I need help and don't know where to turn...?

Question

To keep this simple and short, I'll outline everything. Basically today just sucked big time for me and my family only made it about ten times better (sarcasm). I guess it all started with me asking my mom if I could go to the movies with my friends tomorrow and her saying no. I'm not the type of kid that whines and says "please?", but I was just asking her why she wouldn't let me go, but she wouldn't answer. Then my sister who was sitting there buds in and tells me to "stop while I'm ahead" and just leave, but she was annoying and I was on the edge of tears so I got even more mad and told her to shut up, and she yelled at me. Then my other sister was just being the normal evil person to me that she always is, and I couldn't take it anymore and started crying. So I've been crying for an hour now, trying to get my mom's attention so we can actually talk, but she won't. She's ignoring me and just talking on the phone and not listening to me. It's not right what she's doing and..

(Ok never mind this is longer than I thought....) It's not healthy either because I'm already a depressed person, but her just doing stuff like this adds on. If I have no one in my family to even talk to, then who else can I turn to?

Wow can some of you guys be any ruder? I mean it.
I guess that's a slap in the face though, since I'm mostly like that on here to people who ask stupid obvious questions.
But seriously, what's wrong with needing someone to confide in? I'm new to actually WANTING to talk to people and tell them about my feelings. I'm not the type that goes around to my friends and family and tells them every litte detail about my day and the people that annoy me.

And I know it's just a movie, but that's not the point. There's a deeper underlying basis that I'm trying to point out.

Answer 1

Have u done something to let her not trust u?? How old r u?? Well if it bothers u this much.....I do think u need to talk to her a little more about this. Something else is going on with you here. I think she is just trying to protect u and she probably worries alot about u.........it's love sweetie. But I know it can be frustrating to u now and u don't see it that way. Just talk to her and don't pout.....show her how mature u can be and maybe things will change for u! Good luck and take care.

Answer 2

You can write your feelings down on paper keep a journal. Sometimes if you let it out like that then you feel a little bit different. You can also put into poems. Oh yes if you want your mothers attention do not cry we always ignore that. But my son does some nice things for me and is polite to make it noticible so I notice. You may not get to go the movies but we will notice and we will tell are friends and brag. Then maybe next time you will ask your mom to go to the movies with you. spend some one on one time with her. remember you only get one mother.

Answer 3

I'm sorry you're going through this right now. I'm sure it is very difficult and making things much harder than they should be.

There are some tricks to not letting emotional responses take over when people are acting irrationally around you. But those take practice, (The book THE POWER OF NOW is packed with those sorts of tricks.) But when your mother is like this, setting an arbitrary rule and not explaining, try and be as logical and non-emotional as you can.

Say something like this, recite it by rote so it won't carry any emotion in your voice that will trigger an emotional response in her. You need to engage her rational thougt processes and disengage emotion.

"What changes do I need to make so that I will be able to do this in the future?" You need to get her thinking, not feeling.

Answer 4

I am very sorry that you feel as though you don't have anyone to turn to at this point. Despite what others are saying, this is a serious problem...it's serious to YOU...and it would be serious to anyone else who feels alone. It's not a good feeling, especially if you have battled with depression. So all of these people who are trying to make light of your problems, please ignore them (and I know you already know that!)

Wait until your mom gets off of the phone and ask her if she wants to talk. If she seems busy, ask her when would be good, tell her you really need to talk to her. Stress how important it is. Maybe the time isn't right for her now, but make sure she makes you a priority.

And something I always do? I always pray. I have a lot of problems and even if no one is there, know that God is. Just pour your heart out and you will feel much better.

If this seems to be a continued thing, see if you can get into counseling. I've actually been in counseling for some time out of the past few years and it has done me a world of good. If you feel as though you are battling depression, it is important to get help before it grabs ahold of you.

And you can feel free to IM/email me anytime.

Answer 5

wait until your mom gets off the phone and then try to talk to her. atleast you know you have a problem adn are trying to fix it. it sounds to me like you need to go to family counseling and talk about some things. try talking to your sisters too about the things they do that annoy you and make you feel bad. your mom may have had a bad day today also, so just wait for a calm setting and then talk to her about it. if you dont know what to say then jsut go "mom, i need to talk to you about something" and then go from there. if she seems to still be mad dont say "nevermind" because it might make her angrier. dont give up and dont be afraid to seek more help! hope this works!!!!

Answer 6

I know it seems like your being treated unfairly and I agree that your Mum should have told you why she wouldn't let you go to the movies. Maybe she's having a bad day too. Your sister shouldn't have butted in either, it wasn't any of her business.

My Mum is the same, she'll find everything and anything to do to keep busy and to avoid talking. Could you write her a letter and give it to her. She can just throw it out if she wanted to but she could also read it in her own time.

Maybe going for a walk would help you. Fresh air does wonderful things =]

Good luck.

P.S. Nikki, it's clear I do know the correct definition of 'hypocrite'. You say I suck up..

Get off your high horse and stop patronizing people. Good for you... Oh and thanks for my thumbs down too..

Answer 7

okay, I am going to tell you the harsh truth, you need to grow up and become more independent...stop depending on everyone to tell them all your issues, learn to work them out on your own. Your mom said no to the movie, so that's it, that was her answer, and I highly doubt she would change her mind by "talking it out." It's really rediculous that she won't give you answer as to why that's her decision, but whatever, if that's how she's going to be, give it up already!

Answer 8

You are making a big issue out of being told "NO" by your mother. If you're living at home and your parents still pay the bills, "NO" is all the reason she needs to give you. With sisters like yours, your mom's probably stressed out 24/7. Seriously, not getting to go to a movie is NOT a big crisis. Relax and ask your mom if there's anything she needs help doing.

Answer 9

ok momma you need to inhale through your nose and exhale through your mouth (cleansing breath) 3x's try to calm down...... look your mom in the face and say we need to talk then she might get a lil scared and stop and realize that you mean buisness.

Answer 10

I would try to talk to a good friend or maybe boyfriend about it, and maybe they can give you some good advice for you.