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After this question I asked yesterday about my partners attitiude towards my family, today he started talking about my sister again but instead of calling her "your sister" or by her name, it was "that fat & UGLY sister of yours"
I told him AGAIN I didn't like it & there was no need for it & he thinks he is justified because "she doesn't like him & she patronises him"
The truth is, his sisters have always hated me & looked down on me but he says I am not allowed to call his sisters fat or ugly
(which I don't) because they are HIS sisters & how dare I. ( was trying to make a point & see how he likes it.)
HOW can he not see this blatant double standard.
I've been with him for 6 years (we live together) & his disrespect for my family (& therefore me) is really getting me down.
Is that a good enough of a reason to leave someone or am I just being petty?

Answer 1

he seems to neither respect you, your family or your request to stop doing something that hurts you. kick him to the kerb!

Answer 2

Calm down. It is not a good enough reason to leave him if you are already married.... the two of you are not married. If you left it would be ok by me. Not that what I think counts in your relationship but because you are asking.

If all of your relatives hate each other and you and him as well... your family get togethers.. will be oh so angry. Is that a great way to raise kids? Or even an enjoyable way to spends ones life?

On the other hand..if all this is a tiny little fight and the two of you cool down... then stay. But get married ok?

Answer 3

Dont give up immediatly, try and get him to sit down and talk about this in a rational way and reallt spell it out to him that the me he disrespects your family the less you respect him as a partner. If this then does not work then you will have to have a long hard think as to whether there is a future here that you can happily live with, as ther is no point prolonging a relationship that is already over.

Answer 4

Well, it does show that your partner has a complete lack of respect for your family and therefore, to a degree, you also. Maybe he's jealous of the relationship you have with your sister and feels that because she doesn't like him she will influence you against him?
All relationships have areas of disagreement but if this is the only serious one you have with him then it's not really something to cause a breakup. Just keep reminding him that by calling your sister names he's making himself less attractive to you with this childish attitude towards your family.
Best of luck but you can sort him out if you really want to!!

Answer 5

He is being a butt head and he doesn't deserve some one like you, he deserves some one like him self. He should not be treating your family like there were animals, they are your family which makes them his family, if he can't or wont respect them or your wishes to stop degrading them, then it is time to move on and leave him to ponder why he is a lone. could just be a ploy to get rid of you, by making you choose to leave him in stead of him being a man and ending the relationship like a real man and not a kid. If you have kids take them away, you do not want them turning out like he is, abusive, disrespectful, judgmental and hateful.
Sorry just speaking my mind, any way you should leave.
Good luck....cya....

Answer 6

i think he needs to be shown the door. if he's like that about your family, then what the hell does he think of you!!!! it seems like he has no respect at all. it seems to me like its ok for him to slag your family off but woe betide anyone who does that to his family....what a jerk

you are not being petty at all. put it this way i'm really annoyed at my wife's sister because she decided not to even help with our wedding, although my wife helped with hers and she did'nt even do things that sisters do like choosing a a dress, or even helping to make the cake, (amongst other things) but i just keep quiet because i respect her sister as a person. what you need to remember is that blood is thicker than water. if this guy do'nt rspect your family he wont respect you. partners come and go but your family are family. id give him an ultimatum. either you sort it out or your going to dumpsville.....population,you

good luck

Answer 7

if he is treating you and your family bad and bringing you down let him know and if he keeps it up then yes that is a good reason to leave him b/c love is supposed to be cherished not wasted and if you don't like it or don't love him leave him..........he needs show some consideration and treat you right......if he REALLY loves you then he will Listen and respect you.......if he keeps up don't waste your time with him hes just gonna hurt you.....you can do so much better and you are a better person then him in the heart and just plain better show him wrong.......your family is human beings just as well as you, not animals of some sort so he should show some respect to them not treat them like nuttin.........also your family is his so truly he has no reason to say that....to me he is acting like a kid and needs to grown up enter the real world..... good luck

Answer 8

no u have good reason ur family will always be there and ive lost a brother, im saying you can find a million more men but never another sister hear me

Answer 9

just been petty , cause i get the same problem with my oldest sister cause im going out with some one yonger than me , she doent want any thing to do with me, but better still her husband is older than her & she is yonger than him, so she ought to look her self in mirror. so just dont take any notice in what they are saying to you or just tell them to grow up or get on with their own lifes & leave you a lone.

Answer 10

If you can't get along, and you are miserable, leave. If you have children, however, you may want to try to get counseling first. If you do have children, I hope that they are not seeing and hearing all of this!!!