I am an older woman 30ish, dating a younger man early 20's. this is new for me, and I really like him alot, he is great ! however I find him to be very unreliable, and he never follows through with plans.
This is my only complaint about him, so is this to be expected because of his age ? am I expecting to much out of a guy this young ? I mean what is normally expected from the younger man in these type of relationships..??
2007-11-29 09:55:41 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He needs to learn while he is still young how to follow through with his commitments. If he continues the pattern, he will form bad habits and continue to be this way when he is older. Maybe you can help him learn one step at a time.
2007-11-29 10:01:04 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
You should have a talk with him and see what his expectations are and tell him yours. If you have kids, you need to discuss those dynamics as well. Is he interested in a marriage or just a hook up based relationship? Just because your younger doesn't mean you don't want the same things! He may not have enough money to do all the things he wants to do for you, but financial is only one aspect of a relationship. You can always find a way to make more money but people with good character are hard to find.
2007-11-29 12:59:16 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm a 38 year old male. When I was in my early 20's I was unreliable, and foolish..but that's just how guys in their early 20's are. If you expect him to be like a man in his 30's your expectations are too high for him. If his 20's behavior is not meeting your needs, and you stay with him, you are expecting too little of yourself.
2007-11-29 10:01:27 · answer #3 · answered by I play the game 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
They say for a woman to find a man that is her age in maturity, you should look for a man that's two years to five years older than you.
That's not always true, but 20 something guys are stereotyped to be unreliable for a reason.
2007-11-29 10:00:07 · answer #4 · answered by Sarah P 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i'm 32 and my bf is 26 i'm only his 2nd gf. weve been together for 6 years he has never been anything but reliable. weve lived together for 5 years. i think its luck! i dated many unreliable guys. i've had allot of guy friends that became more reliable as they aged, as well as a few who have stayed unreliable and who have not been able to make better choices. as far as hopping this guy will change, i would not. hes probably just looking for a good time, most men at that age are not looking to commit. if you dont have any expectations you wont be dissapointed.
2007-11-29 10:15:51 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Women tend to mature a bit faster than guys. You're 30 and he's early 20's. So realistically speaking, that means that you're 30 and he like.......12 lol. What makes you want a guy so young? (well, besides the obvious :-)
Younger guys are really nice to look at, thats for sure, but when it comes down to it, I would much rather settle down with one who is older than me
2007-11-29 10:38:16 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes you are expecting too much. He will never be fully reliable and even worse faithful. Men that age are not completely done growing up. They are fun to play with but not for a relationship. Need to end it now and find someone a bit closer to your age.
2007-11-29 10:12:08 · answer #7 · answered by Monica B 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think a younger man has more benefits from dating the older woman than the woman. i was 26 and dated a 19 year old for about 3 years. he was too immature.
2007-11-29 10:02:35 · answer #8 · answered by me 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
His age may have a bit to do with it, however, he isn't a child, so he should be held accountable and be more reliable. A good friend of mine married a woman almost 30 years older than he is and they get on great. He, however is very mature for his age.
2007-11-29 09:59:53 · answer #9 · answered by AsianPersuasion :) 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I just got off the phone with my friend that was dating a younger guy and she tried real hard to make it work, but it didn't. So think long and hard because if you have these questions now, it probably won't get better. maybe talk with him about it. Tell him about your concerns. If he is as in to you maybe he would be willing to change these things. I do have another friend that has been with a younger guy for about 10 years now and it works for them.
2007-11-29 10:02:58 · answer #10 · answered by Sweet V 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should expect him to act his age an dont forget guys mature later than females. I'm sure your expecting too much of him and this, most likely , will be the downfall of the relationship.
2007-11-29 10:01:05 · answer #11 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋