I wear sexy lingerie to bed and all around the house...even when I was not feeling so wonderful (had a little cold bug for a day) I still bathed in some nice soap, put on my best perfume and did my make up...cooked his favorite dinner and served it in black lace lingerie and stilettos. I got nothing but a swat on the butt and a cuddle. He ate dinner. Watched CSI, and went to sleep.
He seems to have issues getting wood too. I did some things that worked without fail on past boyfriends and flings and he was still limp as a deflated balloon. My husband is 36 and I am 27. He is not old. I don't understand why he won't...you know? I swear I am not ugly or nasty, sloppy or overweight.
It drives me so nuts. Usually, when it's a woman who won't get it on with the man, everyone jumps her throat and tells her to do it anyway...tired or not. Blah, blah blah. Reverse roles, and everyone's pitying the poor man, because men's penis problems are so damn special. What about the poor woman?
2007-11-29 12:51:28 · 23 answers · asked by goldenchilde11 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
girl try 2 weeks without sex. I'm 38 and my fiancé is 34 and he just doesn't seem to be interested in sex. The last time we had sex was 2 weeks ago on my birthday. I have tried but no luck. He says that he is depressed because of the holidays and he is having financial problems. I understand all that but if it were the other way around, he would be talking about getting it somewhere else. Girl I feel you and it seems to be a bigger problem than what we think.
2007-11-29 13:11:14 · answer #1 · answered by hispluv 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well, I've worked in Urology for 12 years. Maybe you should honestly sit down and make sure that there's not something medically he's not sharing with you. 36 is not old by any means, but men at all ages can be affect by erectile dysfunction like stress, certain medications, power drinks with a lot of keratine, etc.. He may be to embarrassed to talk to you about it so he pretends to lack interest and you may get a hostile reaction if you bring it up, but don't back down. Explain to him that sex isn't the most important thing in a marriage, but as we all know, it IS important. Unfortunately for women, even if we're not in the mood and "biting the bullet" , we can still perform, naturally, it's different for a man. It's an important issue and you need to speak with.
2007-11-29 13:06:01 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Maybe, he's getting it somewhere else. My boyfriend did that and wouldn't have sex with me and had difficulties, you know. My guy is 36 too. He said it was because he felt such guilt at having cheated.
While he was cheating, he would tell me he was tired, he wasn't feeling well, he just wanted to cuddle, etc etc etc....
By the way---It's only been a week!!!
2007-11-29 13:07:12 · answer #3 · answered by rabbit4041 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I can't understand a man that turns down a willing woman. I have a woman that is as uninterested in me as she could possibly be. I love her, but it's highly frustrating. All I can say is I don't understand why he wouldn't make love to you.
2007-11-29 14:56:46 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't give up! That's too depressing of a prospect. Maybe there is a medical issue to address here and he is embarasshed or ashamed about it? Have you tried talking to him?
To be fair, women can choose "do it anyway." Men don't have that option. They really need to be willing for it work.
2007-11-29 12:56:42 · answer #5 · answered by Rasputin 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
My ex wife use to complain that we didn't do it enough , it got to be a kind of joke , she got to where she would tell everybody our buisiness ,, It was a turn off ! that whining nagging just turned me off ,, if she had have kept it to Herself I would have never knew that she was dissatisfied ,,, I was happy ! and I was faithfull , mistery is sexey , Keep the body covered , let him WANT to see you , then show him a breif glimps and then hide it , You can keep him wanting that way
2007-11-29 13:09:13 · answer #6 · answered by darkcloud 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes men get into funks that they don't understand.
They don't realize the impact they have on their immediate environment.
If you cherish this guy and the relationship, you need to fight for him. Then at least, if things truly fall apart, you know you've done your best.
2007-11-29 13:04:17 · answer #7 · answered by asgodintended 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
a mans penis problems r never special. and why dont u ask him why he so limp? and they DO sell viagra for ten bucks a pill u know? lololol what about the poor woman? strap his face to your crotch and make him lick or die
2007-11-29 13:30:19 · answer #8 · answered by iluvmeeee 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He could be developing a medical problem. Tell him see a doctor or you'll hit the door and not look back.
2007-11-29 14:01:08 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe stop putting on the show all the time and leave something to the imagination.
2007-11-29 13:22:41 · answer #10 · answered by gloria b 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋