Men: Do liars make better wives?
Are liars more likely to have a successful married life as compared to others? Are you turned on by liars?
2007-11-29 17:46:14 · 15 answers · asked by Razor 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
My honesty destroyed TWO(2)// DOSE// marriages>lol. Go figure.
2007-11-29 19:00:23 · answer #1 · answered by T-Mack 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, because once you start lying it turns into a vicious cycle. Then you are telling more lies to cover for the ones you have already told. And sooner or later the truth always comes out. I am a very honest person, maybe to the point of being brutally honest. I will always tell the truth even if that means someones feelings get hurt.
And you can not have a good marriage with out trust. And it only takes getting caught in one lie for that trust to be gone.
2007-11-29 17:59:51 · answer #2 · answered by cris 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are we talking about men who lie when their wives ask if they look fat in some article of clothing, or men who lie about who they have been sleeping with lately, or where the cash went from the checking account, etc?
My husband is a good man. However, he is also politically correct, (smart) when it comes to saying certain "truths" to me. I appreciate his love and concern for my feelings, yet I DO want to know the truth when I ask him if the pants I currently have on make my butt look larger than normal, or it it just happens to accentuate my ample behind to its best presentation. Even married women like to know that when they go out in public they look as good as they can.
Turned on by a liar? No.
However, sometimes I am not always 100% truthfull with my husband either. I boost his self esteem whenever I have a chance, such as when I ask him how work went and then listen as intently as I possibly can because he enjoys it when I take an interest in what he does, and show him that I have a level of appreciation for the abilities it takes to do his work. Am I as interested in the details he tells me everyday after work? No, I am not. If that makes me a liar, then so be it.
A successfull marriage, whether it be a successfull husband or wife, as it does take two to make it successfull, sometimes determines a lower level of honesty than some folks may want to admit. I have been married long enough to know that the truth is not always best, nor helpfull in a long term relationship.
This is over the little things, not huge things such as infedelity, or theft, or a myriad other activities that can and should lead anyone who experiances them within a marriage straight to divorce court. Which is why most lie about these types of things in the first place, because those who lie about them know they are not acceptable.
Would a woman, or a man, wish to know the truth about her/his spouses late night activities, or that weeken s/he went away with friends? Some would be shocked and more than a little dismayed to find out that spouse was out robbing a bank, or picking up some small child, or runnaway teen to do unspeakable acts with. Do we all just assume that the monsters of the world are all single? That would be foolish in extreme. I have often heard of women who find out they were married to serial rapists and killers.
So, for the huge liars, I most certianly wish to know about them so I can have the opportunity to decide what I find acceptable and can live with, and what is not.
For those little things that all good spouse lie about, I will keep those lies, and love my husband all the more for caring enough about me and my feelings to take the effort to proffer out a lie. As long as he understands that when I ask if I look a bit more fat in something he say so! lol Or, if I have food in my teeth, to please not say I look beautiful as we walk out the door.
2007-12-01 12:40:32 · answer #3 · answered by Serenity 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, in my opinion, LIARS don't make anything better for anything or any reason, except perhaps misery. Lying will only bring problems, heartache and pain. I cannot imagine anyone being turned on by a liar or living with constant lies.
2007-11-30 04:49:34 · answer #4 · answered by Cindy Roo 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I hate liars! I went out with a a guy for a long time and when I found out he would constanly lie to me, it made it so hard for me to trust other people.
2007-11-29 17:50:33 · answer #5 · answered by Yuzuki 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
NO they do not make better husbands
Once you get caught with ALL the lies you told she begins to wonder if she new you at all and then the one time you didn't do what ever she thinks you did she will not believe you
2007-11-29 17:58:46 · answer #6 · answered by Myra N 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Liars are disgusting.
2007-11-29 17:49:55 · answer #7 · answered by 4Seasons 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The answer to all of your questions is an unequivical NO.
Without trust, honesty and communication you do not have the foundation for a strong marriage.
2007-11-29 17:49:34 · answer #8 · answered by D and G Gifts Etc 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
No--Liars create distrust.
2007-11-29 18:06:28 · answer #9 · answered by Joan J 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont trust liars
2007-11-29 18:18:40 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋