On both the sides of men and women! What should each give and take? What are some things one should definitely stay away from? People who have been in good, long relationships prefered to answer!
2007-11-29 12:20:58 · 17 answers · asked by Penelope 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
The most important factor is Open Communication that both of you would not sleep the night without exchanging of views and short talks. If there is gap between couples, this need to settle before you sleeps. The delay on it will make a bigger gap that leads to irreconcilable differences.
Second most important factor, is trust, respect and understanding then spice up with patient as high as the mountain top of Eveerest.
Third, is regain back the love between you by having a date regularly specially on anniversaries and birthdays, planned sex date outside your home once in a while or every quarter of the year is ideal. This will help you to have privacy to each other alone. Remember that to refresh is needed as time goes on during married life are full of tresses that sometimes made us unreasonable or irritable if one has no patient due to many problems to face like suach as family problems, community affairs, organizations, financial and even work related that all caused more tensions to either of the spouse.
2007-11-30 22:55:51 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My counselor suggested this book "The Five Languages of Love". Figuring out what it is that makes you feel loved and your partner feel loved is half the battle.
The thing you should definitely stay away from--Craigslist.
It's the most evil, vile website I know. A hook-up is just a click away---and most of the people don't care if your married or in a relationship. No Strings Attached. That's where my last relationship went wrong.
I've been married for 18 years (not to the same man though). Maybe this time I'll get this thing figured out, too.
2007-11-29 12:51:29 · answer #2 · answered by rabbit4041 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ive been in a great relationship for four years and the key is that we both give and take equally...we don't think of each other as separate but as one person....when we make decisions they are based on how they will benefit us both not individually...The most important thing is that we both communicate with each other...if one of us is upset we talk about it we don't just let it go we solve the problem.
I think what you should def stay away from is petty arguments that you know can be avoided.
2007-11-29 12:28:06 · answer #3 · answered by alwaysthere 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Trust, understanding, and forgiveness are key components in a marriage. Make efforts to spend time together, and never become strangers to one another. Listening is also a good tool because it opens the gateway to what your spouse is thinking and feeling. Married soon to be 11 Years, together for 16 years.
2007-11-29 12:27:07 · answer #4 · answered by stepintostep 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You respect their ideas, goals and needs, and value their opinion even when you don't agree. You play fair and realize blame and name-calling never solves a thing, and you must forgive because there will be times that you need forgiveness. You accept their quirks and faults and are tolerant of the fact that they aren't perfect, because you aren't either. You are best friends as well as lovers, so that even after years they are intriguing, sexy and a little mysterious, no matter how familiar you are with them. Plus you must be willing to give 100% and hope they only ask for 50%.
2007-11-29 13:02:56 · answer #5 · answered by ScSpec 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust, affection, and respect are the three main ingredients to a healthy relationship. People may disagree as they say where is the love - but you can love a puppy - these are the main components as if you have these then you have love - mature love - the love that is important.
2007-11-29 12:31:29 · answer #6 · answered by Kitt 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay away from a person that is worried about themself first and foremost, your sure to loose. their really isnt anything within reason that you shouldnt do for your spouse. and i personally think if your spouse gives you the old roll of the eyes then you should be aloud to reach across the table and smack the sh!t out of em. can i get a ho ha. lol lol
2007-11-29 13:06:19 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am married 26 years to the same man. Our success is friendship, I can not imagine spending more time with any one else. You need to be honest , unselfish, truly listen,
compromise, It is really good to have the same taste and goals. etc. It is only hard work if you are not truly in love.
2007-11-29 12:35:16 · answer #8 · answered by clever girl 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
-Well with my husband and I it's communication and trust and just plain acceptance of one another.
You can't go trying to change someone so that your relationship will be better it does not work that way. Actually it will have the opposite effect.
And another big thing is get your head out of fairy- tail land no relationship has the happily-ever-after ending.
2007-11-29 12:38:06 · answer #9 · answered by CrazyH 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i have been married for 12 years now and all i can say is honesty and respect. never go to bed angry and always say i love you i never get tired of hearing this. oh and surprise each other every once in awhile i mean even the little things count. ex.. we had been strapped for money and my husband cut roses from my garden and made me a nice display with them it was a surprise and i was in tears(joy(
2007-11-29 12:32:56 · answer #10 · answered by KING AND ME 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋