Two years ago I fell for my friend who is straight. We are really good friends, and I really value his friendship. So I tried to block him out of my life. I came up with silly excuses to avoid being around him too much. We go to the same college and majoring in the same field. So we usually ended up in the same classes. But then I started to schedule my classes to avoid him. Slowly it felt like the feelings were going away. Now we are both seniors in college and have ended up in the same classes and sometimes end up spending time together, studying or just hanging out. Today we were talking and all I wanted was to kiss him. I fear my feelings for him might be coming back. He knows I am gay and I know he is straight. But I keep falling for the same guy. I thought I had gotten over the fact that our friendship will ever be more than what it is now but I guess I was only fooling myself. What can I do to get rid of these feelings? I am tempted to avoid him again and cut him out of my life.
2007-11-29 12:57:39 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
I had no intention of crushing on him. Honestly I am not interested in dating any one at the moment. I am trying to focus on my studies and all that. But this one guy just makes me feel, so happy. He's not like the best looking guy, but he is the most intelligent, well mannered person I have met.
2007-11-29 13:07:49 · update #1
A year ago I did try to date some one else. But it didn't work out. I kept measuring the other guy with my friend. =/
2007-11-29 13:09:19 · update #2
You're seeing this and approaching this in all-or-nothing terms.
I had close encounters with several beautiful straight men, and with one I have maintained a friendship for over 20 years. The other two I scared away by being too intense.
I wish I had kept my cool and not gone overboard, but with one I couldn't and with the other I actually did kiss him a few times and we cuddled some nights sleeping together, but no sex. Frustrating! But he had to run; I was too ga ga.
Another suggestion is to touch that fireman where it counts and if you're cool and don't act silly maybe he'll get into it.
Or maybe he'd run and you'd be sad like I was.
Hang in there. I don't think you need to totally avoid him tha'ts overdramatic.
2007-11-29 13:09:54 · answer #1 · answered by topink 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should date someone, all study & no play makes for thinking too much, besides, your date might end up better than your mate, but do yourself a favor, dont compare your date to your friend, its not fair on the 3 of you.
Hang onto this guy as a friend, Im sure you will cherish him as a friend than a nobody, even if you cant get what you want. In time, you will appreciate that you didnt ditch him.
2007-11-29 23:47:10 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think cutting him out of your life is the answer. I used to have a major crush on my straight best friend. I got extremely jealous whenever he went out with a girl. But I knew it could never happen so I went after other guys, I still think he's hot but I don't have those feelings for him anymore. My advice to you is to search for other people.
2007-11-29 21:07:41 · answer #3 · answered by Huy N 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you even waste two years crushing on a straight guy? There are lots of hot gay guys! lolol
2007-11-29 21:04:31 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋