My husband went out recently which he'll do on occassion. He only did this to clear his mind, everyone is allowed to blow off steam after arguments. However, on Thanksgiving he was out for 15 hours and didn't tell me where he was going or even talked to me to say where he was or anything. He was with a friend. Two nights later he decides to go out with the same guy for 12 more hours. He fell asleep over there cause he was mad. Now he's wanting to go out this weekend again, and he's about to deploy for 15 mos, he may never see me or his son again. He also promised not to do these things again, but went back on his word. I want him to have a social life, but to me this doesn't seem right at all. We've been having problems and considering divorce--not that this is the cause, its a number of things..
I've asked him to spend the last 5 days/nights with me and our son but he says im not respecting his wishes. In this circumstance am i asking too much now? Maybe should just end things now?
2007-11-29 11:21:03 · 6 answers · asked by Hawai'i 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Your husband may be stressed about leaving, but if you are already having problems and considering divorce, it could easily be TOO much of a social life that is causing the arguments and his bad attitude.
It is one thing to have a bowling night with the guys or a Saturday golf game, but it is quite another to stay out all night and then use lame excuses to justify it.
It isn't that you don't respect his wishes, it is that he doesn't respect you or his family responsibilities. I think I would want to have a talk before he leaves about our prospects for the future and what is really going on during all these late night outings.
2007-11-29 11:29:12 · answer #1 · answered by ScSpec 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is not right. He does not respect his position as a husband and a dad..But, there MUST be a reason why he is avoiding family life.. It could be any of the following or a combination.. Just ask yourself and see what you can do to make family life more pleasant.
1) You are constantly nagging him
2) He wants time out because he hates house chores
3) He is a gay
4) Sex life at home sucks
5) He is worried about the deployment and he is avoiding you so that you won't know his worries
2007-11-29 19:28:51 · answer #2 · answered by AdultMale 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all, if you are seriously considering ending the relationship now, after you had a child with this child, you are crazier than him.
You need to get your insecurities under control and start thinking rationally about this relationship.
You are right in the respect that he should be spending his last few days with you. But, by getting all freaked out and emotional all you are doing is driving him further away.
You cannot control him, but you can control yourself. Pull yourself together and try to have a rational conversation with him while keeping all emotions in perspective.
Good luck. Tell him I am proud he is serving for my freedom.
2007-11-29 19:50:02 · answer #3 · answered by box of rain 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to leave your husband because he do not care about you at all. My husband would NEVER leave for that long period of time and expect to come back home and live with me. come on 15 and 12 hours . .I bet he don't spend that much time with you.
2007-11-29 19:41:39 · answer #4 · answered by LivingMyLife 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He does not car about you or you son forget about him and file for divorce while he is on deployment he is going to have enough time to be with his friends were he is going to be he also might have another women have you thought about this.
2007-11-29 19:28:24 · answer #5 · answered by Lost 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I am sorry to say this, but this selfish man is cheating on you. Get out now.. Good Luck
2007-11-29 20:05:40 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋