Guys that take really long breaks between girlfriends--?

Question

what goes through your mind when you do finally start dating someone?

Answer 1

Mostly...1) are you going to accept me and/or introduce me to new things as options....or break apart my life to make yourself look better or make me like what you like?
Also, 2) are you a dedicated person far as exercise, sex, etc. ...or are you more interested in how I need to do stupid things to "earn your sex" regardless of if I'm in as good shape as yourself.
Superficially, too, you'd better believe if I do 1 hours of working out a day I want my g/f to also put forth the effort to look and be just as fit.

Some people are big on doing the talk but not the walk...other people do the walk even without the talk.
When I start dating someone I want to make sure it is about having fun and growing into each other's lives and efforts, not trying to make the other person more like them or "change" them.
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A lot of it is based on experience from past relationships. Oddly enough it is in some ways much easier to have flings, where you could care less how dedicated a girl is or how well you get along, then look for a girlfriend who is not only great at those type of things but also enriches your own growth as a person. Finding both can take a long time hence why some guys take such long breaks...

Answer 2

I'm not a guy--but I'm a girl that has been taking a really long break between boyfriends.

Well, it's been 6 months. And at first, I wouldn't even give a guy the time of day. I wasn't ready to date, and wasn't over my ex so stayed away from the scene. I wanted to find myself again and most of all, just have fun and be carefree.

Since then, it's gotten easier. But dating is still weird for me. I have some trust issues from my previous relationship [ we dated 4 years and it ended badly]...so I'm usually pretty skeptical of guys intentions. It's nice to have someone to talk to, spend time with. But on several of my dates, even though it was new and exciting, I definitely distanced myself and didn't want to get close. So I knew I still wasn't ready.

Just recently, I've been talking to someone-- and I'm so excited, he seems great, we click...I look forward to talking to him and seeing him. But still, part of me wants to take things really slow.

I think you have to be your own judge on this one. Just take your time. There's nothing wrong with long breaks between girlfriends/boyfriends. It actually might prevent the whole "rebound" date...or you getting involved before your ready. I think it's a good idea.The time I've been spending single has been great for me- I've caught up with old friends, and rediscovered parts of me I've forgotten all about.

Just trust your judgement. If you're into someone, you'll be able to tell....and if part of you is feeling a bit skeptical or uneasy, maybe you should wait awhile. A lot of it has to do with timing.....Good luck!

Answer 3

For me it's almost like falling for the first time all over again. The feelings have been dead for so long that it feels almost like you've never had them before, Although I will admit that it does leave a guy groping for what to say and how to act because he can't remember anymore. Oh well, at the very least it helps prevent bringing baggage to the relationship.

Answer 4

It gives a guy time to heal and get to know himself better.

When he starts dating someone else, his head is clearer and hopefully, he doesn't make the same mistakes in that relationship as he did in his previous ones.

Answer 5

i'm a girl, but starting dating again would take me time for healing, maybe it will last for half a year?

Answer 6

I wonder what she looks like in the buff.

Answer 7

i hope im ready for this. thats usually what goes thru my head

Answer 8

that its time to break up..