I have lived in the same old town for 12 years since I was 3, and all the time I have been here I have only had a few temporary friends.
I am really shy and find it hard to talk to people I don't know, and my parents restrict me from doing some things that normal people do.
I am moving house in January and I am determined to make friends there.
Please can you give me some tips?
2007-11-29 23:09:13 · 7 answers · asked by oh oh no! :( 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
BTW "The Naked Chef", you're not Jamie Oliver are you?
2007-11-29 23:19:55 · update #1
Be yourself...If you build it, they will come..
Couldn't resist quoting field of dreams
2007-11-29 23:15:02 · answer #1 · answered by Moral Kiosk 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's hard to make friends when your parents restrict everything you do, but there's a way around that. After doing the maths, I do believe you are a teenager. Feel free to use this to your advantage. Teenage years are notoriously difficult and full of rebellion, so do the decent thing and rebel, blaming all of your actions on fluctuating hormones. So if they won't let you go out, argue, scream, shout and do it anyway.
When it comes to actually making friends, the harder you try, the further back you travel. If you think about it, a new town means a new school, and a new building to get your head around. On your first day, just get used to the new environment. You may find that some people approach you looking for friendship. If they don't, don't worry, the next day, pick a subject from your timetable and ask someone, from a group you'd like to infiltrate, what room you need to go to, what the teacher is like, whether they're likely to be annoyed if you're late, basically anything that springs to mind. If the conversation starts to peter out, end it, fast. Say thank you and let them walk on while you do something small like put your timetable back in your bag, or retie your shoe laces. If your initial conversation is awkward, they're unlikely to want to make friends with you. The easy way around this is to keep the conversation short and light-hearted, after all, if you make a good first impression, they're likely to remember you in a good light, which is always advantageous.
Joining clubs can also help, although chess club should be avoided unless you've won chess championships. Unless you're good at football, I also wouldn't bother. Basketball is usually a good one to join, as members of the basketball club tend to be what I like to call mediators. In other words, they're friends with everyone.
Just give it a go, but don't try too hard otherwise you'll put people off. And it's quite likely that people will approach you, as humans are a naturally inquisitive species, so have in mind your hobbies, favourite music tracks and any questions you feel may lead on to conversational answers.
2007-11-30 00:24:54 · answer #2 · answered by Katri-Mills 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Be yourself, but be prepared to learn about other peoples hobbies and interest. This doesn't mean you comprimise who you are, but don't be afraid to talk to people who you wouldn't normally socialise with. You may find that you have a lot in common.
At the same time it is also useful to think about your own hobbies and interest. Do you like sport, drama, music, or writing? Join a club where you can meet others who like these things. If you are a shy person, this will give you the opportunity to become more confident.
2007-11-29 23:23:46 · answer #3 · answered by Classy Spice 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh, you're the shy type? Me too! I feel your pain.
It might seem really hard to, but try your best to talk to people. Try starting up a conversation... you know, talk about anything.
When I started uni, I was so nervous about making friends. But one day I came in early and there was just two guys sitting in the room. We were all quiet for a while, and then I just broke the silence by saying 'well this is bloody boring, isn't it?' and after that, we just started chatting.
Oh, and once you to start chatting with people, just be yourself ^-^
2007-11-29 23:24:30 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
A wonderful book was written by Dale Carnegie some six decades back. It is titled..How to make friends and influence people.. It is still available. Otherwise ,it will be found in any library. I suggest you to go through it and change your life completely.
2007-11-30 01:29:40 · answer #5 · answered by yogeshwargarg 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
never lend or borrow money if you can help it as this wrecks friendships and always be yourself never go out of your way where people will take advantage and always be a good listener never be false always be honest and always be there for someone if they are there for you x good luck
2007-11-29 23:23:17 · answer #6 · answered by jackie n 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
dont be shy get out there and b trusting and dont let ppl not trust you thats wat friendship is!! trust!!!!!
2007-11-29 23:26:36 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋