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I live about an hour an half away from my hometown. My life is still based on my hometown.. so thats where all my friends are. I feel like I am loosing my friends left and right to drugs, alcohol, boyfriends, pregnancy... etc. One of my bestfriends has become an addict to Meth about a year ago. She wasn't a heavy user till about 3 months ago... She is not the same person she poured her heart out to me the other day and said she wanted help but she doesn't know how to get it? I honestly don't think she wants the help. She is up for days... She says being on "meth" she can eat & sleep. Thats not right. She is horribly into it and it scares me. I want to get her help but I just don't know how. She has a son in which her mother takes care of. I keep in touch with her mom an her mom is just as confused as myself. She is loosing everything. Is she too bad into it to not bounce back?

Answer 1

Get her help immedeatly, Meth in my opinion is the wort drug imaginable, and putting the life of the child at risk is so much worse. She'll accecpt your help if you go through with it, be strict, and don't give up on her. I'll pray for you both, God Bless!

Answer 2

Here's the problem - and I feel your pain as my son is a heroin addict. Don't get me wrong - he has a brother raised exactly the same way and he's doing extremely well. (I get bashed for being a bad mom when I ask drug questions about my son) -- although I know the truth. The ONLY thing that will HELP a drug addict is NOT be there for them until they fix their problem. THE REASON I SAY THIS is because unless the drug addict seeks the help, you can't stop them -- ever. It HAS to be up to them. What happens is when you get wrapped up in a drug addict's life -- it will destroy you too....trust me on this. I've experienced it for YEARS AND YEARS. I haven't seen or talked to my son (he's 29) in over a year and I have NO CLUE where he is. This DOES make me sad BUT at the same time, I also know I am going to come home and the TV and microwave, etc. will still be there. You can NOT trust a drug addict -- they lie -- they'll lie about if it's raining outside (I mean stupid stuff for no reason)......I do feel your pain and I know this is your friend but if you let it drag you down, you WILL go down WITH IT. They "all" SAY they want help......but.....check out the show on the A & E channel called "Intervention" -- it is amazing. I watch it and every singe person that is addicted to heroin (for instance - he'd take anything) -- is EXACTLY like him.

Answer 3

How tough for you. Unless you genuinely think you can help her (without her getting you in trouble or stealing/borrowing from you so as to further her habit) it would be wise to stay away from her. Meth addiction is absolutely horrible and it's users will stoop to ANY level to get their fix.
Without you holding a strong background as a therapist no amount of talking will be of any use. This situation calls for professional help and the MOST you can try to do is guide her to it!

Answer 4

tell her about all ur good memories the day her son was born sitting in her arms....what yall did to gether....mabey some great accomplishments..ect....but now ur not the same ur hurting ur family and friends most of all urself...we want to make better memories with ur some and in the future get to pack his lunch for school help with school projects go to church sing and laugh but its not going to be that way untill u stip remember when u never had meth nothing was wrong it will be hard to stop girl but it WILL go ayway u have to be strong dont lie on ur deathbed saying u should have stopped when u can still do it now cuz there is ppl out there who luv u and u got to see it.....but most of all do it for yourself

Answer 5

Yes, you and her mom cannot save her now. It's too late. Find the perfect specialist for meth withdrawal and a rehab clinic that is for real. Don't let her use you or believe her lies because you will only be helping her to die. Find the closest expert now if you want to try to help her.

Answer 6

no it's never too late
if she is addicted to meth but she told you she needs help , she is serious

she knows something is wrong and needs you to support her

find out if there are any places in your town that offer help to people addicted to drugs and go with your friend

call a drug hotline
here's the number for the national drug hotline 1-800-HELP-111

Answer 7

I agree with jimmy set up an intervention, and get all her friends and family to tell she is doing is hurting everyone around her speacialy her son. The thing is she has to hit rock buttom before she can really decide for her self, so this intervention could do that. Good luck and hope everything goes well.

Answer 8

Prognosis for Meth recovery is not very high however, there are many places that can help. Most cities have places that you can take her for help. Call your local city hall for listings of rehab units. Just understand that recovery is up to her, all you can do is support her in her recovery.

Answer 9

I personally believe that this cause is in vane. You have moved on and you must try to stay away from those influences that will bring you down. People on drugs or alchol must admit themselves for treatment for the process to work. It appears that she is beyond hope, but still trying to bring you into her world. Give it one more try and contact the proper health agency in your town for more advice. Take care that you don't get caught in this problem.

Answer 10

This answer is totally honest and not meant as a joke at all.

I have had many friends who were and are drug addicts, the only way they change is if they want to change. NOTHING you do can change them. Unfortunately your best option is to stay away because when people become addicted to drugs they tend to hurt the ones closest to them.

I am sorry for you as this is a harsh thing to do, but unfortunately it is the only thing you can do. Your friend has to find a reason to change and has to want to change herself. Until she does that, she is dangerous.