Who buys the bridesmaid dresses?
Flower girl dress?
Groomsmen attire?
Mothers attire?
Fathers attire?
Is a rehearsal dinner expected? How does that work? After the rehearsal everyone goes out to dinner? Who should be invited? Who pays?
Parents of bride are poor losers. Parents of groom are well off and offer to pay for wedding. Should I let them? If they pay, then should the invitation be reversed (i.e. says they request the attendance...)?
Any other advice?
2007-11-30 03:48:13 · 22 answers · asked by Due May 17, 2009! 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
As far as who pays, typically it's the bride and groom these days. The Bride's family is traditionally supposed to pay, with the Groom's family paying for the rehearsal dinner... but these days it's anything goes.
A rehearsal dinner is expected; the immediate family and wedding party are usually the ones there. You can book a restaurant for your party and meet there or rent a hall and have a catered dinner brought in.
On our invitations, since we paid for most of it ourselves, we just said "we would humbly like to invite you to witness our union, as two best friends become one" instead of mentioning either one of our families. No body noticed the difference.
2007-11-30 04:01:15 · answer #1 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here is what I did:
The bridesmaids paid for their dresses (I made sure they were on the low $ end) and I said, if you cannot pay for them I will. Same with groomsmen. They can rent tuxes at a pretty good price (at bridal fairs they often offer deals). I would guess the father and mother pay for their attire themselves, or they can wear something they already have.
I would allow the parents to help pay. My parents and my husbands parents split the cost, and then we paid for a little bit ourselves. It's expensive out on your own (cars, rent, insurance) so this will help a lot if you don't have to pay for your own wedding. Make sure to give the parents a very nice thank you gift.
Rehearsal dinner is expected. We invited everyone involved with the wedding (the wedding party, anyone singing/playing music, the grandparents, important guests from out of town, flower girl, candle lighters, etc.) It was fun.
Would the grooms parents be upset if you kept the invite as both parents requesting the attendance? Or, you could just say that you two, along with our parents, request your attendance.
Remember to have fun through all the planning!!
2007-11-30 09:58:17 · answer #2 · answered by Anne 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who buys the bridesmaid dresses? the girls
Flower girl dress? the mother
Groomsmen attire? the guys
Mothers attire? mother
Fathers attire? father
Is a rehearsal dinner expected? How does that work? After the rehearsal everyone goes out to dinner? Who should be invited? Who pays?
the guys parents pay you just have supper or whatever we had cook out
Parents of bride are poor losers. Parents of groom are well off and offer to pay for wedding. Should I let them? If they pay, then should the invitation be reversed (i.e. says they request the attendance...)? if you dont have the money have em pay or just have them pay bar tab or whatever
Any other advice?
do what you want its your day not anyone elses
2007-11-30 04:39:42 · answer #3 · answered by Miranda 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Who buys the bridesmaid dresses? The bridesmaids. If the bride is really well off, she can purchase these for them.
Flower girl dress? The girl's parents. If the bride is really well off, she can purchase these for her
Groomsmen attire? The groomsmen. If the groom is really well off, he can rent these for them.
Mothers attire? The mothers!
Fathers attire? The fathers!
Is a rehearsal dinner expected? How does that work? After the rehearsal everyone goes out to dinner? Who should be invited? Who pays? Yes it's expected, but not required. Yes after the rehearsal you all go out to dinner. Toast-o-rama. All of the wedding party and anyone helping out with the ceremony. Parents of the bride and groom. Usually the grandparents. The officiant if you want to. Some people invite out of town guests, but I think that's overkill. The groom's parents usually host this, but really anyone can.
Parents of bride are poor losers. Parents of groom are well off and offer to pay for wedding. Should I let them? If they pay, then should the invitation be reversed (i.e. says they request the attendance...)? Yes!!! accept their help. Offer to pay for things yourself too. The invitations can be general
Together with their families
_______ and ______
request the pleasure of your company.
Any other advice? Do worry too much about who traditionally pays for what.
2007-11-30 04:08:57 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who buys the bridesmaid dresses? THE BRIDESMAIDS
Flower girl dress? THE BRIDE
Groomsmen attire? THE GROOM
Mothers attire? THE MOTHER
Fathers attire? THE FATHER
Is a rehearsal dinner expected? How does that work? After the rehearsal everyone goes out to dinner? Who should be invited? Who pays? YES, AFTER THE CHURCH REHEARSAL, THE GROOMS PARENTS ARE SUPPOSED TO HOST A DINNER, EITHER AT A RESTAURANT OR SOMEONE'S HOUSE. THE BRIDAL PARTY, READERS, PARENTS AND CLERGY ARE TO BE INVITED. (OH AND GUESTS FOR EACH PERSON INVITED...ALWAYS)
Parents of bride are poor losers. Parents of groom are well off and offer to pay for wedding. Should I let them? If they pay, then should the invitation be reversed (i.e. says they request the attendance...)? YES, LET THE GROOM'S PARENTS HELP YOU PAY, BUT TRY TO PITCH IN AS MUCH AS POSSIBLE. IF THE GROOMS PARENTS ARE PAYING THE MAJORITY, THE INVITATION SHOULD READ SO.
Any other advice? ENJOY IT:) KEEP IT SIMPLE, BUT DON'T COMPROMISE YOUR DREAMS
2007-11-30 04:35:46 · answer #5 · answered by Level Headed, I hope 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
In any wedding that I have been in or helped to plan
the bridesmaids bought their own dresses (pick a color and let them get dresses in that color then they can wear them again) same with the flower girls and the mothers dress
you can get a discount rental if you order the tuxes (suits together)
Rehearsal dinner is expected but not mandatory, you could make a simple layout of finger sandwiches fruit veggies and assorted soft drinks following the rehearsal. To a rehearsal dinner only the immediate family (ie parents grandparents) and wedding party should attend Traditionally the grooms parents pay for the rehearsal and the brides parents pay for the wedding, but society changes and you can do anything you want. My suggest that you go to the local deli (Wal-Mart) and by fried chicken and make the other platters yourself (its cheaper and still good food)
If the grooms parents pay then invitiation is not reversed. There are alternatives ex:
Please join bride name and groom name in the celebration of marriage and give the date location and time you can look at a invitiation website for ideas
2007-11-30 04:27:10 · answer #6 · answered by hicks.jenn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. Bridesmaids and groomsmen pay for their own, but keep it reasonable and if they cannot afford you should pay for them.
2. Parents pay for their own attire.
3. Rehearsal dinner is for anyone at the rehearsal, plus any out-of-town guests. Traditionally grooms parents hosted the event, but it may also be hosted by the bride & groom.
4. If parents of the groom offer to pay, thats very generous and they should be acknowledged as the hosts of the party on the invitation. Brides parents can be acknowledged with "daughter of Jack and Jane Smith", but not as the hosts.
5. My advice would be to have the kind of wedding that you and your fiance can afford, without help from any parents. Then, if they want to help pay for a few things, thats great. But just be warned that if his parents pay for 100% of the wedding, you will be at their mercy. It didnt happen to me, but it happens on here all the time: the bride and groom lose control of what they want their wedding to be. Besides, if you are ready for marriage you should be ready to pay for the wedding, whether it is simple or extravagant.
2007-11-30 04:01:13 · answer #7 · answered by fizzy stuff 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Each person buys their own clothes for the wedding.
If you have a rehearsal the evening before the ceremony, yes, a rehearsal dinner is expected. My cousin had no rehearsal, and therefore no rehearsal dinner. That was great. This is traditionally paid by the parents of the groom, but much more, the couple covers the whole shebang from rehearsal through honeymoon. Anyone involved in the wedding plus spouses or serious significant others should be involved, as well as any long distance relatives in for the wedding.
I think if someone has the means and is interested in offering you the gift of paying for the wedding, it would be a wonderful blessing. Calling the bride's parents poor losers is in very poor taste, and maybe that is just the attitude that makes them not want to give their hard-earned money to the couple. I know I would never give my money to anyone who spoke of me like that-daughter or not.
Invitations: if one set of parents is mentioned, the other set is due the same consideration, regardless of who is paying.
The honor of your company is requested at the marriage of Jenny Smith, daughter of Robert and Kate Smith and Bill Bink, son of William and Thelma Bink. You don't want to slight anyone over money--that's rude.
2007-11-30 04:00:07 · answer #8 · answered by melouofs 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Bridesmaids traditionally pay for their own dresses.
The parents of the flower girl/ring bearer usually pay for their attire.
Groomsmen traditionally pay for their own tuxes/attire.
The mother of the bride pays for her own dress, the mother of the groom pays for her own.
The father of the bride pays for his own tux, the father of the groom pays for his own.
A rehearsal dinner is generally expected. It is a time for everyone who came together for the wedding rehearsal to have a meal together. You can all go out to a local restauraunt, you can have a private catered event, or you can have a casual backyard bbq at someone's home. It is traditionally payed for by the parents of the groom, however they are not OBLIGATED to host a rehearsal dinner.
Everyone in the wedding party should be invited to the rehearsal dinner, (bridesmaids, groomsmen, readers, the officiant, parents, etc) and then you can invite whoever else you chose, close friends/out of town guests, etc... everyone in addition to the wedding party though is just 'extra' and not required.
If the parents of the groom are offering to host the wedding, the bride and groom may decide to accept or decline. whichever they chose they should do so graciously. Keep in mind that whoever pays for the wedding sometimes wants a say in the planning. Discuss the level of involvement that the parents of the groom plan to have... decide if you are comfortable witih that.
When it comes to picking out the invitations, generally the individuals paying for the party. Why not let the parents of the groom choose the wording?
It could read
Together with their parents
Bride
and
Groom
Invite you.....
Or it could read
Mr. & Mrs. Brides Parents
and
Mr. & Mrs. Grooms Parents
Invite you to the marriage of their children
Bride
and
Groom
OR
Mr. & Mrs. Grooms Parents
Request the honour of your presence
at the marriage of
Bride
to their son
Groom
2007-11-30 06:09:54 · answer #9 · answered by vanessa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Traditionally, this is how it goes:
Bridesmaids buy their own dresses.
The flower girl (or her parents usually ) buys her own dress.
Groomsmen rent their own tuxes.
Mothers buy their own dresses, Dads rent their own tuxes.
People usually have a rehearsal dinner the night before and the groom's family pays for it. You would invite anyone in the wedding and any immediate family or guests from out-of-town.
If the groom's family wants to pay for the wedding, sure let them. Yes, if they pay you should reverse the invitation. Maybe see if the bride's parents want to pay for the rehearsal dinner so they don't feel left out but if they can't, you may want to just cover it yourself.
2007-11-30 04:02:42 · answer #10 · answered by Deanrijo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋