My son is almost 4, he went to karate only a few times and wants to quit.
There are two senseis that teach the class and he is afraid of the woman one. A kid in the class likes to provoke him and gets in his face and the last time he pushed my son and my son smacked him and no one saw the other child push him so I guess no one defended my son, he was scolded by the mom and sensei. I tried to stay out of it but the teacher said "if you hit again you're going to have to go home!" He got really upset and started to cry and came out of the class and never wants to return. (I later on found out from my mother that she witnessed the whole thing that the kid pushed him first)
There is no way of telling who will be the teacher on which day, he prefers the guy sensei but everytime we have gone lately it's been the woman.
What should I do? I know quiting is not good but how can I make a not even 4 yr old understand that he has to stick it out.
2007-11-30 02:14:16 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
I was in the bathroom when this occured.
i also told my son in drive ohome it's wrong to hit back to tell an adult .
2007-11-30 02:24:49 · update #1
it's no thtat he prefers aman, I jsut think the man handles situations better, he never threatens to send someone home, he just makes them give him their belt or sit in the corner. He's also cool about it as far as his tone and his language.
2007-11-30 02:29:18 · update #2
I was annoyed my mom didn't tell me, she instead answered he cell phone during the whole thing, uuugghh!
2007-11-30 02:31:23 · update #3
He is afraid and learning agression.
Two things you don't want ANY child to have.
Find a better fit in a school and sensais for your family.
It is hard to unlearn lessons that cause pain.
Trust me.. I'm going THROUGH it with my 15 year old
because of things that she remembers/experienced
YEARS ago.
peace
2007-11-30 02:20:12 · answer #1 · answered by Sleek 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Talk to the teacher and ask her what happened. Tell her that your son is discouraged and doesn't want to go back. Explain from your point of view what happened. Tell her that you talked to your son about going to the teacher instead of hitting back. Ask her if she talked to the other boy because he did hit first. Ask her what you do in situtations like this. What is the protocal when children hit. I honestly think it was extreme to threaten to send him home after the first offense unless there were more than one time. I would listen to your son and if he doesn't feel comfortable going, don't make him. I would go as far as taking him to another school where they know child development and the know how to guide them and not threaten them. Karate is supposed to be fun. I am a preschool teacher and can tell you that both instructors are not handling or guiding the children appropriately.
2007-11-30 04:36:07 · answer #2 · answered by liliana 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That sounds like a really bad karate school! You should complain to whoever you can aobut the senseis. Also, why didn't your mum say anything to the female sensei about it?
I'd say have a look in your local directory/leisure centres for other karate classes, but they need to be approved by a big karate governing body (Not sure what you'd have in the US, but the UK has the Scottish Jusu Kai association).
Maybe see if your son wants to try out something else? Dance, ice skating, yoga... anything!
2007-11-30 02:26:25 · answer #3 · answered by swelwynemma 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I would seek another school. I would not talk with the current school about only having the guy teach him for two reasons: 1. The two teachers work together and are probably close. 2. You are teaching to learn from a man and not a women which may cause problems later. Find another school and tell him that he can leave one school but cannot quit because of his commitment. After you leave the current school I would explain to them why you are leaving and do not let them know where you are going to be taking your child.
2007-11-30 02:25:13 · answer #4 · answered by L A 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
First of all letting him quite will make it ok to quite when life gets hard bad lession....
as for the other kid both you, your son and your mom need to have a sit down with the sinsei let him or her know in no simple turms that your son will not be punished if the other boy is aloud to beet on him if it continused you will get anouther sensei. if need be get him anouther school or just change the night you go but take a stand!
like i said before if at all posible ( not at expence of your child getting hurt) keep him in great life lession " we finish what we start"
2007-11-30 02:34:45 · answer #5 · answered by crissypeach 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
a) if your mum saw what went off, why didn't she say anything?
b) get the other mother on one side and tell her you know what her kid did, nd you'd recommend she stop him doing it again
He's a bit young for karate yet, to my mind. How about telling him he can quit after Christmas if he still wants to, but you think it's a shame he's letting this nasty little brat stop him doing something he likes?
Better still, to be honest, find a different club and/or sport. Personally I think they're better with judo at that age - they all roll about in a heap on the floor anyway so they might as well do it to some purpose. Or what about swimming lessons?
2007-11-30 02:32:43 · answer #6 · answered by who me? 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He doesn't want to go for very legitimate reasons, so why make him go? If you want him to take karate, find a different school, and this time go observe class (with your son) before commiting to it. Please don't make him go just because of a monetary commitment.
2007-11-30 02:23:35 · answer #7 · answered by Milana P 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Go when the male instructor is there.
2007-11-30 03:42:03 · answer #8 · answered by Level 7 is Best 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋