Do you believe people are born gay?

Question

I ask this for opinions, I answered a question in this category with my views on it, and got 11 thumbs down. So what is your opinion?

CID young- no sweetie, I'm not repressing anything, I know what I am , a straight female who is God fearing=)

Answer 1

NO! People are not born gay....... People become gay when there is a malfunction in their sub-conscious. Usually the problem is that a person never went through the oedipus complex stage when they were very young. This is especially true in children who were missing a parent and grew up with a single mom or dad. An oedipus complex usually happens at a very early age. I wont go into what an oedipus complex is but you can look it up on wikipedia. I think some people claim to be gay just to get attention. Ill bet you there are people out there who claim to be gay but feel no attrction to the same sex and have never had a same sex relationship. You cannot be born gay, it is impossible. Homosexuality is dead wrong and is a sick twisted perversion of a beautiful thing. I called it what it is and have spoken the truth. Now go ahead and give me that thumbs down but you will never change the truth!

Answer 2

Yes, I believe this is starts in the womb..a person might not realize this until they are older and have been tried dating others of the opposite sex.

I don't understand why people are so close minded regarding peoples sexuality. It's not determined during puberty or maturity or by the environment you are brought up in.

It's definitely not a choice, why would someone CHOOSE to live a life that is still not accepted by most of society.

I do think there are some that do like to experiment and might not be gay, but curious. Nothing wrong with that.

It's 2007 and it's time to start accepting this as a way of life and make these people feel OK to be part of a society that accepts them for who they are and who doesn't care what they do in the bedroom..it's none of our business.

I'm not gay.. I'm a straight, open minded, non-judgmental person.

Answer 3

No one is born either straight or gay, children as you know don't have sexual attractions, it developes as we hit puberty. But I do think people are born predisposed to developing either into a gay or straight person.

And I really don't understand straight people who try to dispute inate homosexuality, don't they have anything better to do? I certainly don't go around disputing other people's sexuality because I cannot possibly imagine what is it like to be that person, therefore how can I tell them how they feel? And I expect the same respect back.

I won't tell you my own sexuality, but I know who I am, I don't know why or how, but it comes naturally to me, and did ever since i was attracted to someone for the first time romantically.

Scientists have located a few genes a combination of which is very very common among gay people (higher than random statistical probability), so there is more proof to their being a gay gene than there is for not being a gay gene.

But you have to understand, who we love isn't determined by genes alone, I know one couple where the husband came out as a transsexual after 10 years of marriage and now lives full time as a female, but him and his wife are still together, because they just truly love each other, and they live as what everyone sees a gay couple, even though she is not actually gay.

I mean as long as two people love each other and are truly happy together, should anything else really matter?

P.S. Ok.. found the answer you talked about, "thanks for the thumbs down- some people can't handle the truth I guess=)"

There is no absolute truth, you cannot possibly know what is true for another person because you are not that person. If I told you "You were not born straight! You just woke up one day and went - Hmm i think I'll be straight! And then magically became attracted to guys." You would tell me that I am wrong too, how would you feel if I told you back "Oh, you only say that because you can't handle the truth."


Oooh I'm getting thumbs down too, so I must be speaking the truth based on your logic! xD

Answer 4

There are several forces that could potentially shape a person's sexuality:

1) Genes
2) Non-genetic pre-natal influence (like mother's diet, hormone levels etc)
3) Post-natal environmental influences
4) Simple choice

I don't think the fourth plays much of a role at all (except in the sense of choosing to accept oneself, or to follow one's desire). I'm sure a few people like the idea of being gay and decide to lead a homosexual lifestyle, and I know that some people who are attracted to their own sex decide to marry someone of the opposite sex and be conventional. In both cases, the results can be very traumatic. The fact that these people so often realise they've made the wrong choice implies that there's far more to sexuality than mere choice.

So what is it? Certainly most people claim not to remember 'becoming' gay, straight or whatever, so most people's sexuality is probably pretty much shaped early on, although it obviously continues to develop over a lifetime.

But is it mostly environmental or pre-natal? And if it's pre-natal, is it mostly genetic?

Who knows? This is an empirical question which needs proper scientific research to answer it. But one of the biggest problems is that people seem to think of sexuality as being more or less binary: gay or straight.

This is rubbish. Sexuality is highly complex. Why do you think there are so many people on here asking, 'Am I gay?' Some of them may be entirely attracted to the same sex and just don't want to admit it. Most just haven't realised that sexuality is rarely clear cut. I'm certain that more people than would admit it are occasionally attracted to members of their own sex. For some people (like me) gender is more or less irrelevant; others might like men, but prefer women. Even an entirely heterosexual man isn't attracted to all women. This variation in tastes is as much a part of sexuality as gender-preference.

Sexuality is probably best thought of not as a scale or a fork, but as a colour chart. And a person's position on that colour chart is almost certainly a complex combination of genes and experience.

To say that sexuality is a choice is to ignore the experience of most people; to say that it's all genetic vastly underestimates the role of environmental influence on shaping a person's psyche.

Answer 5

Perhaps "believe" is the problem -- I think letting science answer this question without ambiguity will end the "problem" of everyone taking their own silly beliefs so seriously (and , thus, given you thumbs down for having an opinion that differs from theirs).

Based on the evidence so far -- I suspect science will come to the conclusion that homosexual preferences are genetic but homosexual orientation is a nature/nurture hybrid.

But just watch the people bash me for making that simple observation.

Answer 6

How much choice goes into being born a shemale?

I believe homosexuality is a much milder form of the same biological problem.

Answer 7

I had a boyfriend a long time ago that ended up being gay.
After I got over the heartbreak of breaking up, we ended up eventually becoming good friends.
I remember Richard sobbing and railing to God one night, SCREAMING at God in frustration over the fact that he liked men. He was sobbing so hard that there was snot coming out of his nose, and he was bawling like a baby.
There is no way in hell that you can convince me that man chose to be gay.

Cheers,

Christina http://myspace.com/mikepattonisgod

(Now, what kind of piece of sh*t human being would give me a thumbs DOWN for telling you about the anguish and torture this man felt in his life? People are no damn good.)

Answer 8

I really do. Not too many people know, but I have a son who is gay. Iasked him when he knew he was and he said as long as he could remember. He also said that is was not a choice that he made beause he knew the hard life that it would lead to, as far as others and feelings about stereotypes. He is one of the best people in the world.

Answer 9

Well, I certainly never choose to be gay. God, in His infinate wisdom, made me gay, and has since revealed that to me. I have become a better Christian now that I have accepted his gift of homosexuality.

Answer 10

Yeah people are born gay, if people disagree I would love the information to back their statement.

Answer 11

god made me very jovial and i have queer tendincies but im married 17 yearsto a great woman lol jay