A friend of mine makes her 13 yo daughter wear a bodysuit, that undergarment that covers all your torso, back and nd breasts and clips at your crotch. The girls hates that thing, says it's uncomfortable, makes her sweat and none of her friends wear thst thing. But my friend, her mom , says it's for her best, thinks it's god for her body and especially for modesty. She says if most moms were like her, there wouldnt be so many cases of teen pregnancy. She doesnt back off, her girl tried to rebel but got punished, grounded and had to give in. I dont agree w/ my friend though I know she's sure its for her girl best. I'd like to know if this can be considered child abuse. I don't think it is, but I'm not sure. Anyway, I don't think it'd be a good idea for the girl to report her mom and I dont think she would, after all shes her mom , but Id like to know if this is illegal
2007-11-30 04:18:21 · 11 answers · asked by Melissa 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
It's not hurting the child so no it's not illegal, and i think i'd have to agree with the mom about the pregnancy thing. IT's keeping her daughter modest.
2007-11-30 04:28:36 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You didn't mention (and I think I am correct) that this family is Mormon. Temple garments are white. flimsy and cover the body as you describe. If this is the case, the mother is following the guide lines of the Church, when a family goes to the temple.
If this is the case, then the opposition this girl is giving re the garment, is properly as much rebellion re the rules of her religion,
Please, don't remark back that is is a "terrible" thing and children shouldn't be "made" to wear this undergarment.
If she is only 13, attends the Mormon Church, and was not forced to go to the temple, she is basically at this point, rebelling because she is only embarrassed because of her friends at school.
Now I may be wrong about this, but it is one answer.
If on the other hand if the mother is doing this on her own,. without any religious connection, she is getting paranoid and should talk to somebody, before the girl completely rebells.
Don't forget when you read this answer, that judging another because you feel their religion is wrong and you are right, is not what Christianity or any other religion, is supposed to be about. Many religions have certain traditions that could be seen as "not right", including making the sign of the cross, women on one side of the church men on the other. etc. etc.
I am not writing this with prejudice or judgement, because I have many Mormon friends, and what they choose in their religion is none of my business, as long as it is not doing harm to anybody.
2007-11-30 12:31:16 · answer #2 · answered by Maureen S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It can be taken a psychological abuse, forcing a child to do something in a daily basis can become obsessive for the mother and child, a subject that seems to bother the mother so much that makes you think there's more than just a matter of modesty. Ask your friend is she wear the same outfit "every" day.
2007-11-30 12:29:50 · answer #3 · answered by Lulu 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like some kind of chastity belt. Well I can't say I've heard of this technique in sometime but it's kind of like protecting the goods until they are ready.......
It's certainly not a common act in our day but it was at one time. It's rather extreme but it appears the mother is dead set on protecting her daughter. Is she abusive otherwise? If not then I think its extreme but she is doing what she can to assure her daughter doesn't become a teen mother. If she is abusive I'd be concerned at the lengths she may be going to.
I really don't know what else to say. I'm a bit taken back but not sure it isn't such a bad idea for more to do........
2007-11-30 12:35:13 · answer #4 · answered by savahna5 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately it isn't abuse. The mother has the right to dress her child any way she chooses. What she is doing however is embarrassing the child, showing her that her mother doesn't trust her and thinks the worst of her and is lowering her self esteem.
I think being open and honest with your kids. Talking to them about morals, values and just having good communication would go alot further and make her and her daughter closer not push her away.
2007-11-30 13:40:30 · answer #5 · answered by wondermom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is far from illegal. I will teach my daughters to dress modestly too. maybe not by forcing them to wear certain undergarments....but you better believe if i am buying those clothes...they will be approved by me. My house....my rules.
2007-11-30 13:10:38 · answer #6 · answered by illinoismommy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont think that it is illegal but it is definetly wierd. i think that she should try a little harder in trying to talk to her mom about how much she hates it and how it bothers her so much! idk. i dont think there is anything that you can really do or her. she will probably just have to wait until she is old enough to move out.
2007-11-30 12:36:17 · answer #7 · answered by ♪♫♪ My Angel♪♫♪ I Love You♪♫♪ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't think it is abuse so i would just say to your friend to just live with it until she can move out of the house
2007-11-30 12:23:40 · answer #8 · answered by boglelawrencepatrick00 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not illegal. Just weird.
2007-11-30 12:27:48 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's odd, but illegal? i'm not sure.. maybe ask a police detective. i dont know?
2007-11-30 12:59:15 · answer #10 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋