My little guy is soon to be 2 years old (wow!! time flys!!) And he is such a mommas boy :) I love him to pieces and enjoy this so much... Its just that sometimes it gets to be a bit too much. Mommy can't move without her little guy plastered to her hip.. lol Has anyone else gone thru this or is going thru this? Sometimes I think it bothers my husband more than me... He wants so much for our son to be daddys little best friend... It just seems its all about momma...
I know that too soon he'll be grown up and not want mommy... but I also need a few moments now and agian where he'll hang with daddy so mommy can breathe... sleep... clean... pee... lol Any suggestions...
2007-11-30 02:13:17 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
Kelsi:
Thank you so much (as always) for your answers and insight... I would be honored if you'd use the name Jensen either as a first or middle name. I find it so wonderful that I introduced you to a name that you fell in love with :) (Incase you are wondering ever where I got it - years ago when I was a teenager I loved the soap opera Another World. An actress on the shows real name was Jensen. A name I've always loved) Let me know what you decide to name her ;)
2007-11-30 02:35:00 · update #1
My little boy is a momma's boy and I love it. He is two. I am just as bad though. When someone else is holding him, I end up getting him back. His father and I are divorced and he is really the only person I have. I don't see anything wrong with a small child being clingy to his/her mother. I mean, a 20 year old that still clings to his momma's hip is another story. lol. But I love when my son is clingy. It shows me that I am doing something right. I kinda force my little one to go to others occassionally so he doesn't have such a hard time at daycare. If I need to pee, I go to the bathroom. Sometimes he gets upset, but I try to explain it to him as best I can. I get him to help me clean. I bought him a dirt devil play cleaning set. He has a big play kitchen in my kitchen so he can "cook" while I cook. I read and sing him to sleep every night. When he goes to sleep, I go to bed. I usually start the bedtime routine around 8:00p.m. so he is asleep by 9:00 and that gives me a good 8 hours (sometimes) too. Enjoy it while he's young.
2007-11-30 02:29:51 · answer #1 · answered by Brooke 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I have two sons aged 2 and 1, my 2 year old has always been really independent and I hardly ever get affection from him (I have to force it on him occasionally!) but my 1 year old is completely different and is definitely a mummy's boy, but I love it. He plays really well alone and with his brother and luckily is not clingy, but always comes to look for me now and then to have a cuddle, which is lovely! He is such a cute and sweet boy that I enjoy having those moments with him before he grows up and doesn't want to be anywhere near me!
What I am finding recently with my 2 year old though is a bit of separation anxiety. I can do whatever I want around the house but if I get my keys and go out the door without him he has a complete meltdown. If someone comes around to look after him so I can go out he gets really stressed. Sometimes when he is grizzly or upset, for whatever reason, he only wants me and rejects his daddy (much to daddy's dismay). I am glad it doesn't happen often!
I think that this is completely normal 2 year old stuff and it will eventually stop as they develop an understanding that you are still there for them and won't leave, and an increase in independence as they grow will see that change too. It could take a while though, depending on your child's individual temperament, as some children stay quite clingy while others do not. Hopefully by school age it will all be sorted out! Not a lot you can do in the meantime except to reciprocate your child's need for reassurance and affection. Make sure that time with daddy is a lot of fun - my boys love rough and tumble play and outside play with daddy and look forward to seeing him when he is home from work. They do different things with him than with me so I suppose that time is special.
Good luck!
(Mum of toddlers and former preschool teacher)
2007-11-30 13:52:12 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
My son, Landon is now 5. When he was this age he was so clingy and just like this. My husband was traveling with work a ton, and I was a stay at home mom. So, naturally he was more of a mommy's boy. We just had to spend more time as a family, and once he got used to daddy being around the problem was eventually resolved. Don't worry, but the time they're 3, they're often very independent and clingy to no one.
BTW: Would you be totally offended if we stole the name Jensen for at least a middle name???
~Kelsi
2007-11-30 02:29:44 · answer #3 · answered by Mommy of Landon and Kaeyla 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It will pass (probably right around the time you get used to it and accept it!). It is normal for 2 to 3 year old children to be more affectionate with the parent of the other gender. They often see the parent of the same gender as a competitor, not a buddy.
The good news is that this is developmentally appropriate. The bad news is that it can be terribly annoying for you and hurtful for dad.
You could start by leaving the two of them at home (where your toddler is most comfortable) for short periods of time. I started by leaving to gas up the car, go to the gorcery store, etc.
My son is now 5 1/2. For the past couple of years, he has been Daddys buddy. He would rather go to the hardware store or the dump with his dad than go to Disneyland with me! He dresses like his dad. They even have matching baseball caps. My son will wait to see what Dad is wearing, then pick out something similar. But, when my son was 2, if I was around, there was no way he was going to spend time with Dad. I learned to accomplish everything (except for peeing and cleaning the bathtub) with his "help."
Also, "clinginess" is developmentally appropriate in toddlers.
2007-11-30 02:26:10 · answer #4 · answered by Kellie W 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Thats just the way it goes, boys are momma's boys and girls are daddy's. Don't know why, but it happens that way. When we found out we were having a boy everyone kept telling me he would be attatched forever. He is only 7 mos, and so far a total momma's boy. I can't even leave the house for 30 min or he is crying the whole time. Daddy is around and always helps with him, but if I am gone he freaks.
2007-11-30 03:04:40 · answer #5 · answered by Beth 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have three sons. My oldest son was a definite mama's boy. I think he stayed in the bathroom for every shower I took up until he was 3. As he got older (around 5 or 6) he started favoring my husband more. It seems like he grew out of the mommy stage and he and my husband had more in common. My second son is currently two and he sometimes alternates between which parent he prefers to spend time with. He will be clingy and crying to me one day, my husband the next, and then not want anything to do with either one of us on the third day. My husband thought that he hated him for months (between 12-18 months) because he would not have anything to do with him. My third son is only 4 months old and he really has no preference as long as he is being held! My husband is the one that is more likely to get down and wrestle and play horsey and various other physical games with the two older boys and I think they love that attention that he gives them. As a matter of fact, when my house is noisey chances are my husband is the one that is being the loudest! I think it would be great for you to get out and leave your husband with your son. They have "guys nights in" when I have my girl's night out. Maybe your husband should try to play with your son more (cars on the floor, coloring together, etc.) This will give you a little time to get away and your son will really enjoy the time they spend together. I promise you it will get better!
2007-11-30 03:56:40 · answer #6 · answered by вσуѕяυѕтιмєѕ3 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh yes...Jackson's only 5 months old and he's definitely already a momma's boy! He knows exactly what to do to get a cuddle from mommy! ha ha, I love it. I don't know if it bothers his daddy though because they have a different relationship than Jackson and i and i think it's just as special but in a different way.
2007-11-30 03:13:53 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
After having 2 Daddy's Little Girls, I am thrilled to have my momma's boy!! I could eat him up he is sooo cute! Every little hug and kiss makes me melt! I am lucky though, he doesn't hang on me every second of the day. He will keep himself busy for up to an hour at a time (age 3) playing cars, train, puzzles or looking at books!! Enjoy the time you are getting with your little man. Soon, he will give his heart to another woman (mine is already starting to have his first toddler crush on his sister's best friend *sad sigh*)!!
2007-11-30 02:47:20 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
He will eventually grow out of it a little bit. My 10 year old is still a huge mommas boy. Try having him a play date over. Or giving him things to do that's a little different from what he does everyday to distract him for a little while. It's amazing what boys think of their moms.
2007-11-30 04:59:53 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
My son is 16 months and VERY much a momma's boy. I know exactly what you are going through. I unfortunatly don't know how to help the situation though. I will be interested to find out the answers you get though.
2007-11-30 02:19:44 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋