On behalf of my new contact shelly s, I bring this question to you.
Shelly has an unnamed condition in which she bleeds quite heavily and for long periods of time - almost to death - because the lining in her uterus is too thin. She would have a hard time getting pregnant because the embryos can't implant properly, causing her to miscarry. At 16, she was told that she might never get pregnant, but if she ever planned on doing so, she would have to start as soon as possible. She had her first child at 17 (due to medical reasons, she said) and she is now 22, married with two kids, and she went in for her hysterectomy two days ago. Most people in her situation would have to have this done when they're in their 20's, or perhaps even ealy 30's.
My question is, if your child were in the situation as described above, told she needs to get pregnant now or never, would you go for it? Or would you tell her to get her life in order, then consider adoption if it'll be too late?
2007-11-29 11:41:14 · 12 answers · asked by Sharon Newman (YR) Must Die 7 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
To Erica: I asked Shelly if I could ask this question, and she said yes, because she knew half would be supportive. It's not "spreading other people's business all over Yahoo!" Thanks.
2007-11-29 12:11:07 · update #1
I would support her in any choice she made.
I think having babies early would make her grow up too fast...but I'd never rob her of the joys of motherhood....
So if she had a limited time to experience it, and she wanted to do it...I'd support her anyway I could...
Alternatively...If she wanted to wait...I'd do what I could to harvest and preserve her eggs so that she could have a surrogate later ...I'd even volunteer my uterus if it was still functioning ...
I'd carry my grandchild to term if my daughter couldn't...
It's weird...but it's be worth it.
2007-11-29 11:48:32 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If I was Shelly's parent, I would do whatever it took to save her life and get her healthy first, and then worry about whether or not she could have kids later. This condition you are describing sounds like a form of endometriosis, or a closely related problem. It also sounds as though Shelly has or may have polycystic ovary syndrome, or PCOS, which is a hereditary disorder that causes the symptoms you mention. Women who suffer from PCOS have irregular periods, heavy bleeding, and a very difficult time conceiving and holding onto pregnancies because of the problems with their hormones ( the cysts in the ovaries cause wild swings in hormone levels, and this can cause miscarriages if a women with this condition gets pregnant) as well as trouble with things like facial hair,voice changes, etc. PCOS victims also suffer from a tendency to have a very thin lining in the uterus, which is something else you mentioned. There is no cure for PCOS, and only limited treatments for it- and the effects last for life.
Shelly's parents did the best they could under the circumstances, though I think that letting her get pregnant at 17 was a mistake. She undoubtedly had to drop out of school for a while, and something like that would have forced her to grow up long before she was ready to. If it were my child, I would wait and see if I could get her healthy again before I let her go ahead with a premature pregnancy. That's just my opinion, but I know it won't be a popular one.
2007-11-30 17:33:09 · answer #2 · answered by Starlight 1 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can not say what I would say as a parent but personally if that was my situation I would wait until I had my life together and then try to have children if that was unsuccessful I would adopt. I hope she has a good life and everything works out well for her with no regrets.
2007-11-29 19:47:17 · answer #3 · answered by SunLover 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would let her do it. I would support her in doing it.
Its actually a recurring dream for me from age 16-now, that something will happen and a doctor will tell me I either get pregnant now or never.
My parents told me when I was 16 and told them about it that they would support me getting pregnant right then as well.
2007-11-29 19:55:07 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm 14 and if the doctor told me I had to concieve within the next week or I can never then god damnit I would work my *** off trying to get a baby. Which says a lot for me because I'm a virgin and want to wait till marraige to have children.
2007-11-29 19:45:44 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 6⤊ 0⤋
I would let the daughter decide. It is a life changing decision, so it should'nt be up to the parents. Especially at 16, I would wan't her to make that decision on her own.
2007-11-29 20:57:02 · answer #6 · answered by JuteJute 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
wow thats tough. I would say its her choice and I would support whatever she did. If she wanted to have a baby that would be a good reason to have one that early but if she wanted to wait and adopt I am for that too.
being someones mom is the best feeling ever
2007-11-29 19:45:06 · answer #7 · answered by Rina 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
i think it depends on my child. if I knew my child really wanted children, I would tell them to go for it. But I wouldn't want them to find some random person, I would want it to be with somebody that they really loved.
If they were not sure if they wanted kids I would tell them to wait and later they could adopt. to me it all depends on the kid
2007-11-29 19:59:22 · answer #8 · answered by treppab 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i'd support her in what she wanted to do
2007-11-29 23:44:58 · answer #9 · answered by ~::JAEL::~ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would go for it
2007-11-29 19:44:06 · answer #10 · answered by Chef Smalls 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋