Do you think it is wrong?

Question

to shut the door to the nursey and my bedroom door at night. My baby has started shrieking for attention in the middle of the night. Its VERY loud and goes on for an hour or more. Our rooms are very close and I'm exhausted. I know its only for attention as she laughs when I go in. Do u think it would be wrong of me to shut the doors to get a bit more rest and let her shriek it out? she is 6 months

just to clarify, she is not crying but shrieking loudly. She does it during the day too, when she is playing

Answer 1

Personally I wouldn't shut the door to her, as if something were to happen, you wouldn't have a clue.
I also wouldn't let her shriek it out, as she needs to know that you ARE there and that she's not alone. Perhaps you could try putting the cot in your room for a bit and see if that helps?

It's annoying when they go through this stage, but she will grow out of it.

Have you tried playing music in her room? or putting a few toys and books in her cot with her? Is her room very dark? Is she teething?

I'd try putting on a bit of music and giving her things to entertain her, put a nightlight on and try teething gels. As a last resort, try her in your room.

Hope you all get a bit more rest.

Answer 2

I would suggest leaving the doors open...putting her in her crib, and you laying down in your bed. I would let her have her shrieking fit until she fell asleep and I could check on her to make sure she was alright...Then I would go to sleep. She needs a few times of this to realize...just because I do this,,,mommy is NOT going to come in here. This habit will stop and she will eventually know that crib means sleep-NOT SHRIEK! If it were me,,,even if this started taking place...I would probably never shut her door or mine-just for fear I couldn't hear her, if something were to happen. She could get sick in the middle of the night, need a diaper change and cry,,,ect... Good luck and get some rest!

Answer 3

hi it's hard i know as i have four children at the age of five and under!! what i did when they went through this faze was i give them a bath with a light lavender bubble bath in it as it helps to calm and relax the baby/child, (about half an hour before your set bed time) as routine is also the key!!! put nappy and fresh clothes on. you may want to try giving her a spoon of calpol or medised i personallt prefer to use medised as it's better than calpol and help babies and children sleep easier, although it very simular to calpol it's just better, you can buy it from boots chemist and most good retailers and chemists or some g.p will precribe it for you. i would think about giving a spoon of calpol/medised so that if or when she has her tantrum she don't over heat quickly!!! also if he/she is teething or starting to teeth then it will sooth the pain of that. then take your child up to his/her bedroom ,don't have a bright light on use a dimmer ligh or night light or even just leave the landing light on with the door slightly open to allow alittle light in to the bedroom, so the baby don't feel as alone!! sit in a chair and cuddle your baby while reading him/her a bedtime story. when the story is finished tell her it is now time to go to sleep, give her a soft kiss and lay her in to her cot, make sure she is warm and try getting a dream show which is somethink that goes in the room and projects light/pictures around the room, with sounds of soothing lulabies. walk out the room and shut the door to but not fully as when he/she hears the door click when shouting it fully he/ she may feel like you have gone away and that he/she is all alone. when really he/she need to know that it sleep time and that u are still around- but only if he/she genuine needs you and not justs wants ur full attention !!!. i useally give my baby's his and her bottle when i lay them down in there cot as my youngest is 8mths and like to hold her own bottle or you could give the bottle while your reading the story.i then put the baby monitor on lowish just so that i can still hear if there is a genuine problem.it may not be sucsesful straight away but if you stick to the routine it will work!!! good luck and enjoy your sleep. x x x

Answer 4

hi hun, sorry to hear you are having a rough time. In my personal opinion i would say it was fine what you are doing. My daughter went through a similar stage at abouta year old.We tried the control crying thing where you go in then leave them ten mins then go in again and leave them 15mins etc. Each time you go in, just say "no, its time to sleep" or something similar.Dont pick them up or anything. It worked for us and she was back to sleeping through after a very tiring week of sticking to it. As long as you know that she is safe and that she doesnt desperatly need you then let her shriek for a bit, it wont do her any harm. I know people have different opinions on this but in MY opinion, you arent doing anything wrong.Good luck hun and i hope she settles soon x

Answer 5

What I did was go in to the room and lay my daughter down again without saying anything leave the room .. I didnt like the idea of letting her cry it out without checking she was ok..The first and only night I did this it took 20 attempts till she fell asleeep and since then no probs ..and this way I know when she crys she needs me. Mind u she was older than 6 months she was about a year. I,m not sure that at 6 months its appropriate.

Good Luck

Answer 6

Ok firstly, how cute, but secondly you are living the worst form of torture......sleep deprivation. If she is giggling at you when you go into her then it is a huge game to see how loud she can be to get your attention, lol. You need to do what you can to get her to believe you when it is night time that she sleeps unless sick or teething and in pain or discomfort. You know your baby and what she is actually doing (trying to be cute and adorable, which no doubt she is to get you to stay and play with her). If you have the money the next best thing to do is buy a baby monitor if you don't have one, or even if you can borrow one for a little while off a friend. Shut your door and your baby's door and put the monitor on very low so you can still hear her just in case it turns ugly and she gets very upset. Then get tough. When your baby is in her cot does she sleep in a sleeping bag like grobag ones or does she sleep in sheets and blankets. If in sheets and blankets you will have to keep putting her back into the bedding so she doesn't get cold, but if she sleeps in sleeping bags (they have arm and neck holes and zip up) then you don't need to worry because she wont get cold because she is zipped into her bedding. Hang in there it may take a few nights to a week, but hopefully she is a fast learner and you can get some sleep soon. If she gets it maybe she could talk to my son and get him to lay off me for a few nights, lol

Answer 7

Put a radio under her cot on either softly or with static. so there is a noise for her to listen to and distract her

but yes you can close the door you know the different sounds she makes if she is distressed by now.

the other thing i found great were egg lights they are an egg shaped thing that the lights change colour and its not bright.(distraction again)
or just put a dull nightlight in her room so its not too dark
good luck i know how exhausting it can get and you just want 5 mins peace

Answer 8

If you know she's doing it just for fun then there's nothing wrong with it. She needs to learn that night time is for sleeping and at her age is the perfect age to make sure she gets into that routine and don't give into her "silly games". If she's had her bottle and you know she's changed then I see no problem at all with shutting her door so you can get some rest. Just be consistent with it. Good luck:)

Answer 9

Mydaughter didthis too. I simpy made sure she as warm, comfortable, fed, changed, gave her a cuddle & put her in her ot & closed the door. Its not cruel at all, its just showing them that its night time, time to sleep & mummy will still be ther in the morning. Yu did the right thing hun.

Answer 10

it sould be fine as long as u make sure she isnt cryin when she relli needs you. i suggest putting her into a routine "nit leve her to cry for 10mins then check on her the next nite leave her for half an hour and keep on incresin it soon u shud have a nearl un distracted nite. the only time shell wake up shud be for feedin

hope that helps