when we were together he would always say that he loves me and would hold me extra tight. sometimes we were both just doing our thing. he says he still loves me and for the most part does the same things sexually but he does not want to be acouple again?
2007-11-29 17:43:31 · 18 answers · asked by cupcake26 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I truly believe you know the right answer---gather all the strength you can and get away from this situation, do not make it so easy for him. I'm sure you deserve better treatment.
2007-11-29 18:16:38 · answer #1 · answered by Joan J 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This may not be what you want to hear but he is more or less using you and I would say you are confused about the messages you are recieving from him. A guy will do almost anything to get sex even by lying and saying that he loves the woman. Women also do the same thing to guys but in different ways. You want a loving sexual relationship but it will not happen without commitment on both sides
2007-11-29 17:50:04 · answer #2 · answered by mentally---deranged 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men are very sensitive and inadequate but the try to hide it from us. Its not your fault and dont blame yourself. This guy needs you to be creative. Come up with some new ways to show him HOW MUCH you care. If you want to be a couple again or not is up to you. He needs some reassurance. Unfortunately, you cant make men change. They have to want to. If you begin to express to him what the problem is and how you feel about him, its ultimately up to him to make the decision as to what he wants. After you do that, dont crowd him. Give him some space. Let him think about what he wants and you've done your part by letting him know how you feel. Meanwhile, get a hobby, go out for a drink. Act like you got a life all of a sudden and oh do they hate it when we get that... Hope that helps... Good luck!
2007-11-29 17:58:07 · answer #3 · answered by Beautiful Shayla 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you're not together, you're not together. There is a reason this relationship did not work out, don't complicate things by continuing to have sex.
You say that he doesn't want to be a couple anymore but by asking this question it seems that you are still hoping for a reconciliation. Don't let him use you! That's exactly what he's doing --using you for sex. Tell him he can look for it somewhere else, you guys are through.
I hope you don't have kids together because you'd be sending them terrible mixed signals.
Good luck!
2007-11-29 17:56:08 · answer #4 · answered by mamabunny 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him what he want. How do you feel about him? Do you still love him or is it just good sex?
2007-11-29 18:01:50 · answer #5 · answered by TwinD 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like it's just sex
2007-11-29 17:47:28 · answer #6 · answered by M J 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's not making love to you: just having sex with you, you're available
2007-11-29 18:07:31 · answer #7 · answered by Idon'tlivehere 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sry 2 say this but its just sex
2007-11-29 17:53:30 · answer #8 · answered by kay 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is just using you for sex.
2007-11-29 19:43:40 · answer #9 · answered by kim h 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't spell sex with out ex.
It's not love. Move on.
2007-11-29 17:46:01 · answer #10 · answered by Esma 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋