Maternal Instinct?

Question

I am currently 29 weeks with my first child. I have loved this little one since the day I saw the 2 lines on the HPT! But now that it is getting closer to my due date, I am getting nervous. I feel her moving and I just think to myself, wow, she id going to be here very soon. What am I going to do? Will everything just come naturally to me? Will I be a good mom to her?

Did anyone else have these feelings? How did things go after you brought your baby home? Did everything come naturally?

I am 21, married for 3 years to my husband, so I am bringing this baby into a stable life but I am still worried.

I've never been to a party in my life, lol. I was excited when I saw the positive on the test. If it were up to my husband and I we would have had this baby as soon as we got married, but we had problems conceiving. I thought I would have a 2 year old and pregnant with my second one at this age.

Answer 1

Yes, it comes naturally. I was worried too with my 1st. During the 1st 3 days I was so concentrating on making sure I was doing everything right, I forgot to just stop and talk and go "goo goo ga ga" over my precious bundle. I read a lot and asked other moms questions when I came to something I thought I needed help with but in the end I found my own ways of doing things that worked well for both me and my daughter. She'll be 3 in January and I'm 19 weeks pregnant with a boy, so obviously, I did okay. Good luck!

Answer 2

It will come naturally! I am 33 with a 6 month old. When I was pregnant, I was thinking, I know NOTHING about babies! I have done whatever I want for so long, I am not ready for this! Even though it was a planned pregnancy and all that, towards the end, you start doubting yourself. Those feelings are completely normal. I had a complicated delivery and still was out of it for the first few days after his birth. My husband took care of him the most. But after I got home, that instinct just kicks in. You will amaze yourself and be amazed at what a great mom you are! Good luck and healthy delivery to you!!!

Answer 3

Don't worry. I was in your same situation. I was 21 and married for 3 years. I was going out partying every weekend, and most weeknights. I hung out in the wrong places with the wrong people. As soon as I saw that the test was positive (well, after I stopped crying hysterically saying, "I'm not READY!" over and over again. lol) I realized I had to calm it down and raise my baby. ANd when I came home from the hospital, I was changing diapers and getting up in the middle of the night like I've always done it. Now, my son is 14 months and I'm a PRO! You'll do fine.

Answer 4

Call it a mental cleansing/preperation. Women were made to worry about these things...to the point where you will loose sleep worrying whether the mobil will fall on the baby in the middle of the night. Trust in yourself AND your body AND your baby. Not everything will come natural, so stay in contact with other supportive moms. Your mind/body is trying to prepare you for the greatest change in your life. Give yourself time to ponder these worries, but don't let them bring you down. And you will be a good mom as long as you give this baby the best of yourself.

Answer 5

I felt the same way in the middle of the night I would just start thinking and freak out, I know this sounds weird but I would always dream that I would drop my baby, it was so weird because I would try to hold him but it was like I couldn't get a grip and he would just slide off. I think that all those dreams traumatized me cause when I saw him for the first time I was so scared of holding him but it's weird cause after you have him in your arms it just comes to you like you have been doing it for years. It is such a wonderful feeling and for me the best time to enjoy it was when I was alone with him because sometimes you feel intimidated when other mothers are around. All I can say is relax and enjoy it because it's the best thing in the world seriously just thinking about it makes me feel all mushy inside. Good luck and congrats!

Answer 6

I got really nervous with my first one too, and unfortunately everything did'nt come naturally for me, when I thought it would.
Make sure you have good support and if your in doubt dont be afraid to ask for help.
On the up side it does'nt take long to get the hang of caring for a new born, I thought when a baby came out they would automatically know how to latch on to a breast and stuff like that but many people may have different views on this topic all so.

Good Luck

Answer 7

it's totally normal to feel that way, i think everyone does, especially first time moms. most of it will come naturally to you, and the rest of it, you'll figure out as you go along. that's what i found anyway. i'm sure you'll be a great mom. if you're nervous about anything specifically, ask other female members of your family with children for advice, or even the nurses at the hospital, thats what they're there for. Good luck :)

Answer 8

I promise you, you will do an amazing job. I am 24 and had my first 3 months ago. I was also questioning my mommy skills before she came. I didnt even know how to make a bottle!! But once she was here, she lets you know everything you need to. It will all come to you. You will be a mommy your instincts will instantly kick in. Dont worry and good luck!! Congrats!!

Answer 9

i asked every mom i knew (from my 25 yr old cousin, to my granny) and got advise from everybody...there are a lot of things you think a baby already knows how to do (like breastfeed) but many babies don't know how at birth...same with mommies...there's a lot of things that will scare us the first time around (i took my baby to emergency for every slight fever, fall and vomiting spell the first year of her life) but then you learn the ropes and suddenly you feel like you 've been a mom FOREVER! now i know when to take the baby to the doctor and when to give her med's, and everything else a mom needs to know.

i really don't remember the person i was before my kids....i feel like i've always been a mother!

-hbb

Answer 10

Yes, alot of things will come naturally, but it takes alot of trial and error to become experienced. By the second time around you should be close to a pro!