Are you willing to step up and point it out, when you see it?
2007-11-29 22:50:15 · 10 answers · asked by Nunya Bidniss 7 in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
Because the victims are scared to death and ashamed to say anything about it. You know damn well I am. Guess who's claiming to have throat cancer. Still able to armwrestle though of course. I wish someone would marry him and beat his @ss. (Sorry - I guess I needed to get that out).
2007-11-29 22:55:30 · answer #1 · answered by tbm 4 · 4⤊ 1⤋
Most abused men or women do not report the abuse. Usually it occurs in a home where neighbors do not see it. Without real evidence people tend to keep quiet even they know by the sounds of violence that there is something bad going on.
Because the abused are so unwilling to report it, and because, as a result, it is so widespread, it earns this reputation, Deservedly so.
Yes, the average person, if they have absolute proof that this is going on, should report it. They may be stopping an activity that increases in violence as time goes on. It can, and often does, end in death as a result of the abuse or as an effort at self defense.
2007-11-30 07:02:35 · answer #2 · answered by organbuilder272 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
It IS the unspoken crime as all tooo many women do NOT report it. Hence, UNSPOKEN crime. And I will say this to ALL WIMPS or or WUSSIE'S out there. STEP up and hit or slap me. I garantee somewone IS going to the hospital. NO male should EVER raise his hand to a woman.
2007-11-30 08:00:24 · answer #3 · answered by GRUMPY 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I can speak from past personal experience as I was married to a violent abusive man. There were 2 children. I tried to get help many times, took him to court and guess who had to sign the peace bond? Me. He was persuasive. When it went to court again, my lawyer told me to shut up and not speak. I was covered in bruises that my ex made sure no one would see. I was forbidden to speak about it or show the proof. This went on time after time. There is a sense of shame and people do not understand and yet those of the family that knew would not speak up on my behalf. Why? They were afraid of him as well. In 1980 or 81, God brought a wonderful man into my life. I also became the Blessed Mom to his 3 boys. They were great matchmakers. They are my boys and good buddies, especially the one. We were married in 1982, and I couldn't be happier. I have spoken out against violence but it seems people don't want to hear about it because it makes them feel uncomfortable or they don't know how to react. A friend of ours is very fragile and very ill. Her husband demanded that she wait on him hand and foot. I told her that she needed to show him the door, because in essence he was killing her. She is on Dialysis, and is not well and has lost a lot of weight. She knew my situation and heeded my advice. She kicked him to the curb. She is close to 80. Because I have been there, I do speak up. Sometimes people listen, sometimes they don't but at least I have had my say. People have different experiences this was mine. One more thing. My son committed suicide because of his biological father's { I use that word loosely}
abused him sexually. I didn't know until after his death. There are so many consequences.
2007-11-30 07:23:30 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
Did you know that even when women report it, they don't always get help? I got told it was a domestic problem between my husband and me.
Would I point it out? I volunteer at an abuse shelter and also have pointed it out to a friend. Yes, I would point it out. Too many women think they have to stay and take it because they married the guy.
2007-11-30 07:00:51 · answer #5 · answered by Breezey is saying HAPPY BIRTHDAY 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋
any thing designed to establish superiority over the other spouse is the unspoken crime. it is the personal family issue. legal remedy is ther for the victimized spouse. i can help when required.
2007-11-30 06:58:26 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Because the woman feels like it is gonna stop.
Or she is ashamed that she is in this relationship and is embarassed to tell others.
Or she is afraid of what he will do!
2007-11-30 07:06:21 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Pointing it out won't solve the problem, Bo G.
Sposal abuse has been here forever & will remain here*
2007-11-30 07:01:25 · answer #8 · answered by Me 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Many victims don't report it. Usually out of fear or out of the incorrect notion that they somehow deserve it. Many witnesses don't report it because "it's none of my business" or "I don't want to get involved".
2007-11-30 06:54:35 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
because when u speak your spouse beats you up!
2007-11-30 06:57:39 · answer #10 · answered by elizaday83 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋