so my response is to lock the door(then you say) its pretty logical if you think about it(lets them know that you are using logic and perhaps they are not)"
You unlock the door.
If they do it again say ur locking it.

If they say that they are your parents and they don't have to knock. you say in a calm mature voice "Listen, Im a good kid right? never really did anything to make you not trust me...im respecting your wishes of not locking my door because you are my parents and because this is your house...but in the same light its my room and all i ask in return is that you knock...its just something that would make me feel as though you guys respected my space a bit more...also i really dont wanna argue about this because its childish to argue over something so trivial as this"

When you show maturity and understanding and insight they may even let you lock the door. Just be calm. Have a well thought out response to whatever they say..and read a psychology book.

Good luck

Answer 2

It's a control issue, but you know there's thing problem, if you're telling then that you need to lock the door because the TV is too loud then that's why they don't take you seriously, you'll hear the TV even when the door is lock, it just need to be close.
If you want to lock the door for whatever reason ask then you deserve a little privacy and tell then how they shouldn't worry about any wrong doing and that you had probed then so.

Answer 3

If the door is closed, why should locking the door make a difference in what you hear outside? That is, unless the door won't stay closed until it's locked. If that's the problem, use a doorjamb, such as a stone or brick or chair.

The deeper issue seems to be that you resent that your parents don't trust you enough to let you lock your door. You might discuss this with a teacher, guidance counselor, or aunt or uncle or grandparent. Also, sit down with your parents and explain calmly why you can be trusted, giving a list of things you have done right over the past three years or so.

Good luck and God bless!

Answer 4

You never mentioned your age, maybe this has something to do with it, is your health impaired? A locked door is harder for someone to enter if there is an emergency such as a fire and they have to get you out due to being either in a sound sleep or unconcious. You do deserve privacy and a closed door should be enough. Bedrooms shouldn't require a lock unless your a tennant or there is a sneek theif amongst you. Dresser drawers, closets, etc. are private and no one should snoop in them. Locking your door doesn't bring the volume of the TV down. Let them know politely that it is too loud letting them know you can't concentrate.

Answer 5

I know it sounds crazy but if you are locking your door, parents sometimes feel like you have something to hide in there or that you are doing something you shouldn't be.

Locking your door doesn't make the TV any less loud. Unless there is really a reason, like your changing clothes, leave it unlocked. Talk with them about your privacy and about respecting your privacy, knocking etc.., and you won't need to lock your door.

My middle daughter locks her door at night and she is a heavy sleeper. I worry ther will be a fire or something, she won't hear and I can't get in her room. So it is a safety issue as well.

Answer 6

Why would locking the door help with the noise volume of the TV??? I guess they are just suspicious of what you might be up to if you want the door locked. As long as they knock on your door before coming in and give you your privacy don't see the need for locking the door.

Answer 7

You mean the tv outside your room is too loud? Ask them to please turn it down or get some headphones. You deserve quiet while you are in your room. Your parents are responsible for you so I can understand why they might need to know you are not locking them out. What if you fell or began choking or something-they couldnt get to you. But just go along with it for now and act responsibly and later they will not be bothered as much and will know to trust you. Act mature and you will be fine. Its nice your parents care about you since i read a lot of things on this site about parents who dont even care about their children.

Answer 8

First you make no sence you want to lock the tv because sometimes you watch the tv to loud as long as the door is closed youre good you just want to lock it for other reasons probably your parent think youre going to be watching porn or smoking or sneaking out the house at night time who knows just talk to them.

Answer 9

If the TV is too loud and you need to concentrate, why does that have anything to do with locking your door? Why don't you just close your door and not lock it? Sorry honey, but as long as you live under mommy and daddy's roof, you have to live by their rules. Sucks I know, but just look forward to being 18

Answer 10

How does locking the door from the inside help with the noise from the tv? That doesn't make sense to me. If that's what you're telling them then it's no wonder they aren't buying it.