My boyfriend of 11.5 months has been using the internet for IM chat for a very long time but recently, I have been finding that he is engaging in sexual conversations with random women, often times, giving them his phone number when they are through and asking if maybe they could meet up sometime in person. He downloads nude pictures of these women and stores them on his computer. When I confronted him about this, he simply said that he isn't trying to cheat on me and that I'm just being paranoid but I don't believe I am. My boyfriend and I have started talking very seriously about marriage but I'm not sure that I could go through with it seeing as how their is a notion in his head that sexual online chatting is totally ok and that there is nothing wrong with it. Am I being paranoid to think that maybe he would consider cheating on me?
2007-11-30 04:13:16 · 23 answers · asked by Totally Confused 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He is a loser!
Yes it's cheating.
He is only discussing marriage to keep you around, he is telling you what you want to hear.
Run away Fast!
2007-11-30 04:17:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
NOPE I would leave. that would definitely be the last straw for me. That IS cheating. He's trying to get his d*ck wet by meeting other girls online, you say he gives them his phone number and asks to meet in person. THAT is cheating. He is not thinking about you at all at that moment. Your boyfriend is an a.ss for saying that YOU are the paranoid one and nothing is wrong. He is just a lowlife who thinks that he is perfect and can get any girl he wants. Well I'd leave him and let him date some woman on the internet, and I'd like to see the look on his face when she shows up weighing 250 lbs. You are better than him. LEAVE
2007-11-30 04:18:27 · answer #2 · answered by Cat 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
that is definetly someone who is unfaithful. Yes, that would be cheating. He is trying to manipulate you into believing that you are paranoid b/c he likes what he does. You're not paranoid, your upset, hurt, confused. Be wise and put your foot down about the situtaion. If it doesn make a difference then leave him, and then his computer and hand and him will be all alone . Go find a good man that has respect for you!
2007-11-30 04:26:05 · answer #3 · answered by Gmarie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would be gone...I think you should consider the fact that he IS talking to other women this way and if he does it online then he is quite capable of doing it in person as well..if you don't want to break up with him then tell him look you either stop or we're through and if he doesn't then looks like you made the best decision..if he is acting this way already imagine what he would be like after 20 years of marriage..you deserve better..everyone deserves better than that
2007-11-30 04:20:08 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I advise you to dump him as soon as possible. He's definitely cheating. If people get defensive about things then it means they hiding things. I had a girlfriend like that before and she cheated on me without any guilt. If a guy flirts excessively then avoid that guy.
2016-04-06 05:32:02 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. that's cheating! anything that he does to get sexual satisfaction outside of you is cheating. It's almost like he is saying that you don't give him what he needs to be satisfied and he is having to look somewhere else to get some. That's cheating honey, sorry.
2007-11-30 04:19:26 · answer #6 · answered by Christy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't get all caught up with labels here. Whether this behavior is the classic definition of cheating or not is not relevent - the fact that he is doing it when he knows you don't want him to is ultimately the issue.
You need to decide whether or not you can put with this, whether it is called "cheating" or "frowling."
I couldn't.
2007-11-30 04:17:31 · answer #7 · answered by Elana 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is where communication is key. Everyone defines cheating differently. To me it is cheating but you two have to agree. If you can not then you have to decide if it is worth accepting it or not
2007-11-30 04:19:05 · answer #8 · answered by michele 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He obviously is considering cheating on you if he's trying to actually meet up with these women.
Sorry, but you've gotta move on
2007-11-30 04:16:55 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Observe him for a few months more.See if he is a pervert and keeps behaving the same way with all online women.If it persists, I suggest "forget him.....the relationship should not linger with you any farther".
God Bless
2007-11-30 04:42:53 · answer #10 · answered by bikashroy9 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋