would/do you raise your kids the same way you were brought up..?

Question

if yes,why?
if no,why and what will you change?

crazy girl...couldn't agree more..i will never hit my kids like i was hit

Answer 1

No i won't i didn't have a bad upbringing i will just do it differently. I won't hit my children to make them learn their lesson i will let them know why they are wrong for that and explain what might of happened by talking to them and making them understand. I will punish them by sitting them in a quite area for a set time to let them cool down and think what they have done.

My parents never really listened to me or my brother so i will form a relationship where they can talk to me about anything. I know sometimes i really want to reach out to my mum and tell her things but i don't have that relationship so can't.

My parents didn't treat me or my brother the same i got everything i wanted really and he didn't i don't know why it might be cos i was first born but that shouldnot make any difference to how you treast your children. I look back now and feel so sad for him. On the other hand my parents punished me more than my brother even for little things where as my brother hardly got punished and he could be quite naughty.

I will encourage my children to take part in new things and to continue with what they do. I will also offer support for their choices as they learn from their mistakes and i can't learn for them. This is very much the opposite to my parents they tell me and my brother what they want us to do for our future and do not support any choices that are different to what me and my brother have chosen.

I want my children to form good relationships with both parents and we i want to do things as a family and i will show them love and care. My brother has formed good relationships with both my mum and dad as he does things with both parents i only have a relationship with my mum as i do things and spend time with her i have never spent or had a hug from my dad and find it hard to be around him and we don't get on very well.

Answer 2

No I would not. Times are changing and kids these days learn alot and are exposed to so many things because of magazines,t.v, friends and even through the internet. Back in the culture was followed but this days you have to be careful what ideas get into your childrens heads. If there is any question on any topic you should be the first one there to help your kids. Whether its about sex or life or any problem that they may have.

Answer 3

I would like to raise my children (if blessed) the way i am BUT only the things i like...i am raised in a culture which is kinda restricted to your own family and all stranger dont have any meaning in a person life which i dont like...i am raised in a environment where u r not indepedent financially nor socially so i would like to raise my kids to have really islamic thoughts not the one we have in our culture in the name of islam but i will keep this in mind that they would come into this world at a different time than mine...i guess its saying of Ali (RA) that dont treat your children the same way as they came into this world for different times...correct me i dont remember exactly that saying...

but in the end i am not saying i am raised wrongly, my parents as a whole raised me well and tried their best, some might be my own weakness or personal likings.

Answer 4

YES... because i was brought up and raised by my parents as a happy, healthy person.

Raising a happy, healthy child is one of the most challenging jobs a parent can have – and one of the most rewarding. Yet many of us don't approach parenting with the same focus we would use for a job. We may act on our gut reactions, or just use the same parenting techniques our own parents used -- whether or not they were effective.

Answer 5

Yes, the same way

When I get married ISA, my marriage will be an intercultural marriage.

I have talked about this with habibi and we agree to raise our kids (if blessed) having the best of our cultures.

We are going to raise them as I was raised. As parents as their best friends, with a good communication in all aspects and with a caring heart.

And also with the good values he and I were raised, no matter if I am Christian and he is Muslim. But with values that lead them in the good road to be good people.

Answer 6

No, Never, I was treated without respect although a kid i had my rights. I was treated like i was no good.

I will reason with my kids, make them understand why i do not agree with them, why i do not allow them to do things or behave, I will treat them as equals from the day there are born so that when they grow up instead of being frustarated and bitter they would be humans who care and understand.

Answer 7

I will give them Love , and teach them to respect others , even with different believes or cultures.

I will make them play sports , read books , social life.

I think I will never hit them , and i hope i will never shout to them also ,

I will give them freedom , but not freedom to do what may harm others or themselves.

I hope I will raise a good people who can change this hard life,

Love u all , wish u the best ,




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Answer 8

No, my life was terrible, and still remains the same. When I was a kid, my dad loved scolding me for little reasons,but today when my 8 yr old sister ran off on her own (in a shopping mall), I found her and scolded her, but then my dad blamed me as if I wasn't taking care of here (it wasn't easy because there were both of my younger sister's), but he used to lock me up in a closet downstrairs all alone in the dark when I was 8 (as if he was better). When I was 9, my parents divorced, making my life harder to handle. I loved my grandparents on my father's side, but then my grandparents from my mother's side moved to Pakistan, I had to follow them of course. When I came back after 3 years, my dad was completely different, he got married to another woman (he didn't tell me he was getting married), was nicer to my younger siblings making my life unfair, on Eid, I don't know where to celebrate my grandfather on my mother's side get's sad when I'm not there, but I want to celebrate with my father's side of the family, and on my birthday (which is at the end of the year) i always go to my father's side of the family (I live with my mother when not on the holidays), so my grandfather on my mother's side loves making fun of me/teasing (but i don't care because it shows how heartless soldiers are (he's a general)). Now my younger sister's are trying to take over my father's side of the family, the only thing i care about, making my life almost meaningless. I can't tell anymore, too depressed.

I'll change everything, take care of my future children fairly, try my best not to divorce my future wife, I won't marry another woman without telling anyone, try to not make my future children's life miserable, like i said, no more because i'm too depressed.

Answer 9

Generally yes. I also have to make sure that I dont repeat my parents' mistakes and and listen to my dad's advice all the time, because he also wants me to learn from the past.

What will I change. I will make sure that I have the final word on what kind people are allowed in our house as family friends.

I will make sure that my priority is to look after and provide good life to my family, and my wife's priority is to look after the house and kids with my assitance, not the other way round.

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Answer 10

Yes and no - I take the positive lessons and improve on them.

Every child needs to learn manners and respect for elders, how to eat in public, use a knife and fork, etc.

I do encourage freedom of expression and more of a feelling of safety becuase its sad that kids can't roam safely out there these days.

So the world has changed and you need to reflect that in the way you bring up your kids.