i recently met a guy at a haloween party ,at first he texted me all the things i wanted to hear ,but i wasnt attracted to him, little by little i got attracted to him alot ,but i recently pulled away because of the fact that he comes with baggage, for ex, he is 22 im 25,he has a kid dats 2 yrs old i dont have kids. he likes to party i dont..my question is 1) has anyone fell inlove with there partner after being friends for a while?or was it right away?? were u at tracted to the person right away or it took a while?? its been a month since we met and i broke it off a week ago but i miss him like crazy... wats going on? am i missing out??
2007-11-29 11:57:05 · 10 answers · asked by can u ♥ moi? 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think that when you find someone who is perfect for you, you're going to know it. You might have dismissed him too quickly because of his kid and the fact that he likes to party when you don't. Would he be willing to tame his partying action a little bit in order to be with you? Would you be willing to hang out with him when he parties? Are you willing to take responsibility for the 2-year-old?
I think that love is better when you're friends first and then you fall in love. Because then you know it's much more pure than the type where you see someone and fall in love, which tends to be based more on lust than love.
2007-11-29 12:34:44 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sure it happens both ways, sometimes when you meet someone you may not even like them at first. They (or you) were just having a bad day, or said something kind of stupid and you got the wrong image. In fact I think sometimes the greatest loves start that way, because there is just so much "fiery attraction" that at first you aren't sure what it all means.
Sometimes someone just looks at you a different way, or smiles, or does something else that doesn't amount to a hill of beans...and all of a sudden you realize they are special, and you are hooked.
At other times you get to know someone and it develops into a deep love. I think there are as many ways to fall in Love as there are people in this world.
2007-11-29 12:11:57 · answer #2 · answered by ScSpec 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Man, that is a hard one! But I find when two people or so incompatible, in time things doesn't work out. It is true that opposites attract but you still need something more to build on. There is not a big age difference between you, but there is two big boulders in the path, 1)that he has kids and 2)he is in to the party life. I am telling you it is not easy to try to change someone when they are so used to doing what they are doing on a daily basis. But if your willing to go the long haul and put up with this extra part of his life(for the sake of true love) then who are we to say don't do it. So soul search and figure out deep in your heart what you truly want.
2007-11-29 12:06:45 · answer #3 · answered by stepintostep 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Slow down and take a deep breath. I think it's great that you met someone you really like. Before you take it any further, you have to be honest with yourself about his child. Not having children yourself is not the issue. Can you accept him as a "package deal" because he needs to put his child's welfare before everything else. You're young and may not be ready for that. Ask yourself the same question about his partying. If you can enjoy each other without a serious relationship, then just have fun.
2007-11-29 12:07:34 · answer #4 · answered by Rita A 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound like your not necessarily missing him, but maybe you are missing having a companion. Find another that you have an immediate chemistry with. I believe in being best friends with a lover, but there has to be some attraction too.
2007-11-29 13:57:00 · answer #5 · answered by jeff b 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he has kids from a previous marriage /shack up and he parties.Is this a responsible single father?
I dont think so hon.
Stuff your feelings and use your head hon. WHY he is in the position he is in and that if you hook up you get the kids who will hate the "$%^%& "who is trying to take "mommy's place".Plus you will probably end up working to support him while he drive drunk in YOUR car and wrecks it.
2007-11-29 12:07:14 · answer #6 · answered by Joe F 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would not go out with this guy once because he was almost 4 years younger than me. My g/f talked me into it. Now we have been married for 10 years, and together for 15
good luck.. if u like him ... go for it
2007-11-29 12:05:49 · answer #7 · answered by Holly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yah the first time i met my bf i dint think he was cute ....but after one year of seeing him everyday..he grew on me...i started to notice how sexy his walk was...and how beautiful his hands are...i love everything about him...hes so sexy to me now...and weve been together for three years...hes a really good guy...faithful, sexy, funny....the whole package...if ur guy is anything like mines...u could be missing out
2007-11-29 12:03:29 · answer #8 · answered by butterfly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
amanda. do you like this guy. if so follow your heart girl i would i almost made that mistake where i was dating this girl i loved her but age difference was a factor. .8. years differnce. my honest opion . ? .
2007-11-29 12:51:56 · answer #9 · answered by the_silverfoxx 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOUR OVER THINKING THINGS YOU SHOULD JUST LET THINGS FLOW NATURALLY TO SEE IF YOU BOTH LAND ON COMMON GROUND.
AND YES MY WIFE AND ARE WERE & ARE BEST FRIENDS
2007-11-29 12:05:30 · answer #10 · answered by JAY920 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋