Am I getting out of my mind?

Question

I used to be so competitive when it comes to my career, i've been very active the past 9 years. Now though I feel like I just want to get married and be a plain housewife. Have you ever felt anything like this, ladies?

Answer 1

Sounds like your biological clock is whupping on you. I wish I'd had a stable enough life to consider having kids--or at least not been so damned selfish.

But I can't see you ever being a "plain" anything. You have a pack of suitors led by Rattail, so getting married is certainly available to you. If this is more than just hormones you might want to explore a career path that let's you work at home while spending time with your kids--once you start having them, that is. If you're a good planner, there are ways to have it all.

Answer 2

It sounds like you are getting bored/fed up with your career, and you need a change of pace. The reason why I think that is your description of housewives as "plain." A synonym for plain is "simple." We all get fed up and bored with our routines. If you think being a housewife is an easy way of getting out of having responsibilities and a "real" job, to having a life full of sitting around the house all day, shopping, and maybe doing some laundry and mopping, well then I don't know what to tell you other than good luck finding a man willing to pick up the tab on your finances.

I may sound harsh, but I do not think anyone has the right to aspire to be a housewife until they are in a relationship and both parties agree that having one at home would be the best decision for the couple. I may be wrong, and if I am, I apologize, but it sounds as if you want a "get out of work" free card.

As for me, I am already pretty much married, but to me it's pretty much a label I'm adding to an already existing relationship. I have no desire to be a housewife, although I do have fleeting desires to have a ranch in Argentina's wine country with solar panels and a compost bucket, a herd of kittens, while making my money selling wood carvings and quilts to locals and tourists. But it's just a fleeting thought. : )

Answer 3

I can somewhat relate to what you're saying. I was an at-home mom and housewife for 15 years, but there were moments I wished for a career. Now my kids are older (one of them old enough to have moved out)- and now I'm pursuing a college education and looking forward to having a career. But there are moments...esp. when I see babies.....there's a yearning to want to have another child, even though I have already raised three. I can't have anymore kids, my tubes are tied. But it doesn't stop me from wishing it sometimes. So many precious memories I have are tied to my kids. Life, for me, has been more fulfilling because of them. I don't think it's unusual at all for you to want to know what it's like. It's an experience not like any other. We only have one life to live- and life can be short. You never really know when your time to leave this earth will be. Live it to the fullest. Explore the possibilities...and if something like motherhood, or marriage is pulling you in that direction- follow your heart. If you don't, you may never know what you've missed. You may regret not giving yourself the opportunity to add a new dimension to your life that may well end up being very fulfilling. There's no set "order" to how you have to live your life. Society says we should do things in the traditional way- get married, have kids....but for many people this traditional way doesn't work for them. It's not "wrong" to do things your own way. And if that means having a career, and then switching directions (changing your path) - there's nothing wrong with it if that's what makes you happy. Sometimes it takes years to find the right path. You can shave some of that time away by realizing that in the end, your life experience really is your own. Don't be afraid to find your own way- and that means having the courage to break tradition if need be, and explore the things you think might most fulfill you.

Good luck!

Answer 4

Uhhh, no.
It was something that I never wanted, rather it snuck up on me and hit like a tonne of bricks.
Can't say that I regret it entirely, but it would be nice to have a job that I really enjoy and am doing it just for myself.
Can't say though that there's anything plain about being a housewife and looking after babies/children.
It's one of the most underestimated jobs that there is and in this society little value is placed on it.

Answer 5

You are probably stressed by your work and need a change. though it may be time you get as a plain housewife it maynot always be accompanied by bliss. Soon boredom or the dependency for money may rear its ugly head. I have also felt like this but in terms of retirement where I would have plenty of time to do the things Ive always wanted to do

Answer 6

There's no such thing as a "plain housewife." If you want to create a home and a life for a husband and children, go for it and God bless.

But do yourself a favor and keep your old career within sight. You may want to go back there some day. Children grow up you know, and need to be educated and mommies and daddies need retirement funds.

Answer 7

This is definitely not uncommon.

The typical career path for women is: A) graduate from college/graduate school, B) work 'til 30, C) marry, D) have children and stop working or go back to work part-time.

This is the typical career path for the vast majority of career women out there. There are very few women who actually work until retirement and beyond, and these women are typically unmarried

Answer 8

How about putting some brightly-coloured fur trim on the cuffs of your cleaning gloves, sew shimmery sequins on your apron, get a wand of some sort and do cleaning tasks by magic (or pretend to), paint go-faster stripes on your vacuum cleaner, just go wild, lol!

(Sorry, I must admit to taking your question very seriously on this occasion... Good luck though, hope it all works out for you...)

Answer 9

I think you want to settle in a bit and maybe try part time or self employment. Running a household is also very honorable work. Plain and houswife shouldn't be confused - espescially when referring to you. I will be pleased to be the one to be with you.

Madpol: It's like you have read our minds. I agree with your advice 100% on this.

Answer 10

Whats wrong with being a house wife cause you make it sound effortless. Its great to be an assertive competitive and ambitious woman in the business world but being a house wifes not bad either. I mean day care workers get payed to take care of kids so it is work and that is minus house work and cooking.