My wife is going to nursing school and she is always busy.?

Question

Even to busy for intimacy. Before she beganthe nursing program we had a beautiful sexual relationship, every other day. Now we have sex once a week...When I am by myself and I see beautiful women the urge to talk them arises. What can I do to avoid this lonely feeling and desires?

Answer 1

Try not to be such an a** and be supportive. Once a week is better than nothing at all and with that attitude your looking for a life time of one handed intimacy...

Answer 2

I'm in nursing school right now and trying to maintain a long distance relationship at the same time. I know exactly what your wife is going through. Nursing school takes a lot out of you. Explain to her what you are feeling. Bear with it....marriage is supposed to be through the good and the bad. Once she is done, her career will take off and she will feel less stressed. Support her and help her get through this really rough time. Your sex life might have to be put on the back burner for now, but its a small sacrifice to make if you really care about and love your wife. She will thank you for not being so selfish.

Answer 3

I can relate in a unique way. After my stint in the Army, I went to nursing school. Lemme tell ya, dude, it's HARD work getting through all that! Many's the night I fell asleep at my desk and my wife had to deal with the kids and everything else all on her own. And yes, our sex lives took a real hit. I didn't like that any more than she did - but once I got my RN and got back to being a working stiff, things did improve - especially with the higher income than I was getting as an Army clinical specialist.
Try and stick with her, dude. Things really should be better once she graduates, and you'll both be glad you did.

Answer 4

Have you let her know how much it's affecting you? She may be very busy now, but there are times that it's going to be worth it for her to ditch the studying and be with you. How many times a week do you think you can survive? If you used to do it every other night (about 3 times a week), would you satisfied with twice a week instead of once?

And would you be willing to help her with the housework in order to get what you'd want from her sexually? If so, then talk to her about it and work something out with her. Don't make her feel guilty about it not having sex as often. Don't make her feel like she's a bad person for not being able to be with you as often as you'd like. Just work with her as much as possible.

Or she could pique your interest by talking dirty to you on the phone.

Anyhow, in a marriage, it's normal for men to notice other women. Talk to them if you'd like...and even a tiny bit of harmless flirting is alright. But don't fall victim to thinking that any pretty girl you can get sexually is going to satisfy your desires.

Answer 5

Talk to your wife and let her know how you feel. Communication is the cornerstone of a good relationship. Sacrifice is required by both partners when one makes a bold decision to go back to school.
When you talk to her, don't blame her for anything, just say that you miss her and you miss your time together, maybe she feels the same way, but so much time has passed that she feels awkward and uncomfortable initiating sex.
We have two young kids and I can tell you it is hard to find time for the two of you, and as unromantic as it sounds, we actually schedule sex on every Friday or Saturday night once we get the kids to bed just because it is the only time we get to ourselves. I just don't understand why we can find the time to pay bills, watch movies together, schedule playdates for the kids but didn't make the time for each other. We talk half the time during our weekly alone time, but it is necessary to do this because you have to get into the mindset that your relationship is more important than your job, school ,kids etc.
Good luck!

Answer 6

Nursing school is very rough and takes up a lot of a person's time. Especially if she is in a program that is a two year one. I have known at least 4 women who broke up with their husbands/partners over it. I wasn't in the program, I just knew them from the same college. Sometimes I thought that getting through the program gave them the freedom they wanted to leave their spouse, and other times I thought that it only aggravated existing problems. If you love and care for your wife, help her in every way with the program, and keep a close eye on her.

Answer 7

Theres a LOT to nursing, and she has a LOT to learn,so hang in there, she is just busy, so try to get the housework done for her,so she wont have anything else but sex to do after her homework is done.She will be flattered that you cleaned the house and cooked for her.She may be able to squeeze a few more times in for you, and TELL her how much you miss the sex AND the cuddling afterwards with her and you cannot WAIT until she gets a break!Tell her these things in little notes placed in her books etc.She will be all over you like yellow on corn son!

Answer 8

two words...Internet Porn

it keeps you faithful, and while it's not exactly satisfying as a real relationship, it can help let off some pressure. Just don't let it become your focus.

Also, just a thought here, you might want to bring this up to her at a time when you both are away from the house, away from cellphones and away from stress...take a weekend drive and have a picnic or stop at a romantic getaway. Understanding and Communication are the cornerstones of any relationship.

Answer 9

Your wife is out there doing something that will benefit the both of you and your family. She isn't cheating, be a man be strong and if the urge to have sex arises, go to the bathroom and take care of your urge. Respect your wife, she needs support...... Tell your wife to please put some time aside for you and do something nice for her so she would want to take a break...

Answer 10

If the elimination of a couple of sex sessions has caused you too question your feelings, then what are those feelings based on?
All relationships go through ups and downs and it is how we navigate through the lows that is the real test. You need to discuss your feelings with her (just don't tell her you have roving eyes) and let her know your needs. If you are honest with her, I bet she will do her best to be understanding, as long as you are also.