i dont know what he would say so how would i bring it up without saying the word marry?
2007-11-30 02:28:06 · 21 answers · asked by panda 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
You don;t bring it up at all. You wait for just the right time, and perhaps this Christmas just isn't the right time. It makes you sound like you're begging for a ring. Purchasing an engagement ring is a MAJOR committment; nothing that should be taken lightly at all.
Have you discussed marriage and a future life together? If you haven't brought up the word 'marry' then it's just not the right time. Have you had long conversations about what marriage means to both of you?
Good luck to you!
2007-11-30 02:33:05 · answer #1 · answered by Sharon F 6 · 9⤊ 0⤋
um, you can't and getting a ring is not the point of getting married. Youare talking about a LIFELONG commitment... it's a big deal and with you wanting a piece of jewelry kinda suggests that you are not really ready. Marriage is about hard work and sacrifice to make a family and a home... too many people don't get that and think in the fantasy part and that is part of why we have such a high divorce rate right now.
If you do think you are ready for this kind of a commitment then you should talk to him about what you want out of life and see if you both want the same or similar things. But ask yourself if it is the ring and wedding you want or the marriage. Would you marry him if he could not afford a ring? What if he gave you a ring from a gumball machine? would you still want to marry him?
If you want him to get you jewelry then ask for that but don't ask for an engagement ring as a gift...
2007-11-30 05:17:54 · answer #2 · answered by zeechou 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
did i already tell you to buy a book called 'why men marry some women and not others' ? by john molloy? do it and read it today. it gives you everything you need to know about this. dont waste another day wondering. i always answer this cause my sister had a c-mas long ago where she was in the same boat, handled it all wrong, and ended up very hurt;. if she had had this book she would not have done what she did. if you dont get something from this book email me, but i know you will. hurry, only a few shopping days before christmas.
2007-11-30 04:26:56 · answer #3 · answered by jaded 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Don't bring it up at all. Even if you have discussed a life together you should let him decide when he wants to get married. If you feel like you cant wait any longer then bring it up but don't force him into because it'll just make the both of you unhappy.
2007-12-01 12:26:44 · answer #4 · answered by keishound122 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't. If he wants to marry you he will ask you when he feels comfortable doing so. An engagement ring is a pledge of deep love and a commitment to become partners and it doesn;t matter when it comes.... it's not just a holiday gift like a tacky sweater or cheesy bath products.
2007-11-30 02:36:51 · answer #5 · answered by anon 4 · 5⤊ 0⤋
You don't!
He'll ask you when he's ready. Hopefully if the two of you are mature and have been dating long enough - a year and a half to two years - you've even already talked about marriage and a future.
Lots of times men don't want to propose on a holiday, so the event is special all on its own!
2007-11-30 03:37:18 · answer #6 · answered by Lydia 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You should sit down and have a talk about your future and when he see you guys settling down and getting married before asking for ring. It's a little more complicated then jewelry! Good luck and don't be afraid to bring it up.
2007-11-30 02:33:55 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 7⤊ 0⤋
If you are unable to bring the subject up without ruining your relationship, then the relationship itself is in question.
If you are able to converse and discuss such things, then be honest. "Bubba, what I'd really like for Christmas is a ring, something which signifies our committment to the future. How do you feel about that?" AND then listen to his response.
2007-11-30 02:36:04 · answer #8 · answered by Marvinator 7 · 4⤊ 1⤋
You can't! If you haven't talked about your future with this man, and aren't aware if he plans to propose, much less the timing of it, you can't ask him this.
Have that conversation first.
If you do know he wants to someday marry you, talk to him about when, and suggest you get sized for a ring now, so there are no give-aways later on when He decides to propose.
2007-11-30 02:33:36 · answer #9 · answered by livewithoutfear 3 · 8⤊ 0⤋
ummm...if you can't talk about marriage, then you're not really ready as a couple. you need to talk about your life together in the future, children, careers, not necessarily getting engaged or the wedding. you can't really drop hints about getting an engagement rings, but you can drop subtle hints about being ready to get married.
2007-11-30 02:42:38 · answer #10 · answered by . 5 · 8⤊ 0⤋