My husband is a professor in a university and that's how we got married, I was a graduate student and he was an assistant professor (we had a *little* age difference).
Now Im having problems with his female students constantly having crushes on him (I did once!) but they all know he's married and I'm pregnant with twins, walking in university all the time with my baby bump (I work there too).
I know I shouldn't bother, but I can't help and they're even discussing how hot he is on some internet boards and we keep getting anonymous emails to his academic address saying they have a crush on him.
I just find it mean to myself, and they know I used to be a student when we hooked up...so they're just gossiping about it.
What do I do? How do I let go? Is this being too sensitive because I'm pregnant?
2007-11-29 18:07:08 · 12 answers · asked by Rachel 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He was single when I had a crush on him, and now he's married, waiting for twins and EVERYBODY knows that cause I work in the same department. That's what pisses me off.
2007-11-29 18:18:23 · update #1
Forget it and focus on the baby and making your home the best place in the world for him to be. Decorate the nursery. Remember as long as you are kinder, sweeter, and more charming than they, he will want to come home to you.
Answer the emails sweetly saying "I'm flattered that you think my husband is a great professor - yes, I have a crush on him too" and laugh it off. These girls will be out of his class next semester and he'll have a new crop to fight off. Make sure to give him wonderful pictures for his desk so they al know he's married with children.
The twins will be so cute - dress them up and take them to class once a semester so they can all ooooo and ahhhhhhhh over them.
Joy to you!
2007-11-29 18:43:33 · answer #1 · answered by frillyfroofroo 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What does your husband have to say about all of this?
Have you talked to him about how you feel? You don't mention anything like that.
Well, first things first. You are pregnant with his twins. forget the hormone thing, I get tired of everything being blamed on that.
what you're describing here are real things happening.
It would bother me to.
Talk to your husband, don't make any accusations, just let him know it bothers you and ask him if it bothers him.
Remember one thing, you can't stop people from talking, they are pretty darn jealous you have him and not them.
Try not to be jealous and let them know "YOU know he's hot, he's your husband !!
You don't need to do anything except like i said.
You'll need a little extra TLC from hubby and let him know that too.
Ask your husband if you have anything to worry about?
Then let him know, how hard it is and just seems outright disprespectful they are allowed to carry on this way when you two are married and you are carrying his twins. Then tell him you love him and start talking baby names.
Keep your chin up and your nose down ~
And congrats to you both...:)
2007-11-29 18:35:09 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your husband must be Fine with a capital F. So therefore women are always gonna find him attractive. Until you find out that hes encouraging them; take it as a compliment that you have a fine husband. Its hard knowing that thats how you to started but Im sure you werent the first one that he dated as a student but you were the first one that he married.. keep that in mind...hope I helped...and also you got that baby bump and its a lovely lady lump and many wish they were in your shoes so let the haters hate on!
2007-11-29 18:37:35 · answer #3 · answered by Shandlan 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are stressing because your're pregnant. Your husband is attractive, which is one of the reasons you married him. Don't be jealous of the students . . . just laugh and mention to him that he still must be that hot guy you married. He will be flattered. Do not doubt that the one he truly loves is the mother of his child.
2007-11-29 18:19:07 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
You're just have a bad case of poor/low self esteem which is letting you feel insecure and threatened.
Fixing low/poor self esteem is really very easy and quick so get busy studying up on self esteem methods and get clear of the jealousy/insecurity trap.
2007-11-29 19:32:10 · answer #5 · answered by jimrich 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
pregnancy is making you overly sensitive. Just be proud you have a man that others want. Be happy he chose you. If he is loving and showing no sign of wanting the attention, or acting on it, I wouldnt worry.
If you trust him, just be proud and happy and lord it over these girls because you have what they want, and can never have.
2007-11-29 18:44:38 · answer #6 · answered by bluegirl6 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't be insecure and jealous that would definitely run him in the opposite directions. Just hope that your marriage is strong and he stays faithful to you. You are pregnant so don't stress out. Talk to him.
2007-11-29 18:13:28 · answer #7 · answered by TwinD 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You signed up for a pre existing condition, and now you don't like it. You knew he had students with crushes because you were one. You accepted that. Now you want the rules changed?
2007-11-29 18:17:10 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
I'd be upset but he can't help it if he's good looking. He really should address who ever is doing it though (if he knows). He should probably announce to the class, in a joking way, to stop harrasing him.
2007-11-29 18:13:35 · answer #9 · answered by Cindy 1 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Why take tensions you should feel happy that still female students have crush on your husband knowing he is married.so just dont bother its all temporary crushes.
2007-11-29 18:22:11 · answer #10 · answered by kamal m 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋