the girl she likes says that it is wrong to like another girl, but my friends(the lesbian) says that there is no rules to stop her from being lesbian. +who should i 'surport'?
2007-11-29 15:45:39 · 47 answers · asked by li.ace.anne 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
You can't force someone to change their sexual orientation just because YOU are against it. I'm not exactly a supporter of homosexuality, but you're not going to change anyone who doesn't want to be changed. Just let her figure it out on her own, it's not up to you to decide her life. I'm not saying it's wrong to have her best interests at heart, but just leave her be. you might lose her as a friend if you try to conform her to your standards, and I'm sure that's not what you want.
2007-11-29 15:49:49 · answer #1 · answered by xandrels 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Look, what does her sex life have to do with you? Does it change how good of a friend she is to you? Does it emotionally affect your friendship in a negative way? Does her being a Lesbian really change who she is as a person?
You can't force someone to be something they are not. You either have to choose to accept people for who they are or become a hermit and have no friends at all. Tolerance is something that is severely lacking these days. I still don't understand why people judge others so harshly over sex. What goes on in two peoples bedroom doesn't involve the entire world. You can't help who you love and you can only be who you are.
If you can't be a good friend and accept it then you need to let her go so that she can find real friends who will love her for who she is.
2007-11-29 15:52:18 · answer #2 · answered by mamabee 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The girl your friend is hitting on is not interested. Tell your friend to move on and not pursue it. I don't think its really up to you. Let your friend make up her own mind of who she is interested in and who she is not. You would do the same for a straight girlfriend who was after a guy who was not interested her. Yet, she keeps trying. Whats the difference? I think, since you question of whether to support your lesbian friend, you sound like you have some reserves about your lesbian friends sexual preference. You may need to investigate your feelings about it. Im straight. I know who I am. Your friend is lesbian, she knows who she is. Do you really know, who you are?
2007-11-29 15:57:50 · answer #3 · answered by hbuckmeister 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your friend is lesbian and knows for sure this is her choice, there is absolutely nothing you can do about it but still be her friend. If the girl she likes says its wrong to like another girl, that is her preference. Things will eventually work out. It may not work out to what you would have chosen but if they are both your friends, they can't make you choose between them. If they do feel you should pick one or the other friend, they can't possibly understand your feelings. Good luck.
2007-11-29 15:52:03 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Correction to a previous post:
Lesbianism is wrong in the opinion of certain folks, but it is not an absolute wrong, like punching someone in the nose without good cause.
She can be what she wants, and if the object of her affection doesn't share her feelings, that's the issue... not her sexual orientation. A gentle conversation explaining the situation should be all it takes, and it should be treated like any one-sided love interest, regardless of gender preference.
Golden rule: If you don't want folks trying to cram you into their mold, don't force others into yours.
2007-11-29 15:50:50 · answer #5 · answered by Spacer C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's a lesbian, the only thing that changes is who she wants to be intimate with...she's still the same friend you always knew.
Whether you agree that homosexuality is right or wrong is your choice, but why would you want to lose a good friend just because she likes other girls?
2007-11-29 15:48:52 · answer #6 · answered by paganmom 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Both
If both girls are your friends then you support both, don't be rude to either of them. They both have their own opinions and that is fine. But you don't talk negative about one in front of the other one. I have a lot of gay friends, guys and girls, they are all cool!!! What they do behind closed doors is their own business. I am there as a friend, someone they are comfortable to talk to. I am a firm believer that you can't help who you fall in love with, as long as you are treated with respect and love.
2007-11-29 15:54:06 · answer #7 · answered by just me 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok 1. being a lesbian is not a disease, its a life style and 2. you can not do anything to change that. If you are her friend you would support her and not try to change her.
2007-11-29 15:49:09 · answer #8 · answered by Jamie L 2 · 4⤊ 1⤋
your sexual preference has nothing to do with who you are as a person. if you were a TRUE friend you would be more open minded and accept your friends the way they are and not try to change them to make you feel better. its her life and if thats the way she wants to live then more power to her. if your other friend feels that its wrong to like the same sex then that's her own opinion, make up your mind for yourself not what others think or tell you to think.
2007-11-29 15:52:21 · answer #9 · answered by Lola 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Support both of them. Support your friend being who she is (She's gay and nothing can change that) but also support the other girl's right not to be gay.
In high school there was a gay kid who liked me. It was somewhat flattering at first but he just wouldn't give up even after a turned him down several times.
2007-11-29 15:49:16 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋