I really like crossdressing its fun and i feel more relaxed. Is there any way i could get her to let me do this or should i just learn to live with not crossdressing ever.
2007-11-29 09:18:21 · 31 answers · asked by confussed 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
I had an ex that cross dressed and think I can help a bit.
Basically, if she does not accept your cross dressing now, it is not very likely that she ever will. There is probably not much you can do to change that.
I do know that cross dressing is not something you can "just stop doing." If you do, you will find yourself under increased stress until you can cross dress.
Many cross dressers who hid it from their wives usually end up divorced. When the wife discovers the cross dressing she feels quite betrayed and the results can be devistating for a relationship.
As much as you probably don't want to hear this, it is probably time for you to move on. There are other wonderful women out there who will accept you for who you are.
My ex remarked one time (he would be 48 now) that of all the relationships he had since high school, only one girlfriend did not accept it.
Hang in there, there is someone who will accept you for your cross dressing. . .
Hope this helps
2007-11-29 09:26:00 · answer #1 · answered by Clara Nett 4 · 5⤊ 1⤋
Crossdress Me
2016-12-18 04:36:56 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she cannot accept that part of you, then she does NOT truly love you. Sit down, and talk with her. Tell her that this is apart of you, and that if she loves you she wont try to stop you. Even if she is not around when you do it, she should not try to stop you from doing something you love. Tell her that you do not want her wearing pants. And that by telling you that you cannot crossdress, is the same as telling her that she cannot wear pants.
Remember, not too long ago only men wore pants, and women wore dresses. That was a fact of life. But remember now that even before that men and women both wore "dresses". Look at the Ancient Greeks, Romans, and Egyptians. None of them wore pants.
Heck, even Jesus didn't wear pants.
2007-11-29 10:38:41 · answer #3 · answered by Ayana 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Do whatever you want but be respectful to your gf.
If your wearing her clothes she might not like that part.Ask her if she'll take you shopping (as long as your paying).this could be a fun way to get her into it and you into something a little more your size maybe (no offence).
She might not get into it ever and thats ok too.she could always be a friend but maybe not a "girlfriend" lifes too short to worry about pleasing everyone else all the time and ther are plenty of great people out there you havent met yet....
so go for it!
2007-11-29 13:13:20 · answer #4 · answered by Haylee k 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Find a gf that enjoys your crossdressing. It's okay to do it alone, but when you can share it with someone who is special to you. it is fantastic! Giving up crossdressing is going to ruin your relationship. I'm sure she does something you don't like, and you may ask her to give it up since you gave up c/d...
Find another gf!!!
2007-12-03 03:55:19 · answer #5 · answered by Movinonup 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want to cross-dress once in a while, then do it. If your girlfriend isn't into cross-dressing, then you need to find a girl that will dress you up as a girl, but don't worry if you don't find a girl like that right away, take your time & you'll find the girl that will not only let you dress-up as a girl, but she'll help you dress-up as a girl.
jk
2007-12-01 23:57:14 · answer #6 · answered by J 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Please explain what you mean by "is there any way I could get her to let me do this" - because honestly I'm having a problem getting my head wrapped around this. You do NOT need anyone's permission!!
This is a part of who you are. Do not be ashamed. Be proud. Be self-loving. She needs to either accept it or move on. If she can't accept it, then I suggest you find someone who will.
2007-11-29 09:39:15 · answer #7 · answered by behrmark 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In high school my longtime boyfriend loved to wear my clothes. I was a bit uncomfortable (okay...REALLY uncomfortable!) when he mentioned it at first, but when I saw how much pleasure it brought him I had a lot of fun with it too. Maybe your girlfriend will come around if you just gently nudge her a little and start off slowly. After all, we're talking about something totally harmless. There's no real risk involved, just potential for fun!
Please don't deny yourself the simple pleasures in life for someone else!
Cross dressing can be really fun and really sexy. Bring your girl over to the dark side. I don't want to bash her and say she isn't really the right girl for you because I think maybe she just needs a chance to get used to the idea like I did. Meeting someone you really care for is tough and there's no need to throw her away like yesterday's news...yet.
2007-11-29 09:23:13 · answer #8 · answered by mycathouse 6 · 6⤊ 2⤋
Hm, not much you could do to change her mind, I don't think, unless you know why she won't let you. If it's because she associates it with homosexuality, for example, perhaps you could tell her that statistically, most male crossdressers are actually straight.
2007-11-29 09:26:34 · answer #9 · answered by Sam K 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Why do you need your girlfriend's permission to crossdress? Can't you do it without her around?
But anyways, if it makes you happy, she should respect that. And if she doesn't, maybe you should find someone who does...
2007-11-29 09:28:44 · answer #10 · answered by dragonfly_soup 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋