what do you do when your husband can't see eye to eye on your child's education?

Question

I always have this problem whenever I try discussing the next best path for our child's education. He would either immediately shoot my idea down the drain or show that he's Mr Know It All and discourage my further intervention into our child's education. He thinks I have been too overly concerned with this issue but tell me, which parent wouldn't? I feel very stressed and frustrated whenever I'm being discouraged, especially by him! I need advice badly!

Answer 1

MY dear you have got a great question here,for I was begining to think I was the only one with this problem.my ex husband and i are going through the same thing.Well this what I've been doing and I plan on doing this for enterity,you make your own decision when it comes to your child and if his interested at all then his old enough to ask about his sons education if not then keep it to yourself and go on,we as woman have to do what we can for our children and help them and let them know that we are here for them and no matter what we will always be here.I wish you all the luck for you and remember if your husband is interested at all let him ask and you do your job and take care of your child.

Answer 2

I too have met with this same kind of resistance from my husband. We all have our own opinions about what we think is best but personally I feel since I do most of the emotional child rearing that I have better insight into what my child needs. I finally got to the point where I just stopped discussing it. I tell him how are children are doing, when they are having trouble and with what and if he wants to make a comment or suggestion I listen but most of the time he's just more interested in knowing not participating. I wish it were different but it's not and I'm not going to stress myself out trying to compromise with him. I figure if he wants to be involved he will be. It's not like he doesn't know what's going on.

Answer 3

What exactly are you disagreeing on?

The main point is, its all about your child, so both of you need to make sure that you're thinking of them first (which, i'm sure you are, its just that sometimes parents try to live through their children & control their lives. For example, when i was in elementary school my mom would not allow the school to put my sister and me in bilingal education classes with the Mexican students learning English while we would learn Spanish. Well wouldn't ya know, its now one of the most useful languages on Earth. My mom's personal feelings got in the way of my education.) You need to tell your husband how you feel. Confront him, but let him know you don't want to fight, you want to come to an agreement for your child's sake, but stand your ground!

Answer 4

you do need to elaborate a little more. If it's just a matter of you wanting your kids to do more homework, then just instigate it as you see fit and don't even go to the point of discussion, on the other hand if your talking about school changes etc, it's a whole other issue.

Answer 5

Well what exactly is it your not seeing eye-to-eye on? Private schools vs. public schools? Tutors? Learning Centers?

Everyone has their own opinion on private schools especially relgious ones. All I know is kids hate private schools, but it does better prepare them for college. I went to public and my bestfriend & cousins went to private together. Their studies were alot harder than ours, it prepared them much better. They even had summer reading lists.

Adults I know in their 30s & 40s who went to a Catholic private school didn't only hate it, but none of them are currently church attenders.

It really depends what your not seeing eye to eye on. It might be as simple as whats above.

Answer 6

My vote goes to the parent who wants private school.

Answer 7

What issues dont you see eye to eye on? You're too vague.