Giving baby up!?

Question

Ok, i'm 15.
My daughter Ashley is 2 weeks old. My parents want me to give her up for adoption but I don't want to. I love my daughter alot and have so far been able to take care of her by myself.
What should I do?

I actualy have a very good paying job. Our library has classes teaches languages and about a year ago a very high demand of people wanting to learn Japanese and I was the only person that actualy knew the language. I get payed pretty well in that job. But I also work at my cousins daycare.

And people are wondering if i'm with the father. Yes I am. He also cares about her and is working at his aunts restaurant.

Answer 1

I was 16 when I got pregnant with twins. From the day I found out I was pregnant my parents wanted me to give the baby up for adoption and I said No all along. Then we found out it was twins and my parents wanted me to just give up one baby. and my answer was NO!! I was still inschool and worked full time, as did their father. Soon after the babies were born, my then boyfriend(now husband) moved out and got our own apartment, to take care of our girls.They are my parents pride and joy now! What I'm trying to tell you is that, you CAN keep your baby. NO ONE can make you give her up, YOU are her mother, and only YOU and the father have that say so. It will be hard, but CAN be done. I'm now 21, married to a WONDERFUL man, in school, and we have just bought our first home But its a long hard road, both everything is worth it when you know its all for your baby. Good luck hunnny, and take it from me, YOU CAN DO IT!! Your parents just don't want your life to be hard. but if you feel the way I do, then you know you have to do everything in your power to make sure you baby has everything she needs, and that its given to her by her MOTHER, not a stanger.

Answer 2

Do what you think is best for your daughter! If you feel good about being her parent, and are taking the responsibility of being a mom seriously - than go for it. I had a child at 17, and thought briefly about adoption - but once I layed eyes on my son, there was no way I was giving him up!

People will say you ruined your life, or that your life is over, but that is not true. It will be hard, and you will struggle. But it's not impossible, and so worth it when you're successful!!

My son is now 13, and I am 31, married and have a wonderful life!

Answer 3

Your parents are not in charge of your life. Think about what will happen if you give her up for adoption. You will never see her again. If you love her and you are able to give her a comfortable life with love, then do that. If I were you, I would keep the baby. Tell your parents that you love your child, and that they cannot tell you if you can keep your daughter. She is your daughter. If your parents won't let you live with them if you don't give her up and you truly love her, you will leave. Keep YOUR child. I wish you all of the luck in the world.

Answer 4

By take care of her yourself do you mean pay for everything? Or are your parents paying for it all? Because there is more to caring for a child than just feeding them and changing diapers. I would hate to be in your shoes, because my brain would be telling me to give the baby up but my heart would not want to let me. I hope you can make a wise decision.

Just so you know, babies DO NOT sit in orphanages here anymore. I'm assuming you are in the US. There are tons of great families just dying for a baby. Your daughter would get a great home with two loving parents.

Also, your parents cannot force you to give her up. That would have to be your decision. If you want to keep her they may not want to help you though. You really need to take a time out and think this through. Talk to your parents and tell them how you feel.

Answer 5

Even though you are VERY young, you have to do what is best for your daughter. You may very well be a good mother and you obviously love your daughter very much, but sometimes loving her to the fullest, means making sacrifices. That's what being a good mother is all about...making sacrifices for you child's best interest. If you truly beleive that your daughter will be just fine with you, then you need to keep her. But let me just warn you, parenting gets harder as they get older. But be prepared to live with your decision for the rest of your life. GOOD LUCK SWEETIE!

Answer 6

I say no. Things might be very difficult, but this could be a decision you regret for the rest of your life. I think you need to sit down with your parents, and your boyfriend and talk to them about it. Explain to them how you feel WITHOUT getting mad. Hear them out, but make sure they hear your side of the story too. I'm sure they just want you to have the best life possible, and of course they want your daughter to have a perfect life too. They're just worried you're both going to have to sacrifice to do that. Explain to them that you're willing to put her first, and then SHOW them you can do this.

Good luck. It's going to be tough.

Answer 7

If you REALLY love your baby you will put what is in the best interest of the baby FIRST - before your own wants..
as such you want the baby BUT the baby would be much better off in a home with 2 mature people who OWN their own home (with yard etc) and who are financially secure.. and can afford to send the kid to College later, can afford braces.. etc..

any 15 yr old who wants to keep a baby is suffering from low self esteme (heck any 15 yr old who gets pregnant clearly has low self esteme) this is NOT a good reason to keep a baby... it will hold you back and you will hold her back too...

so yes.. if you love your baby you will want to give it the BEST life possible and you will recognize that YOU are not ready at this time to do so...

you said you have been able to take care of her by yourself.. so I ask you... are you living by yourself or with your parents?? because if you are living with your parents then you are NOT taking care of her yourself.. somebody is paying the bills etc...

Answer 8

Could you forgive yourself if you gave her up? I got pregnant at 16. He is now 26. It is not easy but you can do it. There is welfare and job training etc. You must make sure you do not quit school and if you have, go back. Make a future for yourself and your baby and show your parents that you are willing to work very hard to provide a future for your little girl. Show them that you can still have a future ....it just means taking a different road then they had planned. But it can be done....ESPECIALLY IF THEY HELP YOU......but even if they dont', as mine did not....you CAN do this. There are many programs out there to help teenage moms.

Answer 9

I'm not certain, but I don't think legally they could force you to give her up.

I'm sure you already know it's hard, and it'll continue to be in so many ways.

Your local Planned Parenthood could probably advise you to whether or not they can legally make that decision for you or if you can say no. I hope (even though you're young) you will be able to make this decision for yourself.

Ultimately, you are her mother and you'll be the one living with the decision. Hopefully, if you establish that it's your decision and not theirs, and keep her, they will come around to respect your decision and help you out.

Good luck!

Answer 10

As long as YOU are the one taking care of her then you should by all means be able to keep her.. you had to walk around at 15 pregnant for 9 months you deffinitly deserve it since your being mature about it.