Since when was there a rule written that I should be on the receiving end of sexual pleasure?, Why doesnt she get it?, The oldschool role playing crap is way over-rated and truly twisted. I am growing tired of not being able to express my love freely without feeling like I am being intrusive. We have been together a little over 3 years and I have been trying to approach this issue delicately, but she has no interest in being on the receiving end. Any suggestions?
2007-11-29 12:16:05 · 6 answers · asked by tmbteb 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Yes... not one you will want to hear, I think, but one you need to hear none the less...
Your girlfriend, if she does not allow reciprocation at all, is more than likely STONE which means she will NOT allow anyone, no matter who they are, to touch her in a sexual or feminizing way.
You have to understand, this is the way she IS. She cant change it. It has nothing to do with trust issues but more to do with personal issues, and perhaps even inner demons. There is nothing wrong with her. She gets HER pleasure from pleasuring YOU. Thats all.
A stone butch will ALMOST ALWAYS partner with a stone femme because they UNDERSTAND each other. They KNOW what the other needs and are willing, and able, to accomodate them.
You can continue to broach the subject with her but, in time, should you continue she could very well come to resent you for simply not understanding... and she may feel you are being selfish by not allowing her this thing that is a part of her.
There is a book I would recommend you both called Stone Butch Blues. A most excellent book on being stone.
Also, there is much to read on the subject of being stone (butch AND femme) on the internet that will it explain it much better than I could ever hope to here.
I wish you both the best in your journey of understanding and coming to terms with your boundaries.
.
2007-11-29 12:50:36 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You need to honestly explain to her how giving pleasure is as important to you as receiving pleasure. She is not allowing you to be a whole person so ask her why.
2007-11-29 12:53:49 · answer #2 · answered by dans94 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I do know exactly what you mean, but I would think that she's getting everything she wants from you already. Dont worry- just enjoy what you have.
2007-11-29 12:45:57 · answer #3 · answered by mouseless 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her she is going to get freaked , or youll find a girl who enjoys taking turns . this aint 1952.
2007-11-29 13:10:02 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Get therapy!
That isn't healthy behavior on her part.
2007-11-29 12:49:48 · answer #5 · answered by cyanne2ak 7 · 0⤊ 5⤋
all you can do is talk to her...
2007-11-29 16:50:24 · answer #6 · answered by ♥ diamond dyke ♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋