I'm a 24 year old male and I still live at home with my rents. I have my associate of arts degree but I am currently not enrolled in school. I'm actually working full time at a dog kennel (been there for 5 years). I really dont know what to do in life right now other than work and do my music (I have a band). I would really like to get a good job though but I don't have a specific degree right now.
Anyway, I've been with the same girl for 2 years and I'm paranoid that she thinks I have no goals or something. Ladies, is a 24 year old guy who lives at home and works at a dog kennel not attractive or wo uld you not wanna be with him? I want to show her that I can change but right nw I don't know where to go for work and I can't pay for school right now either. I told her this a few months ago and she just said, "You keep saying that." Then we broke up, but now we are back together..I really want to change though. Any advice??
2007-11-29 12:03:28 · 15 answers · asked by Mint Car 1 in Social Science ➔ Sociology
Btw, that isn't the reason we broke up initially.
2007-11-29 12:08:52 · update #1
I don't know. Just be yourself.
2007-11-29 12:05:42 · answer #1 · answered by ASL 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The most important thing is that you do what makes you happy. Don't take a job or career that you don't want just because you think it would make her happy.
But I would encourage you to find what makes you happy and make a goal of it. Have you read the book Now Discover your Strengths. I think it might be really helpful for you. (It's by Buckingham I believe.) It actually has an online assessment that you may benefit from.
With that being said, I don't think I would date a guy long-term if he didn't demonstrate the type of drive and ambition that I have. But I will love whomever my heart tells me to, and I would support my guy as he develops a vision of who he wants to be in life and encourage him to plan out the strategies on how he will get there. Hopefully your girlfriend is supporting you and working through this period with you rather than bitching at you.
2007-11-29 12:31:56 · answer #2 · answered by Nicole 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
initially, you must be cute if shes still with you... sorry. but the most important thing in a guy for me is some kind of goal or determination, it doesnt matter what as long as he wants to make it, whatever it is, happen.
i think your okay, as long as your planning on moving out in the near future. But! once you hit 25 and still living at home, and not even in school, that is when i begin to judge guys about being losers. im sorry, but thats how i feel.
it sounds like you really do want to change, and want something to happen, but stop saying you are going to change, and just make the change happen!
good luck :)
2007-11-29 19:43:17 · answer #3 · answered by lana62727 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only thing i know for you to do is to save up. If you are at home with your parents then chances are your not paying any bills or at least not paying too much. Besides you can ask for help from someone. There's a lot you can do for getting money for school.
As for the job, sometimes you just have to deal with the pain and misery, but it'll only make you stronger.
2007-11-30 12:14:26 · answer #4 · answered by aquarius7air 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So... with this band, are you staying out late and drinking up your pay? Are you saving your money for the day you decide you are ready to do something else?
I'm thinking by the time you are 24 you ought to have some goals and be working toward them.
Still living at home with the "rents", no goals, no proscpects... eeeewww.
2007-11-29 12:08:18 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
A girl definately wants a guy who has goals in life. You have your AA, that is a big step. I'm sure you would want to do something other than working there. I'm sorry but it really isn't attractive. If u cant afford school, they always have financial aid.
2007-11-29 12:10:05 · answer #6 · answered by PiNkY DvA 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes it does.
Talking about something and doing something about it are two different issues.
As long as she sees that you are willing to put the effort into finding a better job, finding a place to live, and into your relationship it won't be unattractive. But if you are happy being status quo it's just a matter of time before your girlfriend and your parents give you the boot.
2007-11-29 12:09:46 · answer #7 · answered by jay k 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-09 22:40:59 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, come up with a set of goals that you have with her. Then set out a timeline to master those goals. Ask her what she would like out of the relationship and you ask yourself what you would like out of the relationship. You don't have to change yourself right away. You can make little changes and then make a big one later. You can take it slow. Taking it fast only makes the relationship weaken etc. I wish you luck.
2007-11-29 15:51:21 · answer #9 · answered by Caitlin 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would look for someone who know what he wants...living with his parents or not.
I suggest you get a job in your field and move out of your parents house though.
2007-11-29 12:17:01 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to take charge in your life...take the responsibility of making goals and sticking to them..before you focus on a girl you need to focus on setting your life before you do something to satisfy someone else and not yourself
2007-11-30 08:43:20 · answer #11 · answered by OC 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋