My 2 year old goes to her grandparents 1 day a week whilst I do some charity work but for the past few weeks is refusing to go. I went with her today and I wonder if its possible for her to be bored there because the things they do with seem dull and they are still giving her toys that she had when she was first born?
Any ideas
2007-11-30 01:56:00 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
Charity begins in the home.
2007-11-30 02:00:08 · answer #1 · answered by $Sun King$ 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
It is most likely to be because she doesn't want to be separated from you. If you have a word with the grandparents, you will probably find that once you are gone she settles quickly and enjoys herself. Do not give up your charity work, it is good for you to do something outside of being a mummy - and it will stand your daughter in good stead for nursery school. Getting her used to being left with other people now will not shock her so much when it comes to being left at school.
Children of this age don't need much by way of toys - a colouring book and some crayons is great - but you could bring some of her favorites with her. Show her grandparents how to interact with her, playing games. Anything that catches her attention like singing and dancing with her and 'tea party's'.
2007-11-30 02:07:45 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she's just being a clingy two year old?
If not, why don't you bring a bag of her toys around with you, preferably those that don't cause too much mess (!!!), and take them with you when you leave. You are getting free childcare from her grandparents, you can't expect them to update her toy collection or to arrange fun activities every single week. saying that, you could also drop hints as to the activities that she really likes to do and suggest that they do these things when you're not there, as they'll love how cute it is? I'm sure they'd be devastated if they knew she was bored at their house and this way you can try to change things without hurting their feelings.
Good luck x
2007-11-30 02:06:24 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Of course a 2 year old can be bored! Babies need stimulation as much as older children and if everything is samey they find it boring.
Your daughter may just be feeling separation anxiety, or she's not being stimulated. Try spending time with her while she's at her grandparents but letting them interact with her rather than you so you can see where the problem may lie.
I second the answer about bringing toys that she's really interested in to their house too - that's a great idea!
2007-11-30 02:05:31 · answer #4 · answered by Ehryn 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Certainly she can be bored. Or she just might not want to leave mommy. Either way, if it is just 1 day a week I think it is fine. She will learn that sometimes mommy has to go and do things for herself (and for others) and that it is OK to have another caregiver sometimes.
Next time bring some toys with you that she might be more interested in or even give some suggestions. Say "Janie has really been into coloring lately so I brought some crayons. Maybe you could have her color up at the kitchen table" or "Janie is being really active lately. She loves when you put some pillows on the floor for her to climb and jump on".
2007-11-30 02:01:53 · answer #5 · answered by Rob 5 · 4⤊ 1⤋
Yep, sounds bored to me. Why not let her take a favourite toy from home, a couple of library books, etc. Or just ask "Mum, Little Buggins really really wants to know how to .... make buns? build with lego? ... Can you show her?"
Sounds like they need a prod in the ear before she turns into a little monster specially for them. Tell them even a walk to the shop or the library is an adventure when you're 2.
my outlaws used to be a bit like that, you just have to be blunt sometimes.
2007-11-30 02:11:14 · answer #6 · answered by who me? 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
A phase i would say, she is probably going through a clingy phase because she is older and understands that u leave her on that day, I wouldn't stop her from going though for 2 reasons
1. She needs to spend time with her Grandparents
2.She needs to learn it's ok that u go to work and then you come back
My neice is the same sometimes about going to her nannas but once there she happy!
2007-12-01 08:59:35 · answer #7 · answered by sally c 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you dont pay a toddler enough attention, if the toys arent aimed at someone of that age group then a child will start to feel uncomfortable in the situation. If theyre read stories, allowed to watch preschool tv and are given enough attention they wont feel bored variety is the key. If they have been given discipline like children seen not heard, they might have felt unloved and ignored they wont want to go there.
2007-11-30 02:05:38 · answer #8 · answered by a beautiful lie 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think 2 year olds can get bored as much as adults can. Maybe you could ask them to get one or two toys that she likes for when she goes, or take a couple from your house for when she goes?
Maybe they are stuck for ideas, you could try suggesting activities that your daughter and they would enjoy doing together.
2007-11-30 02:07:26 · answer #9 · answered by puffin57 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hats off for doing the charity work and don't give it up. It could be a bit of seperation anxiety my 2 yr old is a bit clingy at the moment. try and get her/him to choose some toys to take and get their own bag to pack before they go.
2007-11-30 02:06:14 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
She may be bored but if you ensure she's getting attention and being loved and cared for you've no need to feel bad about leaving her with her grandparents. She may be realising she has power to affect you and be working on developing it, children are clever. You need your own space sometime too. Go with your gut feel and deal with any guilt.
2007-11-30 08:44:37 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋