How can i support my soon to be family???

Question

ok, so im 17, girlfriend is 15 almost 16, and I got her pregnant. neither one of us is freaking out, and we ARE gonna have the child, heck, we even have a name picked out! my question is; how can i support my soon to be family? im certified as a welder, but im not sure that will matter much without a college diploma. i am going to graduate highschool about a month before she is due. so, if you have any REAL advise, i'd really appreciate it!!!

Answer 1

THANK YOU SO MUCH! It is GREAT that you are sticking by her and are ready to take responsibility of your child. There needs to be more men out there like you.

I know nothing at all about welding. But a local community or technical college will have information about it.

You need to make sure that you finish highschool. Not only will you get a better job, you dont want that baby knowing that daddy didnt finish highschool. I myself did not (I am 19), and though I will soon have my ged, I would be extremly embarassed, if when I have children, they find out.

Second I woud sugest getting a part time job right now. To help with bills and stuff for the baby. Hopefully your family as well as hers are supportive and helping financially. Because in most places she is not legally allowed to get a job yet, the money issue is going to be extremly tight.

You can research on sites like babycenter.com for everything the baby needs. Lots and lots of diapers, bottles, clothing (sleepers, onesies, hats, socks, everything in all sizes), blankets, and most important a carseat. As well as a place to sleep. Those are the most important things you will need. Other things like a swing, toys, highchair (you can wait until a few months after the baby is born to get a highchair), are things you will want your baby to have, but dont really NEED.

Last I say the most important thing you can do is be there for your girlfriend, as well as your baby. It will be extremly hard at your age, for both of you. With money, preparing, school, work, etc. But if you two stick together and support eachother, it will make things much easier. I can gaurentee the first time you look down at your son or daughter (not sure if you know what your having yet), it will make everything so much better. Everything you have gone through will make it all worth it.

Lastly, congrats & good luck!

Answer 2

You can do this if and only if you take responsibility for your own eating, like a responsible adult. Talk to your family. Be calm, don't let it turn into an argument, and if you're laughed at, just give them time to see that you are in fact serious. Offer to do your family's grocery shopping so that you can make sure vegetarian items you like are in the house. Learn to cook. (the only way, really, is to practice) This is the hardest part for many people, so if you're already a confident cook, more power to ya. Get a job at a veggie-friendly restaurant or grocery store. You say your mom wouldn't like your cooking at a different time...but if you haven't talked to your family about this, how can you know that? be brave, have the conversations. Mom will probably get over her concerns if you are really good about cleaning up the kitchen after you cook, and if you are willing to sit there for "family time" while your family eats meat, even if your real dinner is happening later or has already happened. Take it slowly and gradually. Eating meat every other day is better than eating it every day or twice a day.

Answer 3

being certified as a welder, you shouldn't have any problems getting a job doing that. however i noticed your screen name was marine for life... have you thought about the military? you can be a welder there if you want to. the pay probably is less, if not the same. but you would have full medical benefits (family too) and $ for college. even live on base for free if you want to. I'm army, and alot of young people join because they got themselves into the same situation you are in now.

Answer 4

You can be hired as a welder with the certification and highschool diploma.
Its great that you guys are being so mature about this!!!
You could try and get a job welding right now or just any job and start saving up.
Again, nice to see you both be mature and having the baby. I wish you the best!

Answer 5

I think you need to go on and get an education as well as a part time job. You are going to need a college degree in the future to support your family, but you need money for the present also. Whatever you do, try to pursue further education. The sooner you get a degree and a good job, the better. Good luck.

Answer 6

You can get a job without a college diploma. Look for a job on line or in the paper and the requirements for the job will be poster there.

Answer 7

Start NOW by doing your homework in your area.....find out what requirements each company will need. It will save you the grief of being rejected on the spot. Ask if you can "precept" with a company with the obligation of staying with them for a year or two after your training. Talk to your teachers, counselors and the unemployment office. They all have great ideas.
Is your certification for a certain type of welding?

Answer 8

Most companies don't require a college degree for welding. Often the certificate is enough. Your company may even pay for extra schooling. Apply for some jobs upon graduating. Good luck.

Answer 9

Get a job and start saving money. You can still go to college with a baby. Marry her when she turns 18.

Answer 10

find a WIC location and you can get free food and items ur baby might need.
start off with anykind of job, and just keep saving money.
im sure u and ur gf are going to be great parents and i jsut want to say that i admire you both for handeling this situation so well. especially you i noe alot of guys usually walk out and dont want anything to do with the child.

so hope this helped and best of luck!

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