My 4 year old son has no desire to be potty trained. Please help???!!??

Question

He has a 5 year old brother who is fully potty trained and he watches him go to the bathroom, but doesn't want to do it himself.

I have tried the "reward system" with him but nothing works.
Can you please help me???

Answer 1

Take the diaper off completely. No pull ups just underware. Make it fun and take him to the store and let him pick some cool underware. Tell him he has two choices, he can wet them with pee pee and poop when he want to go or he can choose to put the pee and poop in the potty so his new underware won't get wet. I am 100% sure he will choose to go potty. Expect him to have accidents and remind him if he wants to go every 30 minutes. Turn off the tv or he will fight you when its time to go or he will have an accident. If he does have an accident say what you see, "Your pants are wet. That must feel wet and uncomfortable. I bet your legs are itchy. and tell him how you like to go to the potty so your legs and clothes don't get wet. Since he is four he can help clean up his accident. Trust me he will get tire of this.

Answer 2

What worked for my son is The Potty Stool http://www.thepottystool.com I started by just setting it at the toilet. This stool makes every toilet kid-sized. My kids immediately climbed up on this stool and discovered that they could safely and securely use the toilet. This got them very interested in using the toilet and they were potty trained very quickly.

With this stool, your 4 year old will be potty trained in a day. My kids like to use what they know mommy and daddy use. And it really is wonderful having your kids independently use the toilet on their own. The handles make all the difference! My son and daughter felt very secure and the sides makes them feel comfortable and closed in when they use the toilet.

I like that I don't have to double the steps of potty training by training them first in a potty and then training them to stop using a potty. And not dumping and cleaning a potty each time is great. The best thing is that kids use it for years. I hope this helps you

Answer 3

My boyfriend's son is 3 1/2 and his mom is doing nothing to help potty train him. She only uses diapers and then puts him in regular underwear if she decides she wants the diaper money for something else. My boyfriend and I have him in pull-ups and he's now at the point where he'll wander into the bathroom by himself. We always ask him if he has to go, we make him go before we leave the house even just to go play outside, it's not a choice when we have him at our house. You go to the bathroom and at least try whether you need to go or not. For the longest time he fought against bing potty trained and would always say he didn't have to go. When we started telling him that you HAVE to go potty before you leave the house, when you first get up in the morning, times when mom & dad usually have to go, that seemed to fix the problem. As parents, you can't always wait for your kid to decide...sometimes you have to decide for them.

Answer 4

Now is the time to become the parent. By 4 he can and should be using the toilet.

Take the diapers off - put the underwear on - and tell him he will have to use the potty. Potty training boot camp.....you can and you will use the toilet - end of discussion.

Answer 5

are you keeping diapers on him? Usually if you take them off, he is at the age where it feels yucky if he soils himself, plus im sure there will be some teasing and he won't appreciate that, tell him that hes a big boy now and has to use the big boy potty, or else he'll feel yucky everytime he soils himself.

Answer 6

They won't let him into kindergarten if he's not potty trained.

Take him out of the diapers completely and he'll get the message when he soils himself. More work for you to clean it up but it should work.

Answer 7

My old sitter had that problem with her daughter and she just took away the diapers and put her in regular underwear. She only had a few accidents before she figured it out.

Answer 8

By 4 its time to be a parent and be more proactive. You dont just sit around waiting for a child to do something, somne times you have to encourage them a little more forcefully.

If he has to use the potty and cant use diapers he'll get the message.

Answer 9

I would consult a child psychologist if he were my son.
Whatever you decide to do, don't punish him. It will only make matters a thousand times worse and he could end up with life long issues.

Answer 10

Relax kids wont go until they are ready No matter what age(and what other people say). my daughter refused to go until she started school and suddenly she went.Dont worry so much about it, he is a kid and before you know it will go on his own just be patient and continue to show him what he has to do! Good Luck!!