Im not sure whats going on, i was engaged and recently got married, and every since my husband got back from deployment i feel like im not worth anything, and that he can do better then me, and when i see other girls that are prettier then me that he knows or used to talk to, i think i wonder if he thinks about how different it oculd have been, or if he wished i would look like that..i think so negative about EVERYTHING when it comes to me and him, not about our relationship but about how he feels about me...how can i fix it? its overwhelming.
2007-11-29 18:06:59 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
See a Doctor. You may have depression.
2007-11-29 18:11:39 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Ho, i do feel for you, I've now been married for 30 years, and for a long time i was like you. i over came this by telling myself that if he wants someone else he would go, weather i liked it or not. so the best and only thing you can do is know your the one he picked, so 1 point for that. 2 your not going to help your relationship by showing your feeling down, let him see your happy side (because there is one) 3 you are you and you will always see other people more attractive,and some less attractive. 4 so make the most of what you have, life's to short to worry about what others have, please know your as good ,if not better than others, your going to have a very unhappy life unless you stop worrying about what mite be.................. enjoy the here and now, your a good person do not let envy take over, just be happy your the only one who can do it, take care , your the tops. and know it susie
2007-11-29 18:25:19 · answer #2 · answered by susiesnowdrop 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you're able to have listened to that little voice 7 or greater years in the past. so as that area's uncomplicated. You made a call, and experience like its a mistake. i could say no enormous deal, in spite of the undeniable fact that that's. you're 5 weeks faraway from having your new child. Your hormones are raging. you're possibly not htinnking today, so i could wait to talk to this different guy until eventually after the birthing and after some months of being at domicile with him/her. you have multiple issues that are going to be on your strategies, taking it sluggish, and changing your existence constantly. The Dad needs to be a hundred% into this entire deal too cuz there is not something greater durable than elevating an infant on my own. in spite of two loving ppl, it takes 24 hours an afternoon for a minimum of the 1st 3 months, if not 6. Sleep deprivation, exhaustion, multiple thinigs are coming around the nook. Dont complicate it now with yet another guy. in case you experience a similar way some months from now, then confer with the different guy. it could replace your attitude and your husband might replace (will replace one way or yet another) having a new child. reliable success in all factors - have a chuffed healthful infant and placed your energies there.
2016-10-02 05:19:03 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop feeling sorry for yourself and get in there and show him that you are a worthy wife. If you have no self confidence, then go have some lessons on how to become self confident. Do a make-up course etc. It's very surprising how you can improve your image with a little make-up. Besides beauty is only skin deep anyway, it's what's inside that counts.
2007-11-29 20:26:11 · answer #4 · answered by Alwyn C 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your husband treats you with love and respect, then take solace in knowing that he chose to marry you above all others. Had you not had the qualities he wanted, he wouldn't have married you. Each time self doubt comes creeping in, tell yourself that, and know it's true. Love your husband, but also love yourself.
Best Wishes!!
2007-11-29 18:26:33 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are just feeling insecure. If he isn't making you feel that way, then maybe you just need to talk to him and tell him how you feel. He can reassure you that he married you and only you. He loves you. Don't doubt it. Believe in your love. It is there. Maybe you feel that he did a great thing being in the military and you can't compare but you are two different people. There are things you are capable of doing too. Don't sell yourself short.
take care
2007-11-29 18:11:59 · answer #6 · answered by Sarah C 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Seek a way to raise your confidence, try to do things that makes you feel pretty and "worth it", maybe even see a doctor.
I'm pregnant, so I started putting on make up to still feel good. Not that I dont like the baby bump, but I still miss my slim figure.
Maybe you want to talk to your husband about it, he could be supportive and make you feel better
2007-11-29 18:15:44 · answer #7 · answered by Rachel 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He cant help your self esteem...thats why its called "self-esteem" until you get to that point where you can look yourself in the mirror and say Im all that then neither can he. If you need to do something to make yourself feel better then do it. Because he can only see the vibes or self worth that you carry...hope I helped.
2007-11-29 18:25:48 · answer #8 · answered by Shandlan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your self worth has to come from within....you'd be surprized at what men REALLY find pretty. Self confidence radiates through, and even a moderately attractive woman can be judged very pretty if she has the self confidence to back it up. Personality does count a lot, and can add a lot to looks.
Negativity killed the cat. Talk to him and share you feelings....number one rule in a marriage.
2007-11-29 18:12:00 · answer #9 · answered by SuthrenGirlWithGrits 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
i think its a self confidene issue.
if ur husband wanted to go with the pritygirls he knew before you, then he would not have married you. he chose YOU.
that is the most importnat.... and i think that speak very loud
2007-11-29 18:11:09 · answer #10 · answered by envquake 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋